For years I sent out a monthly newsletter and had a sign up box on my website. I used Constant contact and thought it was very cool that you could see who opened the email, how many times and if they clicked through to my website.

I had an individual who regularly read my newsletter, always clicked through. I always think of it as fishing and got excited that we had a biter. Finally the day came and I got a call from a man who was interested in staging his home to put on the market come spring. I recognized the name immediately from my newsletter stats (he was the clicker) and thought yeah! It finally worked.

We set up an evening appointment because he worked during the day. And get this... his home was in the most expensive subdivision in my town! I was giddy. For about four days leading up to the appointment, I kept getting a yucky feeling. I really wasn't too keen on the evening appointment, because it gets dark early. I kept pushing away the feeling because of the prospect of the job. (And he said his wife was going to be there). The day finally arrived for the appointment and I couldn't stand it any more. I called a fellow stager and asked her to come with me. She agreed.

When the guy answered the door, the house was dim. Now it is an almost 2M dollar home, I didn't expect all the lights would be on, but it creeped me out that it was dim. And there was soft music playing. (I know people play music, but it was classical and kinda creepy) And his wife was suddenly called out of town. It may have been my imagination, but he seemed a little off guard that I had brought a guest.

We toured the house and it was immaculate. I say every house needs to be staged, but I was hard pressed to find anything with this beautiful home. The tour lasted a half hour, he said he'd discuss everything with his wife and he would get back with me. I've never heard from him and he stopped reading the newsletter.

You all may be thinking when am I going to get to the part where he attacks us, but that never happened - thank God. I truly feel deep down it was because I had brought the other stager. The level of creepyness in that house cannot be expressed into written word.

I think about this story of mine every time I go on an appointment. I've made it a practice to leave the address and contact information of where I am going and always have my cell phone in my pocket, mace in the other and a sharp ink pen in my hand (I think a pocket knife would be too obvious).

I know we've talked about safety on here before; I just wanted to send out another reminder to listen to your gut and protect yourself before going into a stranger's house.

 
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Ew, CAri - that is creepy and scary!  There can never been too many posts about safety and being careful.  ALWAYS trust your instincts - ALWAYS!
12:22am • #1
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Oh wow that is Creepy...well Im glad your ok and kudos to promoting more awareness!!
12:23am • #2
Sounds creepy.  I am glad you brought someone else with you.
12:24am • #3
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Sounds yucky, reminds me of an experience I had about 15 years ago.  Maybe someday I will write about it.  Thanks for sharing.
12:40am • #4
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Yes, we can never be too concerned about personal safety. When I do open houses, my husband has the neighborhood name and address hanging on the refrigerator. While I'm at the open house I carry only an ink pen and a cell phone. I keep the doors locked so that I know when someone enters the home (because I have to let them in). You can never be too careful!

12:41am • #5
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Cari:  You mentioned that you were not attacked.  But, in a way, because you think about that story every time you do go on an appointment, in a way, you have been attacked.  He got inside your head.  I am so glad you took another stager with you on your trip.  I am so glad you are ok.  And... you have used the best term I can think of... creepy !  Thanks so much for sharing.
12:42am • #6
Always go with your gut. Theres usually a reason for that icky feeling. Better to be safe than sorry.
12:45am • #7
Cari, your story gave me chills! Thanks for the reminder to let someone know where you'll be going and to trust your instincts. I'm so glad you went with your gut and brought a friend, that guy sounds pretty creepy.
1:12am • #8
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Good thing you got that gut feeling and brought a friend.  I always tell someone where I'm going.  Even if it's to meet someone in a public place.
2:25am • #9
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I was affiliated with a leasing office for upscale aprtments and they actually asked for a customer's drivers license, made a copy, and kept it at the front desk before sending any leasing agent out with them to view a property. I believe it should be standard proceedure for EVERY Real Estate Office and Home Service where there is that very small but very dangerous potential for a deadly assault or other crime.

My motto is, if it feels "creepy" DO NOT proceed with caution... just make a U TURN and leave it.

8:27am • #10

WOW! That has to be the worst part of the job, never knowing, but good thing you went with your guy. We all know we have to in situations like these.

