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Thought for the day. You can stay! You must go!

By
Managing Real Estate Broker

 

How much better our lives would be if we always kept those who make us happy close to us and stayed far away from those that didn’t.

How does it make you feel when someone asks how you are, but obviously couldn't care less about your answer? How do you feel when someone, who says they care about you, belittles your efforts or puts you down?

If you are like most people, things like this hurt your feelings. But did you know that if it happens enough, it could also damage your self-esteem?  It is hard to maintain a high opinion of yourself when those who are closest to you are always trying to pull you down. Of course, the reason they do so in the first place is because of their own poor self-opinion, not because there is anything wrong with you.

Do your best to stay away from these kinds of people - the ones who are always evaluating how you look, how well you do things, how moral you are, how witty you seem, and letting you know that you never quite measure up.

I have found that the best people to associate with are those who do two important things at the same time. They act as a mirror that reflects your good points while accepting you just as you are. They also expect excellence from you and continually encourage you to use your full potential. In other words, they see the good in you that sometimes you don't even see, and they tell you about it, often.

These are the people who bring out the greatness in others and these are the people you want to make a regular part of your life. Who are those people in your life? Who are the people you need to avoid?

Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

Everyone walks up to you (me included) and says hey how ya doing. Do they really mean it? It seems almost as the same as when you engage in conversation with someone very casually its usually about the weather.

I am lucky that there are a few people who really care about me who I cross paths with and really mean what they say when they shot the breeze with you. Great and very true post Richard and Beth.

Jun 17, 2013 09:39 PM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Those who try to belittle or put you down are to be pitied for the lack of their own self esteem.  Never could they make me feel less of myself or bring me down.  They have an issue to deal with, not me.

Jun 17, 2013 09:42 PM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Beth, One of the overlooked perks of our business is we get to decide who we'll work with, and for how long.  Someone starts sucking the joy out of life, we can decide to walk away.  That choice is often not present in regular corporate life.

Jun 17, 2013 10:08 PM
Beth and Richard Witt
New York, NY
The best Retired Brokers !!!!

Hi Guys... I love your comments... they are really good...  You can all stay!!!

Happy Day

Jun 17, 2013 10:59 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

I want to join the party. If I didn't mean it, I wouldn't say it. I would also appreciate the same in return. We will always see the same with this one.

Jun 18, 2013 10:21 AM
Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona - Orlando, FL
Keller Williams Land Luxury Division Specialist

So if we follow this great advice above, could this be the reason for the high divorce rate in America?

rather than love all and serve all, we choose who wish to work with or stay married too?

I go back to the bible when divorce had to be justified before you were granted a bill of divorcement and I believe this same principle must apply in business.

We are blessed with a talent and a great career adn I make it my mission to share it with as many as possible and I will do it for a $300 deal or a $3,000,000 deal. 

To me they are all important. 

Jun 18, 2013 01:46 PM