Find your audience...and obey the Online Rules of the Road Review #5 Of The Weblog Handbook by Rebecca Blood

Chapter 5  starts with how to go about Finding an audience. I was pretty excited about reading this chapter as I think many new bloggers and even experienced bloggers can relate to this....we all want to be heard ...or better yet be read and understood...feel like we're connecting. 

Somehow knowing someone is listening validates us as bloggers...it's human nature I think to measure ourselves against the praise or acceptance we receive from others. Blogging is the perfect platform to achieve that.

Chapter 5 gives tips on How to Find your Audience, some of them are very basic... from registering your website, submitting your URL, the importance of metatags and optimizing your weblog/website. Keep in mind please that this book is a few years old and many of these tips have been creatively written about and explored right here on Active Rain. 

One thing that stands out in my mind is a very simple way of promoting your blog...add the URL to all your advertising, signature files...promote it to the public and your peers.  I think many of us here on AR already do that but it bares mentioning because some times it's the simple things...the no-brainers that we overlook. Adding the URL to you signature on your e-mail...how easy and how effective.

When I got to the second part of the chapter I really got excited as it has a section detailing with the Online Rules of the Road that we all must be aware of when joining a community site.

Playing Nice in the Sand box.

I thought this section was excellent and very timely! I know when I first joined Active Rain that I felt like I was playing in someone else's playground or backyard and I had no clue what the rules were...so I read and read and tried to get a feel for the community...I wanted to know what it was all about before I made my first pitiful...and they were pitiful, attempts at blogging.

Some of the things that Rebecca writes about in this section really stand out to me and I think they apply particularly when joining an Online Community Site such as Active Rain.

    “Messages on a weblog are recorded for posterity, you are creating an online reputation "...and I think just like real estate sales being a reputation business so is blogging. Just think of all the different personalities’ right here on AR. I don't know about you all but I have definite opinions of some of our more vocal bloggers.   "People will form their entire impression of you based on the things you contribute!"  This is so very true!

     "Trying to remake any community in your own image will only alienate the current members"...spend some time reading so that you can get a sense of the community.  "Interact with others in an interesting and friendly way!"  Hallelujah...in a friendly way. Its okay to disagree but defend or attack the issue not the people...belittling members for their opinion serves no purpose and only makes you look foolish. This day and age of Transparency...people can see right through that type of behavior.

    "You may gain more from lurking than by actively posting"...I can't tell you how true that is.  Reading the posts is educational and sometimes very amusing...so even when I'm not posting I am definitely expanding my knowledge base...and unfortunately my bottom :)... If only I could read the blogs while walking on my treadmill!!!

Some things to remember...Rebecca's Rules of the Road

1. Don't post when you’re angry...No if and or buts about it...just don't do it.
2. Argue Facts...Not people
...Back your facts up without running people over.
3. Once you've stated your position
sit back and read what others say...you might learn something...Don't be shy ask others why the feel the way they do.
4. Respond to personal attacks by ignoring them
...Don't get drawn into a flame war!!!
5. Don't hijack conversations
...This one is interesting as on AR several of us hijack posts, I think this is perfectly okay if you know the person...certainly not kosher if you do not.
6. Don't misrepresent other peoples positions
...Remember it is very hard to see the meaning behind the written words!

Making Connections in Blogosphere

Comments
...People really appreciate genuine comments....put some heart and soul into your comments!  People complain about the one or two word comments such as....great post...great blog. I know I've been guilty of that myself but sometimes a blog is so well written and covers so much that all I can do is add a "wow" and it is a genuine and heartfelt wow.   Make an effort to comment in other peoples blogs/posts and be sure to acknowledge or comment back to people who leave comments on your posts. Knowing that their work is being read and commented on is truly gratifying and is what makes many a blogger tick.

Linking...Is another great connection maker...but don't be disappointed if you link to a site and they don't link back. Be sure to click your links...every link you put in your post should be clicked through by you. 

This book also covers techniques and strategies that might back fire on you as you build your audience.
1.Cross-Blog Socializing..Talk that is not focused on an exchange of ideas but instead focused on small talk
2.Revolution-  May be fascinating to you but tedious talk to others
3.Becoming Notorious-Being mean isn't fun especially for your audience

"Allow yourself the luxury of imperfection, you will not be perfect ...ever.  But by writing everyday you will become a better writer and by articulating your ideas you'll find out... what you think" 
 
A path to self discovery via your blog...your online diary. Grow with it and your voice will begin to emerge.  Ahhh how sweet that sounds...no?

