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Ignorance is Bliss or is It?

By
Real Estate Agent with EXP Realty, LLC

 Tonight after finishing an enjoyable dinner in downtown Colorado Springs, I walked past a man sitting in the dark on the side of a building.  It was about 40 degrees outside.  He had a terrible cough. I assumed he was homeless. I walked by and acted as if I didn't see him.

 

 Trying to Have a Sense of PurposeWhy would I do that?

 

If I don't see him does that mean that I don't have to feel guilty for not offering to help him somehow?

 

If I don't see him maybe I can pretend like Colorado Springs doesn't have a problem with homeless people.

 

If I don't see him maybe I won't start wondering why I spend so much time trying to help homeless animals that are in a clean warm building with animal beds, meals & medical care.  

 

 On the other hand, I walked by a human being and pretended like I didn't even see him.  

 

Three baskets

 

The first photograph was taken in March 2011. The second photograph was taken in Oct 2012. The man in the first picture was very old and almost blind. The man in the second photo was much younger but he had some major mental issues. I took these photographs from a distance because I didn't want them to see me taking the pictures. I didn't want them to know that I saw them.....  

 

 Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.

 Coach John Wooden

 

There is much in life that I can't fix especially when it comes to the homeless population. 

 

Although it is important to always use caution and be aware that some people are simply bad, some people have drug issues or mental issues that could make them dangerous; a person has a fundamental need to be recognized and valued. 

In this case, I could have at least acknowledged his presence and said, "I hope your cough goes away soon."  

 

 

Sincerely,

Sondra Meyer

 

Pete Xavier
Investments to Luxury - Pacific Palisades, CA
Outstanding Agent Referrals-Nationwide
I was out for a walk the other day when the management of a local supermarket offered a bowl of hot stew, I enjoyed the stew but they must of thought I'm homeless because they always see me around. Have several cars but just like to walk a lot.
Jan 26, 2013 01:33 PM
Sondra Meyer:
EXP Realty, LLC - Corpus Christi, TX
See It. Experience It. Live It.

Pete, well that was nice of them.  Maybe they thought you were homeless or maybe they are excellent marketers hoping to get you addicted to the hot stew.   With all the cheese samples that Whole Foods Grocery gives me they must think I'm a mouse.   The trap is that I buy it. 

 

Jan 26, 2013 01:45 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth
Dealing with the homeless is a delicate situation. I think you might feel better in a group. I have given them money and bought them a meal and talked with them. They are worthy of respect and dignity but it pays to be cautious with drug, alcohol, mental heath and crime issues. As a woman extra caution. Do not feel guilty just do your best and use common sense. Perhaps band with others to help out particularly in the cold.
Jan 26, 2013 01:58 PM
Brian Rayl
Home Value Leads - Highland Park, TX
Active Agent and Co-founder Of Home Value Leads

Sondra, could this be an opportunity? Perhaps you could organize a weekend soup kitchen. Spend $10 on a loaf of bread and some lunch meat and make sandwitches one afternoon to passout. Maybe volunteer at a shelter. There are so many that are needy that any little bit helps. Caution is always necessary, but compassion is even more necessary.

Jan 26, 2013 03:52 PM
Wika Hutchinson
Eugene, OR
Broker, CRIS, SFR, CDPE
Sondra, there were times when I pretended as if I didn't see a person (that appeared to be homeless) because I sensed bad feelings. I think it's good to be cautious especially when we're in the dark & alone. I hope those homeless people get to sleep somewhere warmer when the weather gets really cold out there.
Jan 26, 2013 06:42 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Sondra-I think you have experienced what many of us have. We do wonder why people end up homeless and it is easier to pretend that doesn't happen here in the greatest country in the world but sadly it does. Some choose to stay there for their own reasons others just need a helping hand up not OUT. I would be afraid to approach anyone by myself but acknowledgement and approaching them is two different things. There is a lot of scary people in this world. When I volunteered at a non-profit organization I found out how many homeless vets there were in our country and that is very sad. Thousands of them. I packed up many a box to send to them thru the organization I worked for. There are many ways to help without risking getting hurt. You are a good loving and caring woman. Don't forget that.

Jan 27, 2013 12:27 AM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

I know I want to help, and there are organizations that you donate to. It could be dangerous to approach some of these poeple.

Jan 27, 2013 12:28 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I'd at least say a blessing if he were sleeping... :)

 

Love and light,

Laura

Jan 27, 2013 05:43 AM
Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker

We have a large homeless population here in Del Norte County. about 800 with a general population of only about 20,000. Mostly, they are very productive, keep the area clean of anything recyclable. They have camps in the woods. We have a lot of national and regional parks here, so it is made for them. We also have a lot of services for them so there is no need to beg for food or clothing. In fact, you see few begging, only maybe a couple around shopping centers. Here it is a lifestyle.

Jan 30, 2013 07:09 AM