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Should EVERYTHING Be Aired in Public?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792

ImageChef.com - Custom comment codes for MySpace, Hi5, Friendster and more   Recently I became familiar with a website that I find questionable and would like to have your honest, professional opinion about.  Of course, I realize that there are all kinds of strange, bizarre websites out there in blogosphere world and some may come and go...

Sacramento Channel 3 news reported on a website that ultimately could have a devastating result on neighborhoods, in my opinion.  Some may feel it is a joke. Some may think it's good to let your feelings out no matter what.

The website for reporting a rotten neighbor, in my opinion is an irresponsible maneuver on the part of those trying to make a buck on the neighborhood's back.  No, they charge for reporting bad behavior but as we all know, they obviously are or will be getting advertising money. 

I took a look at the website and as usual those who want to get their names (rather their statements) in print, or consider this to be a big joke, or are out for revenge seem to sign as anonymous. This to me is not only irresponsible but down right cowardliness.

It doesn't take rocket science to figure out that negative and possibly false information can ruin a neighborhood. This can, in my opinion effect every person anywhere close to the negative comments being published. It is nationwide, so watch out, if it grows and appeals to the masses.

If you think the sub-prime real estate market has hurt the value of a homejust wait for more of these money hungry websites to pop-up. We have seen the same type of websites pop-up to hurt Realtors. And of course, there are some "bad" Realtors just like there are "bad" neighbors. But, unfortunately, the people who write gibberish to hurt others never sign their real name and the website junkie who started the website is laughing all the way to the bank. This isn't about trying to help the public, this is about money, in my opinion!

The public has enough sense to check out a neighborhood during the day, at night and on weekends, I hope and pray. If it's really all that bad, it should be obvious to home buyers. And furthermore, that is just one person's opinion and may not be something that would bug another person.

I happened to notice when checking this irresponsible website out that there is also evidence of racial prejudice and in my opinion, slanderous.  I did see where the reader could report the statement like the one that I read that was racially motivated.

It seems to me that what we need is a website that would help neighbors get along, be able to problem solve.

  • What do you think?
  • Is it any big deal?
  • What would your neighbor say about you?
  • Do you care if there are a lot of negative remarks about your neighborhood?

I realize that we seem to live in a negatively media driven world and sensationalism sells but I'd rather see more of us ban together to get along. 

Is that too "Father Knows Best," in this day? Oh, dear...how many of you even know what Father Knows Best was?

Maybe, it's time to read "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten."  Think before you ever write negative information about your neighborhood or anyone else's neighborhood or for that matter, anyone.

For the enjoyment and a little nostalgia, enjoy... 

 

 

Comments (73)

Rebecca Levinson, Real Estate Marketing and Online Advertising Consultant
Real Skillz-Clear Marketing for Your Real Estate Vision - Lake Geneva, WI

I have seen and actually wrote about this site some months ago.  It is people complaining about their neighbors who are drug dealers, wife beaters, etc.

There are sooo many sites out there.  Used to be more frequently if I typed in a wrong domain, it would automatically go to a porn site. 

Nice thing about the internet is the little red fox in the upper right hand corner with the "x".  I don't like it, I can click it and forget about it.

Different strokes for different folks.  And everyone is different. 

Feb 18, 2008 04:01 PM
Dawn Rodriguez
HomeRun Title - Hollywood, FL
HomeRun Title - Title Insurance Company

I commented on someones blog about this. They believed it was humorous. My opinion was different. So many people in this world love to "GOSSIP" and make "PRESUMPTIONS" about others. Or they don't really care for someone and they make up lies strictly because they don't want to stand alone in their battle against the person. Those people are what I like to call "COWARDS".

Unless you have a setup in your house like the movie "SLIVER", you really don't know what or who lives behind those doors.

 

Feb 18, 2008 11:06 PM
Mitchell J Hall
Manhattan, NY
Lic Associate RE Broker - Manhattan & Brooklyn
Silly site. I just checked it out. Someone in my neighborhood is complaining about some building staffs hogging parking spaces by taking up two parking spaces so a space is available for their friends. The thread went back and fourth with name calling. IMHO it would be much easier to just call the police. I think a ticket or two would nip it in the bud.
Feb 19, 2008 12:23 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Lynda,thank you. It's nice to be back ... a little bit at a time. I didn't realize anyone else had written about this and must admit that I was horrified when I saw this on our news station recently. In fact, just last night someone from our area had been written about and they happened to have a day-care center which with erroneous information printed could have a negative impact on their business. The irresponsible website developer of R_tt_n   N_ig_bor took the that remark off his website due to TV pressure. They did have a lawyer interviewed who shared that the cost of litigation for most be would too expensive.

