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Do you hesitate to ask for help?

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Do you hesitate to ask for help?

 

From time to time, all of us need assistance with personal or business issues that impact our daily lives.  What stops us for asking for the needed help?  Is it fear, vanity, pride or just simple reluctance to ask for help?   Within the ActiveRain network, we have the benefit of designated Ambassadors that have agreed to share their experience and expertise with other members.   This spring is a good time for a fresh approach.  Let’s resolve to ask for assistance, without hesitation, when we need it.

The following is a timely article by Alicia Forest.  Alicia allows use of her article in blogs as long as her complete blurb is included.

 

Asking for Help: The Fastest Path to Business Success
By Alicia Forest, MBA
The Business Shifter™

I don't know why but some of us seem to be hard-wired to go it alone! I know that my tendency is to figure it out for myself before I will ask for help. Yet over the last few years, I've learned to embrace that asking for help is not a reflection on my inability to go it alone, but in fact a reflection of how much I think what I do and who I am is worthy of receiving help.

Here are 3 simple ways to ask for help in your business that will move you towards success with much more ease and grace:

1. Inner Circle Support

I'm blessed in that I have a husband who supports the work I do and the business I've been creating since its inception in 2001. Yet I know this is a hot button for a lot of entrepreneurs, that they don't feel they have the spousal or partner support they crave.

While I don't have THE answer to getting your significant other onboard, I did have a personal aha that I will share that may help a bit.

The bottom line is that it doesn't matter if your spouse, partner, parent or anyone else significant in your life thinks what you do matters. It only matters that YOU think it matters.

Logically, you know you can't change people, only your response to people. You may wish you felt more support than you do, but wishing won't make it so. What will change your feeling is if you change how you feel about what you perceive to be their lack of support. If you remember that it only matters that YOU know what you do matters, that will make all the difference.

2. Peer Support

Whether you invest in a group with leader or gather your best business friends together on a regular basis, give yourself the gift of peer support in some way. It's critical for ongoing help but even more important during those times when you're between private mentor support.

At an event I attended recently, I was surrounded by colleagues who had become friends over the years, and it was very clear to me that the support I was receiving from those friends was more important that the actual content I had come to learn. But if I hadn't reached out asking for that support, I wouldn't have had the critical shifts I needed to experience at this point in my business to move it forward.

3. Outside Support


Sometimes we need support for our business from places outside it altogether. Whether it's engaging in a favorite sport, hobby or activity, or meditating or journaling, taking time off and completely unplugging, or having a conversation with a supportive friend who doesn't have anything to do with what we do for work and just might have that unique perspective to shift ours that we need.

Where in your life can you ask for support that will help your business?

And that's the point - to ask for the support we need. Take it from a former lone ranger... once you start asking and stay open to receiving, miracles can happen.

Designing a business that you love around the life you want is one of the pillars on which I stand and teach. Learn how to do this for YOUR business (and life) at my annual Online Business Breakthrough Workshop HERE.


I'd love to hear your thoughts on this here...

© 2013 Alicia Forest International | All rights reserved.

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Photograph by Roy Kelley using a Canon PowerShot G11 camera.

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Roy Kelley, Retired, Former Associate Broker, RE/MAX Realty Group

Gaithersburg, Maryland  

Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Roy,

Asking for help is one of the toughest things for most people...we are all conscious of how people view us when we ask for help.  A

Apr 28, 2013 02:45 AM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

I have several good friends that live close to me that are real estate agents. With the recent situation I've had with a seller, I used my friends for support.

Apr 28, 2013 02:48 AM
Judith Parker
ProStead Realty - Charlotte, NC
CRS, GRI, CMRS, Charlotte, NC

Good afternoon Roy, having a group of peers to turn to to vent and ask for support is so important.  No man is an island!!  Have a great afternoon!!

Apr 28, 2013 03:21 AM
Anita Clark
Coldwell Banker Access Realty ~ 478.960.8055 - Warner Robins, GA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in Warner Robins GA

Roy: Everyone needs help once in awhile and knowing where you can go to get needed support helps a lot.

Apr 28, 2013 03:41 AM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

Some of us are better than others asking for help. I was helping a friend sort through some financial issues and she in turned asked for more help for me to accompany her to meet with the financial sources. I was deeply honored she asked me.

Apr 28, 2013 04:00 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

It is always good to receive your feedback.  Reach out to offer assistance and have an outstanding week.

 

Peony, Kentlands, Spring Flowers IMG_0882

Photograph by Roy Kelley using a Canon PowerShot G11 camera.

Roy and Dolores Kelley Photographs

Apr 28, 2013 04:12 AM
Barb & Sal Dragotta
Macomb, MI
Macomb County Michigan

Roy, so true and so very helpful that you did published today.  You are a person who is so tuned into
others.  One can always know that words of support, advice, & thoughtful suggestions will appear in your postings.  Am certain that Dolores is your "rock" at those times when you are in need.  Thanks!

Barb 

Apr 28, 2013 04:43 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

As a young woman, I used to think that I needed to "go it alone." What a silly mind-set. Fortunately, I out grew that attitude and have no problem asking for HELP!!! Lol.

Apr 28, 2013 05:10 AM
Pat & Steve Pribisko
Keller Williams Greater Cleveland West - Westlake, OH

Roy, this is an excellent blog.  The article by Alicia Forest adds to your blog.  I had been one of those do it alone people.  As I have aged, I realize that the road is much easier when you don't travel it alone.

Apr 28, 2013 07:23 AM
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services Inc - Gulf Breeze, FL
Buyers Agent 800-309-3414 Pace and Gulf Breeze,Fl.

Thanks for a helpful post Roy seems like Alicia has it going on.

Apr 28, 2013 09:48 AM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thanks for the post. I often ask for help from my inner circle and am always willing to help them as well.

Apr 28, 2013 09:08 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Your comments are very much appreciated.  Have an outstanding week.

 

Lilies, Kentlands, Spring Flowers IMG_0877

Photograph by Roy Kelley using a Canon PowerShot G11 camera.

Roy and Dolores Kelley Photographs

Apr 28, 2013 09:23 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thanks so much for your comments. It is always good to hear from you.

Jul 21, 2015 11:29 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

We have another chilly day in Maryland. Have a great day and a most productive week.

Apr 10, 2016 04:43 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

We have a beautiful sunny morning in Kentlands and I am heading out for a photowalk.

May 20, 2016 12:33 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

We have another beautiful day in Kentlands. Dolores will be heading to the golf course. Have a great day and an outstanding week.

Jun 13, 2016 10:22 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Thursday morning to all. Take care if live in an area with winter storm conditions.

Feb 09, 2017 06:01 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Your comments and your continued support are very much appreciated.

May 12, 2017 03:36 AM