How many of you feel that you have reached your full potential in each area of your life?
Why do we let ourselves be held back?
Brian Buffini defines our lives into 5 areas : Personal, Financial, Spiritual, Business, Family. If you have one of the five areas out of balance, it will affect the others.
We should have written goals in each of these areas. We should continuously review, refine and check them off when we accomplish them.
Our affirmations should reflect those goals. Affirmations are written as if the goal is accomplished:
- I am on time to every appointment I have.
- I easily fit into a size __?
- I tell my kids that I love them everyday and I show them everyday.
- I have a net worth of $1,000,000
- I have no debt and stick to my budget
Brian Buffini also describes a specific order within each area that we must go through to reach the highest level - SIGNIFICANCE. This is when you are able to give back.
Our goals within each circle will lead us from a level of survival to stability to success to a level of Significance. There is great importance to following the order. In other words, if you aren't paying your bills, you might not belong at the Charity Ball.
Example:
Personal Goal - lose 15 pounds.
Affirmation: I weigh 125 lbs and easily fit into a size 6.
Survival Mode -
You haven't even had the courage to get on the scale and it's a good thing it's winter cause those sweats still fit. So far, your blood pressure is still within a normal range. You've started using Splenda in your Starbuck's each day instead of whipped cream and caramel topping so you haven't gained any more weight.
Stability - You are actually getting out of your car to go into Stabucks in your sweat pants because your jeans (well let's not go there).You've limited yourself to only 1 Starbucks a week and you've started a work out program. You actually are starting to drop a few pounds.
Success - You're eating healthy, continuing to exercise, you're at 125 and those jeans are looking mighty fine.
Significance - You're helping others by teaching a class, working out with them, etc.
Financial
Survival Mode - Paying minimum credit card payments.
Significance - I don't know about you but I'm writing my $10,000 check to House of Refuge East in Mesa.
No matter what book you pick up that talks about Success and Successful People, they all had clearly written goals. Goals are essential to success. If you don't have goals written down, you'll never know when or if you have succeeded.
Brian Buffini says you need to have SMART goals.
Specific and Written
Measurable Progress and Completion
Achievable Outcome
Realistic in Time and Skill
Time-based Achievement (By what date, etc)
He also says that goals do the following:
- Create a sense of Purpose and Anticipation in Life.
- Are great Confidence Builders
- Help you Focus
- Help you Avoid Wasting Time
- Reduce your Subconscious Conflicts
- Provide Guidelines to Good Decisions
- Illustrate your Values
Brian Buffini - "When your values are clear, your decisions are easy."
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