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Tuesday Truths.......

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with CELLing Realty CalBRE #01445865

As I am about to start my day a few things just popped into my head.  So I grabbed th ole' Agenda, and as the coffee was brewing, I jotted down a few things that were crowding my Mind.  And one of them was a way to Organize what I am doing here on my Blog, both here on Active Rain, and the outside one.

 Cold Naked Truth

Anyway, let me backtrack a bit......since today is Tuesday Truths.  For the past several months I have been barely managing to keep a consistent Positive Attitude.  I would get very depressed, and not do some of the things I knew I should do......like calling stale listings and talking to the Sellers. 

I know I know.....terrible, but I couldn't drag my emotional reserve up enough for it...you see I was loosing my own house.  My business had dropped so much that all the money saved, and the few closings all went to the business, and not to my personal bills.

 OK, that's enough Truth for one Day....just enough to give you the reason I was stuck.  Stuck in a rut of not being creative.  I needed to survive, and hey I know how to survive.....so old behaviors kicked in, good or bad.  And I have survived up to now, but at a cost......my creativity.

Alright, I am done now......for better or worse I am trying to repair the damage I have done.  I have come to grips with the idea that Survival isn't just keeping the Doors Open, or my House not being Foreclosed.....it is being innovative, and using the Skills I have to the Best of my Abilities. 

 

 

Tuesday Truths is following Monday Morning Garden (Yesterdays Blog).........and tomorrow will be a different one.

 

 So, this is my Tuesday Truth......I messed up, and I am going to fix it :)  I have a Plan I am Organizing my Blog into 5 Day Segments.....Yesterday was the first, then todays Tuesday Truths which will have Market Stuff, Wednesday and Thursday I'm not sure....but Friday will be Fun Foto Contests.  The Weekly Winner of the Foto Contest will be displayed on both our Websites for the Week...... (Details later this week).

 

So what do you think.......does having a plan help your blogging?

 

 

By: Kathy McGraw _ CELLing Realty

Photo  Cold Naked TruthCopyrighted by : Ioana Negrau

 

 

 

Comments (36)

Obeoman Glade Jones
www.obeo.com - Salt Lake City, UT

 

Kathy,

 I will keep you in thought and prayer. We all live in one home, on one planet.

 

Take care and you know us rainers are with you,

Steve

 

 

 

Feb 26, 2008 09:16 AM
Karen Hurst
RICOASTALLIVING.COM - Warwick, RI
Rhode Island Waterfront!
Kathy, Survival is rising above and moving forward, always. Not as difficult as some may think. It sounds like you already know that.  Put the past behind you and do not dwell, ever. When you clear your mind, the creativity has room to spread. I, for one, appreciate your honesty. Too many people are fogging the mirror and sometimes I wonder if they are fooling themselves. Hardships make us all better people.
Feb 26, 2008 09:50 AM
Linda Futral
Newnan, GA
Kathy like the others who went before me I knew something was up just wasn't sure what.  Thank you so much for sharing.  My prayers and thoughts are with you and like you I am instituting a plan.  Got two orders already for my totes and bags so that will be a little additional coming in.  I am also putting everything out there that I can afford to advertising my listing.  Keep at em girl it will work out.
Feb 26, 2008 09:53 AM
Audrey June-Forshey
RE/MAX Realty Services - Darnestown, MD
GRI, Gaithersburg, MD
Kathy,  I am so sorry you are going through such a tough time.  Even though you are having a tough time you still find it in your heart to be so giving and wonderful.  I am glad you have a plan.  When stuff gets really tough for me I just keep saying to myself, No one died from real estate, no one died from real estate.  Sometimes it helps.
Feb 26, 2008 10:08 AM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate

Kathy, we all have difficult times. My pastor quoted Plato on Sunday, he said, "Be kind to everyone as everyone is fighting their own battles".

I don't organize my blog posts here as  I write from my heart.  But, it might be a good idea for my other blog. 

You'll make it you have no other choice, like me. (( hugs)) 

Feb 26, 2008 10:12 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Steven- Thank you.....I really didn't want this to be about my situation...but more about coming to grips with the way things are, and moving forward.