I guess there are a ton of these negative sites that are up, running daily and allowing free speech and inventive lies to propagate.

Mistakes are sometimes made but the clear hearted individual needs to really look and determine if

  • 1st, the statement is true
  • How Will It Impact Everyone
  • What Good Will Come From It

Correcting mistakes or misinformation is imperative along with forgiveness.

Wouldn't it be a better world if we could just get along?  Thanks again, for the welcome back and sorry for the delay in answering. I always appreciate your input.

Feb 19, 2008 04:36 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Ann, I don't think they realize how it hurts their own home value and neighborhood along with the person that they supposedly are writing about. Once again, last nite they were on the news and a remark was removed after channel 3 of Sacramento contacted the webmaster.  Sometimes, it seems that our amendment rights have gone a bit over board and need some stipulations put in. Not sure that we would get a consensus on that action but in my opinion, it is needed.  We all need some guidance sometimes.

Thank you for popping by and sharing your thoughts.

Miriam, I assumed he was young but thanks for the update on what you saw. Which brings up an interesting question. Do you think that a site like that will be a place where young people gravitate to and they too won't realize the consequences? I hop you are right, in that, it won't last long and will be boycotted into extinction. 

It's great to be back a little and hear from so many...what a nice welcome back. I appreciate it.

Feb 19, 2008 04:46 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Ruthmarie, great point!!!  Those few words, say it all. Thank you.

Bill, boy howdy, do I ever agree with you on the comparison of Jerry Springer and this site. It is ashame that a lot of people believe whatever they see on the Internet and on TV. Not sure what we can do about it but I'm hoping that something can be done. I had no idea that this has been on the Internet for 6 mos. Our local TV station just started reporting on it this past week. 

Thank you for commenting and love your comparison!

Suzanne,you said something that might just be the solution..."someone to act stupid or act out especially not having to claim it." What about if they had to step away from the "anonymous" and actually show their name and their address and somehow those two items had to match in the tax records. Betcha that might lessen the load of how many would speak up and out.

Thanks for giving what could be a solution to a disgusting website.

 

 

Feb 19, 2008 04:56 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Sonya, money seems to be at the root of a lot of evil. It's never too late to turn it around so I hope they do the "right" thing and just take the site down. Let neighbors and people deal with each other on a one-on-one or learn to ignore what's bothering them. How about a conflict management course?

I know that on my website I have invited those having issues with their neighbors to email me and see if I can help them to resolve whatever it is or at least give them sources to go to for answers. 

Bill Gilhespy, trashy site it is...you're absolutely right and I hope it doesn't last. Let's see what this generation decides to keep around or toss out. Thanks for your thoughts, here.

By the way guy, my name is Gena. Just in case you are ever wanting to subscribe to my blog or find me, you'll need the correct spelling. 

 

Feb 19, 2008 05:07 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth
Gena, I read another post on that web site today. I'm not a fan of venting web sites and you open yourself up to libel if you comment on them. BTW, loved the nostalgia Father Knows Best video.
Feb 19, 2008 05:10 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Stephanie and Keith, WOW! You may be on to something. We all know how the fishing nets are thrown into the stream to suck up our leads and this might just be this guys weird way of accomplishing that. The unfortunate part is what havoc he is leaving in the wake. I stay on his site long enough to capture his intended purpose. Thanks for sharing that ... just goes to show you what lengths these lead predators will resort to.

Thank you for this insightful information.

KK, absolutely! And I hope that together we can educate and find solutions to ensure that this does not continue. I realize everyone has "free speech," but maybe it's time to have some guidelines on what cam be on the Internet. Do we just ignore what's out there or bring it down? What are your thoughts?

I appreciate you coming over and commenting more than you know. Thank you.

