Part I - Banter
I've grown to have a few good friends over my 6+ months on AR... I have written and spoken to a few on more than one occasion as well. I have a high degree of sincerity and passion in my life for all that I do. I came from a family of 5 kids. 4 boys and 1 girl. We were competitive and loved and for the most part turned out as normal as a family of 7 could be. TBut we would need releases to keep our sanity. So...with four siblings we found that a quick wit and a sharp tongue is a good thing for us to have.
My sister, brought to my attention about 3 weeks ago the fact that she doesn't like people that can't banter. Bantering is the ability to just talk nonsense off the top of your head and having the other person picking up and going along with the conversation knowing full and well that the ongoing conversation is just for fun.
My best friend died suddently 2 years ago. He was young, no body fat, low key and a great looking dude. However, one of his most endearing qualities was the fact that he could banter any time anywhere. I'd pick up the phone and call him. the conversation would go like this...."ring, ring"
(Joe picks up) on the background you hear "Michelle stop that" (Michelle is my wife).
Me: Michelle? Joe, are you at my house alone with my wife?
Joe: No...I would never be all alone at your house while your not there all alone with your wife
Me: Joe...I'm starting to feel uncomfortable here. I think I'm going to go home and check on her.
Joe: No, no, no....there's really no need to go home....she's great. I mean, I'm sure she's fine..not that I would be making a move on your wife...
Me: I didn't say anything about you making a move on my wife...I gotta go home now....
The conversation would digress until one of us would just start cracking up. We would do that all the time with each other. Now I try to banter with other friends ever since and no one comes close. That abilty is an ability to mesh with any personality out there. If you can think on the fly, then your business will always be rocking.
PART II - SARCASM
I really don't have use for people who are sarcastic in life. In other words, they live with a bitter edge. But people who have a well timed sarcastic comment or post are awesome. My partner in the office and I are serious all the time. But when one person needs the other for something serious, one often responds wiht a pointed, sarcastic remark.
My bud, Ginger Wilcox, Ginger's Marin County Real Estate Blog, and myself have developed a very shallow and superficial bond over the months that we've gotten to know each other....kidding. But I admire her for her ability to dish with a well timed pointed smart ass comment that will put a smile on my purposed, driven, type A focused personality. My buddy and friend, Ian Anderson, Ian Anderson - Ormond Beach Florida Real Estate has the sarcastic DNA in him that makes him somewhat endearing.
My three top realtor partners are so focused and so purposed, and two are top 10 realtors within our state. The ability to rip off a good one liner almost seems to be mandatory if you're going to the top in this business or at least if you want to work with me...humility coupled with a smart assed nature make me laugh and I love laughing.
I have developed great friendships outside of the business with certain clients who I've instantly connected with through the quick wit and sarcasm.
Now it's important for me to note that there are bitter people that can't say a positive line to save their lives. I'm talking about the purposed, positive and disciplined professional. I think that it's a great ability to think on the fly. I think it's a great release, to just rip off a great slam to a great friend just to get a rise out of them.
What are your thoughts???? Seinfeld had a great group of friends who truly seemed to love one another, but their gift of banter and the gift of sarcasm makes them connected and endeared to each other.
What are your thoughts? Am I whacked or am I right on?
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