So in Closing...
This was a timely chapter to cover considering the events happening in our own on line community.
I came away feeling that the crucial message in this chapter  was...  now that you've found your audience...don't spit in their face.
Over all I have enjoyed reading this book, while I had misgivings due to the fact that it is an older book. I am so glad I bought it and read it. I strongly suggest that if you are new to blogging and blogging in a community that this book is a must read.

My chapter ended with some very fitting words..."Do your best because you love it, appreciate the readers who visit, and don't allow your statistics to ruin your fun."
                                                       
I can't help but feel it should have read don't let your points ruin your fun



To read the previous reviews of this book -
   BLOG History 101 -- Review #1 - Mariana Wagner
   Why BLOG - Review #2 - Ines Hegedus-Garcia
   Creating and Maintaining Your blog-Review # 3 Ann Cummings
   Finding your Blog Voice -Review # 4 Ann Cummings
 
Post is included in group: Realty Blogging Book Club

47 Comments on Find an Audience and Obey the On-Line Rules of the Road

JAN
26
2007
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Very nicely done and a lot of hard work putting this together. Congratulations to you and all the lovely ladies who contribute their reviews. We are lucky that Ann Cummings invited us here to AR. Keep up the good work honey.
5:36pm • #1
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WONDERFUL ARTICLE.

Very sensitive advice about the importance of civility in blogging.  Loved it.

You are "Flagged".

Lenn, Homefinders.com

5:53pm • #3
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Thank you so much Lenn.  I appreciate your comments, it was a very timely chapter to review and hard to write.
6:03pm • #4
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Monika, Excellent review. The book may be older but some things never change. Like common sense and common courtesy. Now if folks would just "get it" we would all be good to go.

 

6:20pm • #5
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I am tempted to say, "Nice Post" and move on, but you said not to do that. (I learned something.) I will add that I bookmarked your post because I want to go back and read it to remind myself of the ideas expressed. Also, not having read the other posts (which you kindly included) on the topic, I want to be able to go back and find them easily when I have more time to read them.

It is great technical information, great teaching on etiquette that's well-written in 'plain language,' and easy to understand.

6:42pm • #6
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Monika....

I choose this book to be second in our book club because inside this book their are many things that new Bloggers know nothing about. A perfect example of that was Mariana Wagner's most recent post about the history of Blogging. I found that topic to be interesting.

As you can see the timing on this book and this review couldn't be better. Funny how things like that just seem to work themselves out :)

Now, I must address Hijacking :) Rebecca is right about Hijacking. Hijacking in AR and Hijacking in Wild Wild Space are two totally different things. In Wild Wild Space Hijacking is considered to be rude. Here on AR it is often encouraged. I would know :)  

Okay. It's time for me to step off my soap box now. Sorry. I got a little carried away. But I'm done now :)

 

 

6:45pm • #7
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I really liked this chapter Monika and you did an outstanding job.  I have to agree with you about being a little hesitant because the book is older.  But you can see how Rebecca was so ahead of herself and so in tune with changes in the BLOGGING WORLD.

One question, to encourage discussion......how do you feel about deleting comments?

7:08pm • #8
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Bryant...You are so right common sense and common courtesy never changes..if only people would just get it!!!Thank you for reading and commenting I do appreciate it.

Thank you so much Eloise for those very kind words. I'm glad you enjoyed my review...I'm sure you will enjoy the previous reviews as well. Thanks so much for commenting!  

TLW ...What can I say but your were right on with the selection of this book! Timing is everything! I did have a good laugh when I got to the Hijack section..which is why I added that it is okay among friends..since Hijacking is sooo much fun!

7:13pm • #9
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Ines...You slipped in here while I was responding. I liked this chapter very much and I agree she was ahead of her time...especially about the on-line ethics she talks about in the next chapter. 

Deleting comments...I personally would do so if they were full of profanity...other wise I'd let them stay.  I would say it really depends on the blog owner and the topic being covered...are the comments relevant? I've read both pros and cons about it. Your feelings?