Feb 19, 2008 05:21 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Dan, you are most welcome. Sounds like your area may have more sense than other areas and has chosen not to participate. Hope that's the case. Thanks for chiming in.

Renee,sounds like you were as amazed as I was. In this day and age with the strides that we have taken as a society when it comes to race, I hope that something like this doesn't set us back. We need so desperately to get along and find the good in people while overlooking the differences.

Thank you for bringing this to our attention and commenting.

Allison, couldn't agreee more with you. The Internet has opened up a whole new on-slaught of issues that a lot of people including me, in the beginning didn't realize had long lasting life and then there are those that are just mean-spirited.  I say, each one of these individuals should apologize, take their "crap" off the website, boycott websites that promote bad behavior and start setting some ground rules.

Let's all play nice in the sandbox and help each other build castles!  Thanks for your thoughtful hope.

Feb 19, 2008 05:36 AM
Judy Tuscano
Prudential Verani Realty - Nottingham, NH
NH Real Estate Professional
Gena - It looks like we may have to post about manners for the whole world to learn. Mom would never allow me to speak about the neighbors in a negative fashion no matter if she liked them or not.
Feb 19, 2008 08:05 AM
Kelley Eling
Fathom Realty Group - Sonoma, CA
Realtor Extraordinaire
One thing I find annoying about my own blog is that every once in a while someone, ALWAYS anonymous, will be negative and nasty.  If you're going to be a jerk, you should have to let everyone know who you are.  If we are going to be transparent, why shouldn't everyone else?
Feb 19, 2008 12:22 PM
Kaye Thomas
Real Estate West - Manhattan Beach, CA
e-PRO, Manhattan Beach CA
Gena- Sites like this do more harm then good..
Feb 26, 2008 11:35 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Kaye, absolutely! I keep hoping for the day that we turn the corner and go the other way...they say everything old comes back again...common sense

Kelley, transparency is key. And standing up when you're wrong and apologizing right away takes character. What's right is right. We all make mistakes but it takes the bigger person to say "I'm sorry."

Judy, your mom had good sense and she taught you well.

Feb 26, 2008 01:12 PM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Gary, you are the ONLY one who mentioned the video. I guess the others never watched Father Knows Best...glad you liked it. Hope it comes back someday with new actors...we could use a little light heartedness for a change.

Jane, I love your idea...kinda like Mr. Roger's..."Won't You Be My Neighbor?"

 

To each commenter that I have not personally named in response...I will visit each of your sites and comment. I thank you for all of your comments and in due time I'll be reading you, as well. Thank you so much.

Feb 26, 2008 01:27 PM
Jacqulyn Richey
Prominent Realty Group - Las Vegas, NV
Las Vegas Real Estate
Hmm...seems like they are just asking to be sued by the people living there. -Charles
Feb 29, 2008 04:09 PM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Charles,

Great to hear from you...missed ya. I think you are absolutely, right! Hopefully, those using this site will learn some management conflict skills and deal with the problem in a win, win solution rather than in this manner.

 

Feb 29, 2008 04:15 PM
Joe Davis
Indiana Commercial Realty - Crown Point, IN
I've heard about this site before and it's terrible.  People just don't realize how devistating they can be to others and themselves!
Mar 01, 2008 12:01 AM
Gena Riede
Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792 - Sacramento, CA
Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699

Joe, we all need to learn to talk a little more and solve by giving a little. Life is really too short for all this unkindness.

Thanks Joe, for chiming in.

Mar 01, 2008 03:45 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Gena:  Everyone has said what is to be said about your post.  But... what a nice trip down memory lane watching Father Knows Best.  I used to watch it all the time.  If you watched the above video, Billy, the son, just got some bongo drums.  But, he had had several other musical instruments, but the excitement about playing them only lasted for two weeks.  Where I am going is... he complained about playing the accordian... claimed it was giving him a "corrigated" chest.

Funny thing was... fifty years ago I used that same complaint to my parents when I got tired of playing the accordian... after four and one half years of lessons.  I complained that it hurt when I played it... because it kept pinching me... and the pinching really hurt.  They tried to tell me to wear a "slightly padded" bra while I was practicing, but when I said I only would... if I could also wear it to school... they said... NO... and then let me quit that doggone pinchy accordian.  Memories... ahhh.

Mar 08, 2008 07:35 PM