Karen- So much depends on the inner strength of the person, and if they are dependent or independent.  Survival takes a lot of energy, and I have found it to be very hard while going through it, but not so bad when it is in the past.  You are so right....it is the summation of all our experiences that makes us who we are.....and the ones that have had to Overcome well, they have a different strength :)

Linda- I really don't know how so many could see something was up....I tried very very hard to stay Positive, and when I wasn't well I just kept it to myself.  Anyway, I am glad you have found something to bring you in the extras...I'm working on it :)

Audrey- Thank you...maybe I will repeat your affirmations :)  Anyway, a week ago I wanted to become a Vagabond.  One of my favorite Poems was about a Gypsy Vagabond. But, well I am too young to retire, and too old to live in a tent....so guess I'll just have to make some better decisions. Hey, that Office I had to give up doesn't define who I am anyway :)

 

Feb 26, 2008 10:35 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher
Kathy, I'm sorry you're going through such a terrible time right now but it will pass.  I think many of us have been there at one time or another.  I believe in plans when I'm not sure what to do or what's going to happen, they keep me focused and on track--I think yours will as well!  And work some YOU time into those plans :)
Feb 26, 2008 11:03 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Carole-Yes it will pass....all of us at some time have gone through a tragedy, death, divorce, or something that seems really horrible at the time, but we don't give up.  Everything works out one way or another....it's called Destiny.  I believe very much in Destiny, and I know that everything for me will be OK, one way or another.

Everyone has to just realize that a FICO score isn't the worst thing, or best thing in the world :)

Feb 26, 2008 11:39 AM
Harley Ramsey
Keller Williams - Chatsworth, CA
Chatsworth, CA Real Estate
Hi Kathy,  What a touching Tuesday truth...great attitude about assessing where you are and how to move forward.  Thanks for reaching out to all of us in a spirit of generosity and sharing your blogging plans.  I haven't planned out my blogging (still new and mostly reading) but in the past when issues seem big I succeed if I break them down so your plan is a great reminder to me.  Cheers, Harley
Feb 26, 2008 03:07 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Missy-Your Pastor said some good stuff.....we all have our own issues, and we all do the best we can.  And as far as writing the Blog from the heart....yes, I don't know how that will work....but we'll see in the morning.....but I think I should skip Wednesday.....if I do a Post every day then heck I will always be on the computer...I wonder if 3 consistent days a week would be good?????  What do you think?

Harley-Hi....if you're new welcome......you will see so many different styles, and content that it can be overwhelming.  I learned in the Peace Corps to break down projects, and tasks into smaller manageable segments......so if Blogging is to be something that is associated with my business, then I think this new idea will work :)  Hope to see you around......:)

 

Feb 26, 2008 03:59 PM
Gail Robinson
William Raveis Real Estate - Southport, CT
CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT
Kathy, I went through a divorce and illness and lost my home of 20 years in 2005.  It was a really bad time for me.  Since then I've remarried and become the #1 listing agent in my market place.  Life can turn around, but I do know the feeling of hopelessness during that time when things were really bad.  My thoughts are with you.  I don't have a plan for my blogging, but if it works for you, then that's great.
Feb 26, 2008 07:25 PM
Neal Bloom
Brokered by eXp Realty LLC - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate

Kathy,

I can't have a plan too far ahead...I seem to work better on the fly...I can't worry about goal deadlines. I would rather concentrate on my deadlines with deals I have in place. I try not to dwell on the bad karma if I can but there are days when I fight that...I just go to the gym and work off the frustration and found since I do that the stress goes away faster.

Feb 26, 2008 10:40 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Gail-Thank you for sharing that......on my other Blog a lady in Arizona is having her house put up for Auction today.  I don't know what they're going to do, but with an elderly father it is hard.  I am glad your story worked out, and I know mine will......

