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Want to get to know your kids? Spend time with them!

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Real Estate Agent with eXp Realty LLC 200311024

OK, time for me to brag about my kids a little! Nothing makes me prouder than when I'm as a restaurant and an older couple comes up the table after they are done eating and says, "You know you have some of the best behaved and most well mannered kids I have ever seen."

This can make a dad pretty darn proud of his kids, real quick, and this has happened not just once or twice, but I actually can't count the times this has happened to us in the last 9 years. But, what is my secret? I spend time with them. I love my kids, I coach their baseball and softball teams, I even let each of them pick out one show that is all theirs, and have daddy / child time to just sit and watch it together.

We play games as a family. We walk in the park together at least once a week and just talk. Yes, talk about life, what is going on and we spend a lot of time together as a family.

If you don't know about my kids, I have 9 year old, a 6 year old, and a 3 year old that has been named by the family as "Miss Talks A Lot" because, well, she does! Now why is this important to know? Have you ever been in a car with kids? OK, it isn't always quiet, but I can tell you my kids are the greatest when it comes to me doing business. They understand if daddy doesn't work, we don't have food or a house. When my phone rings in the car, it goes very quiet in my car! My kids will grab a book and start reading, or draw a picture, but they are quiet. I've had clients on the phone 30 minutes before my kids have said something, and my clients say, "Your kids are with you? I would have never known, they were so quiet!"

Why do I feel my kids are the way they are? I truly try to spend as much time with them as possible. They are just as much a part of the family as mommy, and I let them know that. Any major decision involves them. I try to spend a least one hour a day with the family and 30 minutes with each child a day. I read to them before they go to bed and just really enjoy being around them. I make them feel just as special as they make me feel! I really could care less what day father's day is because my kids truly make everyday feel like father's day.

My father is still my best friend and we talk everyday and hang out at least 2-3 times a week with Grandpa and Grandma. (Blazer games are important bonding time you know - lol)

So, spend some time with your kids and the attention you give to them will give you insight to who your kids are and build a relationship that will last a lifetime. These are all lessons I learned from my father, the best example of a dad in the world. (Thanks dad!)

 

 

Comments(13)

Jeannette Neerpat
CondoDomain.com - Coral Springs, FL
e-Pro Coral Springs/Parkland Real Estate
I spend quality time everyday with mu kids. Sometimes we just sit on the floor and read books or just talk. Its great time and I lover every minute of it.
Mar 01, 2008 01:24 PM
Carolyn Gjerde-Tu-Davis
Lyon Real Estate - Davis, CA
Ca Real Estate
What a nice tribute to your family.  They sound like great kids.
Mar 01, 2008 01:25 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth
Todd, time spent with your kids is ALWAYS time well spent.
Mar 01, 2008 02:10 PM
Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~
Agent Referral - Salt Lake City, UT
Todd~This is a beautiful post about the darling children you have.  You are so right! By you being there, really being there, that makes an incredible difference in the life of a child. We should all take your words and hold onto them forever and always, always implement your example into our lives. Have a beautiful Sunday my friend!
Mar 01, 2008 05:09 PM
Roberta LaRocca
Simply Vegas Real Estate - Las Vegas, NV
REALTOR®, Broker, Salesperson, NV. Lic BS.507
Todd, You have found the secret to raising good kids.  I spent a lot of time (and still do) with my kids when they were young and they were always well behaved (at least out in public).  When you are a parent, you need to be there to teach your kids.  Congrats on doing a great job!
Mar 01, 2008 05:41 PM
Katerina Gasset
The Gasset Group & Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Provo, UT
Amplify Your Real Estate & Life Dreams!
Todd- This is the most important thing we can do in our families, spend time with our kids. Homeschooling gives us plenty of time to be together. We take our son to take photos of our listings, Nestor takes him with him to put up the signs, ( on the ones where they are allowed, not many) Nestor takes him grocery shopping, and all the while creating great teaching moments. He sits next to us in our office doing his school lessons while we are working. Life is great! Thanks for sharing! 
Mar 01, 2008 05:58 PM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate
Todd, kids spell love TIME. My kids can never say I missed one of their events, and I schedule my schedule after I have written in theres. I wouldn't have it any other way. The rewards will be reaped when it counts in their teen years and beyond.
Mar 02, 2008 12:32 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
Todd - This is part of the joy of homeschooling, as you know.  I also have special time with each of my kids.  Right now, my six-year old daughter and I enjoy watching "American Idol" and sharing a couple of oranges.  I'm not really sure how it started, but it's our time together.  Kudos to you for being the kind of dad that really knows and enjoys his kids.
Mar 03, 2008 12:17 AM
Todd Clark - Retired
eXp Realty LLC - Tigard, OR
Principle Broker Oregon

Jeannette - It is those times they remember when they are older and that certainly the times I remember with my dad. Some of the things we did that meant so much to me, he didn't have any memory of.

Carolyn - I do love them dearly! They are spoiling me today!

Gary - It builds a better future! (Plus they decide where I am spend my retirement years)

Julie - Family is more important that any amount of money and that is what most people forget!

Roberta - Sometimes I think they teach us just as much we teach them if we pay attention!

Katerina - We also home school at it really does give us a lot of opportunities as a family that most never get to experience.

Missy - That was what was so special about my dad, during my Junior High and High School years during Cross Country, Track and Indoor track my dad only missed 3 races and two were out of the country and one was in another state! I do cherish those moments as in those six years there were team mates that I never even met their parents and I realized how lucky I really was.

Jason - My son has switched from Batman the cartoon to "American Gladiator" and when that went off the because of the season finale, he started to watch "My Dad is Better than Your Dad" and now as you read I may be trying out!


Mar 03, 2008 03:37 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
Todd - I have included this post in my weekly wrapup for Family Ties.  Take care!  I hope you make it onto the show!
Mar 08, 2008 07:10 AM
Edward W. Lui
Mars Hill Realty Group - Georgetown, TX
Georgetown Texas Real Estate

Good post and good reminder.  Thanks.  I have a 3, 2 and newborn so we're still working on "When daddy is on the phone, that means 'be quiet'"  Any tricks or tips you have for that, I'm all ears!

 

Mar 08, 2008 01:00 PM
Todd Clark - Retired
eXp Realty LLC - Tigard, OR
Principle Broker Oregon

Erica - That is the perfect time to spend time with your kids! A volunteer activity is a great place for them to learn more about their mom and helps them build character. They get to see mom in a different light than they normally would and they probably will look at you more as a person than just mom in the future...Good for you!

Edward - I just started working on them from day one that if they were quiet they got rewarded for it. A toy from the dollar store, chocolate milk, whatever...But, they were taught that when daddy is on the phone with a client, that is how daddy makes money and pays for the food, home and gives mommy the ability to stay home with them.

Mar 09, 2008 06:08 AM