7:27pm • #10
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Wow Monika, This is an awesome Blog, I will be back to read this again and again.
7:56pm • #11
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Doug...Thank you so much for the kudos! I appreciate your words very much :)
8:05pm • #12
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So, I'm newer to ActiveRain and see all the hard work. What can I do to generate business from this great networking tool? What is the best way to find clients with it?
8:22pm • #13
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Darren...Post in Localism and write community blogs. The business will eventually follow. Read everything you can there are a lot of good sales tips and techniques. Broker Bryant just posted about a FSBO letter which was awesome. Welcome to Active Rain Darren!
8:24pm • #14
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Great post, Monika. I just bought this book and am into Chapter 2. Great to hear about what is to come - there is some terrific information here. The challenge wll be to glean the best that we can out of it , put it into practice , then go back and read again. I bookmarked this for late night reading...again and again.

Thanks for sharing, Monika. I really enjoy your posts and your thoughts.

Jeff

8:26pm • #15
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The stars are falling...The stars are falling...BAM...WOW...

One just hit your post!     :)

TLW...ROAR!

8:39pm • #17
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Monika - great job on this review, and how timely as well.   The "Rules of the Road" are certainly words to blog by, and I love the last sentence in your post!

Very nicely done!  Congrats on the featured post!
Ann

8:50pm • #18
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Oh wow a gold Star...how cool!

Jeff...Thanks so much. I think you'll enjoy your book, there is so much to cover...I could have written more and it was hard to pick what to include and what not to.   I appreciate your comments and your compliments Jeff.

Thanks so much Chris...I value your opinion thanks for coming by and reading. 

TLW...That sure surprised me :) !!!!

 

8:50pm • #19
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Thanks Ann...The on-line rules of the road...a bloggers bible...don't ya think?
8:53pm • #20
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Very timely material. Bloggers need to remember that no matter how strongly they may feel about a topic, there's always someone on the other side of the monitor, and a successful blog is a two-way communication.
9:29pm • #21

Thanks for the post.  I really need to read this book

11:12pm • #22
JAN
27
2007
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A very timely post.  Based on your review so far I will have to read this book.  Also I appreciated the tips, I need to better promote my blog.
12:43am • #23
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Some of the most active and highest ranking blogs are pretty mean at times.  The Bubble People come to mind.
1:38am • #24
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Very nice post, a lot of hard work went into this one, thank you.

2:46am • #25
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Monika,

Thanks for the post. Great fodder to be used as we plow through and plant the seeds in necessary to grow our blogs. Thanks for sharing.

5:38am • #26
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John N...Thanks so much you are right on with your statement "a successful blog is a two-way communication" and that was the crux of my chapter...building your audience and keeping them engaged.

John in Oswego... The book is worth picking up and personally I got some very good tips from it. Thanks for reading my post.

Jennifer...Thanks so much for your comment. We all need all the tips we can get.

ARDELL...Thanks for commenting. I agree that controversy pulls readers in. Everyone loves a good debate but really it should be about the issues not the people.  Being mean defeats the whole purpose and while some may be successful at it, it doesn't work in every community. 

Laurie...Thanks so much for the kudos.

Thanks William for the comment and reading my post. 

 

8:43am • #27
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Monika - my e-mail notification is busted - sorry it took me a while to come back.  I think the only time I would delete a comment is when there is profanity - and hopefully having an e-mail address to let that person know that type of language is not tolerated in my posts.  But I do think deleting comments is a big mistake otherwise.  (obviously it depends on the comment and post, let me not generalize).  It's good to keep a sequence of events, and at the same time it could be proof of how to handle adversity which could ultimately help your business.
10:01am • #28
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Hi Moni, this was a fabulous writing job, not surprised, you are very good at this! Your comment about things being posted 'in posterity' on the web made me think about a Forum I joined this week. It is an Ohio Forum, so it's good for me to learn all about what is happening in my State. Anyway, it got to the part about username. I saw a lot of people posting there with monnikers that don't identify them at all. I decided to go with my name, for the very reason you stated. I want to make sure I am saying things that I don't mind other people seeing, so why not just use my real name. Stay warm!
10:11am • #29
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MONIKA: Rebecca Blood should be smiling! You're a "star" at finding your audience. 
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Monika,

Is there an end to your great post?  You are one of the most informative bloggers in our community, and I hope everyone appreciates what you do for our community.  Thank you again.

12:42pm • #31
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Monika,

Excellent synopsis of that chapter and much needed in AR right now. I am highlighting it in the Newbie section as well.

12:49pm • #32
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All good tips, I am sure my sarcastic sense of humor is addressed in there too.