Oh, and my plan for  blogging....it's just a plan, and already today I can't think of something to write....too  much demand writing isn't my style :)

Neal-Now that the rain has stopped, I am pulling weeds....that's my way of reducing stress :)  Oh, and yes, I am not a demand writer either, but I am going to give it a shot.....from Monday to today I have already cut off 2 of the blogging days.......let's see if I cut off the last 3 then I'm back where I started from LOL :)

Feb 27, 2008 03:49 AM
Lynnette Phillips Real Estate Consultant
Yucaipa, CA

Kathy, I'm so sorry, I've been too self-absorbed, but I know you'll get back up. I guess I've been too busy trying to keep myself from getting too down...BTW, thanks for the flowers :) 

I've just been physically deteriorating & being one of those control freaks and the one who's supposed to take care of everyone else it almost got me. Thank God for friends and my husband (I don't know why he put up with me). Like you I'm making a plan and am on my way back. See you there!

Remember, you're in everyone's thoughts, ya just gotta do it!

P.S.: Do you think our Grandmas knew each other? 

Feb 27, 2008 05:24 AM
Nannette Turner
eXp Realty LLC - Lynchburg, VA
Online Marketing Home Ownership Advocate Specialis
Kathy you did not plan to get in the space you are in now.  But you can plan to get out and that is 'bout the only way I know how to do it.  I've had to really do some serious looking at my financial situation and re-evaluated a lot of stuff.  We are not losing the house but I am selling one of our homes and pulling out some money to pay off some debt acquired.
Feb 27, 2008 11:02 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Lynette-  When we are used to being in charge, and things out of our control take over, well, it can and is hard.  You will get there, and so will I.  Just hang in there, do what the Dr. says....and either exercise or not depending on what you're supposed to do :)  We;ll make it for sure.....

The Grandmothers....hey they might be related, if so we're lucky.

Nannette- Yes, we all have to make our plans......I am glad that you have the ability to rearrange your assets in order to pay off debt.  Thanks for sharing.....I know I am on my way out of these problems....

Feb 27, 2008 01:05 PM
Rebecca Levinson, Real Estate Marketing and Online Advertising Consultant
Real Skillz-Clear Marketing for Your Real Estate Vision - Lake Geneva, WI

Hi Kathy,

Because writing is what I do, a good plan is a good idea.  Especially when you add to your plate, for instance you have two blogs now.  So how can you maintain original content on both, a plan helps that.

I haven't been perfect on this, by any means, but have been working on it.  Actually I will be writing a post soon on my blogging dilemas and what I am doing to change them,

As you are sitting here thinking about ways to work smarter and not harder, you are already looking beyond survivor, you are in thrive mode.  I wish you well, I am sure you will come out on top.  You have a good attitude, and that means more than some people think:-)  I think it means everything. 

Feb 27, 2008 03:40 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate
Rebecca- I am laughing because I have already decided that writing every day won't work for me.......I got a calendar and started organizing how to do Posts....and gee the concept is so different.  What happened to just writing when I felt like it?  But, hey, I am still thinking on how to do this in a way that will benefit my Area, me, and anyone that might read these :)   I agree on attitude being important......and I want mine to be one of not just positive, but helpful as well.  Thanks for your comments......
Feb 27, 2008 04:49 PM
Martha Brown
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc., Annapolis MD 21403 - Annapolis, MD
Your Homes Around Annapolis Agent
Kathy- Gosh what a TRUTHFUL TUESDAY that was. I do not know you personally and only here on Active Rain but something tells me you will get through this as a winner. There is something about your photo that says you will not be defeated. Besides, the battle is half won as you have acknowledged and decided to do something positive about it. We are all in control of our thoughts, our actions and our destiny. I, for one, am rooting for you!   And yes, a plan is a good idea :)
Mar 04, 2008 12:15 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Martha- Thank you, and I so agree that we are all in charge of  "our thoughts, our actions and our destiny" as you said.  My Truthful Tuesday this week (the one after this one) was some of the lessons I learned, and that yes, I saved the house.....:) :)   

Now as to my blog plan...I have already modified it from the "plan" as I prefer not to write on demand....and I was already becoming overwhelmed with the idea of Having to write....I like it much better now with 2 Designated Blogs...the Monday and Tuesday Truths.

Mar 06, 2008 11:48 AM