And YOU Are...?

How many times have you found yourself in a situation where someone remembers you...and you can't remember their name?  Crazy as it seems, details like remembering names will truly help you stand out from your competition...and help THEM remember YOU.

I've always been a stickler for remembering names because mine is so simple...Mark Boyd.  You can forget my name just as quickly as you can say it.

I don't have one of the cool names like Mario, Jonas, Lleyton, Xavier or anything uncontrollably memorable like that, so my obsessive-compulsive tendencies manifest themselves through trying REALLY hard to remember peoples' names.  I found an article this morning that lists 7 tips for remembering names and faces written by Tony Dottino, management consultant and chairman for the USA Memory Championship.  It lists some of the things that have traditionally worked for me and I hope it helps you, too.  

Tips for Remembering Names and Faces:

1. When meeting someone, focus on what you’re going to learn about that person, not on what you are going to say.
2. When you hear the person’s name, try to repeat it or ask about its spelling.
3. Ask for a business card or write the name down immediately after leaving the person. The more senses you engage–hearing, saying and seeing the name–the more likely you will be to remember.
4. Learn at least four things about the person, such as what the person does for a living and where the person lives. . The more you know about the person, the easier it will be to recall him or her.
5. As you say goodbye, repeat the person’s name.
6. Pretend you have to introduce this person to a friend and swiftly review the information you’ve gathered.
7. Make remembering a game. The more you stress over it, the less you’ll remember.

Click anywhere on the above tips to read the entire article.  It's REALLY good!

Hope you find this helpful and you have a wonderful day! 

 

12 Comments on And YOU Are...?

Remembering names (and faces) is a huge challenge for me!  Especially if I don't hear the name well at the beginning of the conversation, and then feel like an idiot for asking them to repeat it...

02/26/2008 10:39 AM by Stanton Homes - Penny Hull: Raleigh Area Custom Home Builder (Stanton Homes Inc - Raleigh Custom Homes)


Great tips!  I tend to have a difficult time remembering everyones names.  And since I work in the bank branch it is something that we need to do! 

02/26/2008 10:39 AM by Naoma Doriguzzi -Wachovia Mortgage (Wachovia Mortgage, FSB)


I have almost the opposite problem, I hear the name and am certain I must know them even though I don't recognize their face. I've come to realize it's just due to living in a small town and seeing/showing so many listings which have sellers' names there. Sad, but true!

02/26/2008 10:43 AM by Maple Valley WA Broker/Owner Colleen Fischesser 425-432-5400 (RE/MAX Select Real Estate)


It just happend to me last night in the store.  I had my Realtor Name Badge on and someone came up to me and started talking like he knew me - I played along and asked his name - still not sure where I knew him from.  He asked for my card though, maybe he'll call me to buy a house, you think?

02/26/2008 10:45 AM by Mary Aguilar (John Saar Properties)


Some names stick for me and some don't.  I try the repeating their name several times or name association...I'm terrible at names unless I'm on the phone and can take notes! 

02/26/2008 10:47 AM by JenRan Realty, LLC


I'm guilty of a short-term memory. I've have often forgot a person's name as soon after they say it.  I know that's because I'm mentally focused on something else. Thanks for the tips.

02/26/2008 11:12 AM by Eugene Jones (Royster Real Estate)


Mark

I make a game out of it, at parties I introduce my self to the person and talk to the person for a while and then when someone else that I previously met walks by I introduce that person to the new person. My highest record so far is 57 people in one outing,

02/26/2008 11:38 AM by Gary J Rocks (Sussex County Real Estate)


That's a great post Bill... Bob... Martin... I mean Mark  ;-)

Research has shown that people like hearing their own name.  So if you can remember their name.  Also, if you remember someone's name they will make an effort to remember yours.  Good reminder.

02/26/2008 12:42 PM by Joseph Lang - Southern California Home Inspector (Pillar To Post Professional Home Inspection)


Joseph - Thanks for the comment...and the laugh!  You're so right...the times I've forgotten someone's name and they remembered mine, it never happened again with that person:) 

02/26/2008 01:02 PM by Mark Boyd (GetMyHomesValue.com)


Forgetting someones name is embarrassing. It happens all the time. Good points in trying to get it to sink in. I just last week saw someone in the grocery store and thought who is that? Then later on my way home I remembered. She was the Buyer .I had a condo for sale and She bought it. Although she was the buyer and I had the listing it was me that was with her during the inspection and even had long talks with her about her work and school.I felt really bad that I could not place her at the time....

02/26/2008 05:00 PM by Sharon Harris (AllQuest Real Estate)


I forget names almost as quickly as I hear them.  Heartbreaking, isn't it?  And my name is not spelled or pronounced the way most people spell or pronounce the name.  So, I often get people say "How do you say your name again??"  I always say that I'll answer to just about anything as long as it isn't mean.  That usually makes them remember my name for some reason.  Go figure!

~Renae

02/27/2008 06:58 PM by Renae Bolton ~ Marketing 4 Realtors (Marketing 4 Realtors, LLP)


I too am guilty of remebering a face and not the name that goes with it.  I tend to be focused on something else, thanks for the tips. Gary, I like your idea of a game.

02/27/2008 07:27 PM by Dana Forster Realtor, A Home 4Sale Inc, Va (AHome4Sale)


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