1:25pm • #33
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Ines...I absolutely agree with you. There was a comment on one of my posts a while back that I wanted to delete. The person started to attack me a little bit instead of the issue...while the comment was unflattering to me I really thought the commenter came off looking badly...so I left it up. But I was tempted :)

Thanks Carole for your very kind words. I've joined a few forums and in all but one I've used my real name.  I noticed many people had funky ID's but I went with ..Moni or Monika....figured I wouldn't post anything that I would be ashamed to attach my name to. Only exception was an Aruba Forum...I became Aruba Chick. Not sure why I didn't do Aruba Moni??? 

Roberta..My goodness...your comment is so sweet! Thank you so much. I had to read it twice!!! :)

Wow! Ray Thank you ever so much. This is a great community and I am so touched that you feel I've contributed to it. I have learned so very much for so many people here...I'm thrilled to be able to give a little back.

Karen...So nice to see you gf....Thank you so much for stopping by and reading my post!  I though this chapter was excellent and very timely.

Randy...I'm going to borrow TLW saying here "wink-wink" when in doubt add a few winks to be safe or a smiley face at least until they get to know you and your sense of humor. Thanks for reading Randy.

                                        Thank you all so much for the kind words :) 

3:34pm • #34
JAN
28
2007

Thank You

I am soooo new at this blogging thing but I have had respones & I am simply amazed at that. Not knowing that I should respond, (I did to a few) but after reading your article it has inforced the camaraderie I feel when I see a response on my e-mail

Thank you

Dianne

8:10am • #35
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Dianne...You're very welcome. Comradeship is what helps makes an on-line community successful...building relationships...can start simply by commenting and acknowledging those comments people leave for you.  I've seen a few blog posts that have tons of comments but nowhere does the original poster ever acknowledge those comments...makes you wonder if they even came back and read the post after they posted it.

Thnak so much Dianne for reading my post :) and welcome to Active rain!

 

8:28am • #36
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Hi Monika,

I'm very impressed with what you shared, and realize you had our best interests at heart when you wrote it.  Thanks for thinking of us.....you really DID NOT HAVE TO DO IT...but YOU DID!  I personally appreciate your contribution to Active Rain...thanks again!

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Thanks so much Diane...Your words are so sweet :) thanks for reading and commenting I really appreciate it.
8:24pm • #38
JAN
29
2007
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Hi Monika,

This is a generous post that you have made for the good of the community and I do REALLY APPRECIATE your commitment to AR. I have learned sooooo much about my peers through reading their thoughts and really listening. Being an authority on something is not what blogging is about as much as it is sharing what you know and learning what you don't know. I like connecting with others through the written word because it is a slow and careful analysis and interaction. Person to person and phone conversations loose much of the essence of the word where blogging can be fully realized for the points that are being made. I will study all your chapters. Thank you very much

Stage It Forward! 

1:50pm • #39
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Sheron...Thank you so much for your touching comments. Blogging is about sharing and learning and like you I've learned  so much from reading the blogs!  Keep blogging!!!
3:18pm • #40
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31
2007
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Monika- I am SO sorry... I read this a couple times and thought I responded... DER! This was awesome. AND timely, for many reasons. You made some excellent references from this chapter, and put this together very well. THere is so much to learn...
12:33am • #41
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Not a problem Mariana...I appreciate your comments. Thanks so much.
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I am learning everyday from posts like this.  I am in that first stage of blogging that you were talking about, "Those pitiful attempts."  I am getting more comfortable with it though, with posts like this that give a roadmap-ish between speaking your mind and remaining community friendly and open.

 

Thank you!!! 

12:46pm • #43

I like you post. It hits on all the important details of writing for an audience. Thanks!

Freddie

catch me here

 

1:53pm • #44
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Virginia...LOL I had some pretty pitiful ones!  I always read as many as I could and then I learned to comment on them and importance of that. This book is really full of great advise for a the newbie as is the book we reviewed last month. In case you missed them you find some of them here

Thanks so much for commenting!

 

Freddie...Thanks so much for the kudos on my review and thanks for taking the time to comment! 

2:57pm • #45

Hi Monica,

I love the way you put your words together.  Very easy to read, I felt like you were talking directly to me. I will definitely get the book. The common courtesy theme sounds like something everyone could use.

Thanks.

7:33pm • #46
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Thank you so much Nancy...your comment really means a lot to me thank you so much for sharing your feelings about my review!
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