Heather

9:31am • #11
Thank you for sharing. I completely expected something different when I read the title - I was expecting some funny story, but there is NOTHING funny about this. It gave me chills! Thank goodness you listened to your gut and brought another stager. It is stories like this, that remind me you can never be too cautious these days. I sometimes think I still live in the small town I grew up in, but unfortuntely that is not the case...
9:57am • #12
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Cari, that is really scary.  I'm sure glad you went with your instincts and brought another stager along with you.  Just think, if you had not been sending out your newsletters through Constant Contact, you would not have had access to the names of those reading your newsletter and you would not have recognized the name and acted accordingly.  Thanks for giving us all another wake-up call.  
11:33am • #13
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Wow, Cari, some men will stoop to any means to be with a pretty woman. I'm not sure you were in danger of being assaulted, but he may have tried to see if you were "interested". Good for you that you brought someone with you. This is just one of the hazards of reaching out and touching people...some of them want to touch back! ;)
12:29pm • #14
H Cari, yep. A few years back a realtor in Seattle was murdered and it put us in the Pacific Northwest on notice to be really careful. Sometimes a female colleague in my office will ask me to ride along when she gets the creeps and I'm happy to help. Stay safe! Keith
12:29pm • #15
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What a creep. I'm glad you went with your gut feeling and brought someone else along.
12:30pm • #16
Dear Cari, I have never gone through anything similar, but I am very glad I got to read your story, because sometimes we forget that there are weird people out there and that we need to be careful. So, thank you! 
12:31pm • #17
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Thanks for the post Cari. We always need to trust our gut reaction and in this case you did the best thing; taking a friend with you. As an on-site agent, I am always telling my partner to be careful and if at any moment you get a bad vibe to go straight back to the office. I am glad that you posted this because we always need an eye opener. Thank God you are OK. All my best, Jim.
12:32pm • #18

I now have my husband go with me on appts for doing in home meetings.  I had one referral from an unknown source, she was a state away.  I found myself in this mans home and he tells me he is tethered because of being accused of beating up his teenage son.  True or not who knows the accusation was made by the exwife and the kids was out of town at the supposed incident.  My gut told me the guy was ok, no problem, and I still feel the same way.  However, it was pretty dumb of me to go into this mans home without my husband.  I stopped that practice immediately.

Thanks for your account of your situation and thankfully you are safe.  We women, (mostly) need to keep reminding each other of the dangers out there.

 

12:37pm • #19
Cari, you did the right thing by bringing extra stager with you. You should call other profesionals in your market that he might try this on and warn them just in case.
12:42pm • #20
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Holy Cow, sounds like he was expecting you todo both "Staging" and a 'Call girl" business. Good thing you took a friend.

Sean Allen

12:43pm • #21
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Glad you decided to take the other stager along and that you're playing it safer after this happened.  It's easy to get excited about a prospect and ignore the gut.

 

1:00pm • #22
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ALWAYS go with your "gut".....it is there to protect you !
1:05pm • #23
As a woman, that is totally creepy!!!!!  This just reiterates the fact that my husband believes woman should work in pairs.  I guess this is why we're worked together for thae last 15 years and truly enjoy our teamwork!
1:08pm • #24
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Thank you so much for sharing this information. It just goes to show once again how paying attention to your marketing and following your gut instinct can be the difference in life or death.

1:17pm • #25
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Thanks all for your comments...

I wanted to get across too that the prospect of the "big job" almost clouded my vision, I would have loved to work in that home. So don't let that get in the way of your gut.

I forgot to mention the really creepy doll collection in one of the bedrooms too!

Take care all of you!

1:24pm • #26
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Cari - I had a similar experience a couple of months ago with an 'investor' and told another stager on AR about it.  I've not blogged about it, because I track that my blog is still read by this person.  I am being very careful. 

Jackie

1:56pm • #27
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Cari, thanks for sharing this story.  I always have my cell, but never thought of mace and a pen.  Very good advice.
2:08pm • #28
Cari, that is scary.  I have only felt like that a few times in ten years and thankfully, I was always safe.
Vickie McCartney, Owensboro,KY
2:08pm • #29
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Cari - We all need to listen to what your body (your subconscious) tells you...  The prospect of business is never worth you life.  I'm glad to hear that you are safe.
2:28pm • #30

Cari:

I have learned to trust my gut feeling, and ask my husband to ride along on such appointments.  A mag-lite flashlight would also be a good idea for something to carry expecially in rural areas.  Thank you for your story.

 

2:36pm • #31
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Yikes!  Sounds a little shady.

If you ever have an appointment on this side of town, I'll be happy to meet you and ride shotgun!

2:45pm • #32
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Is there a pun intended in there somewhere Marianne???? Thanks!
3:25pm • #33
This does sound creepy.  We never know what will happen when we meet someone new, so it's a good idea to have a safety system in place.
3:44pm • #34
Very good call...I am sure he had some ill intent...always follow your gut...kudos to you for saving yourself a problem...or worse
4:13pm • #35
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Heh heh heh!

Naw, I said "RIDE" shotgun, not "BRING" shotgun!

4:22pm • #36

Good thing you trusted your gut, they say a woman's instinct never lies, but I think sometimes we let our want for success override our gut instincts

4:30pm • #37

Cari,

We have a code word in our office for whenever an agent is in a situation like that.  All of us know we can call our broker or any other agent from the office, say the code word (which sounds like a normal request to anyone else) and help will be on the way immediately.

Good thing you took that other stager with you.  Always listen to your gut!

Bob

Bob Haywood
4:51pm • #38
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Yikes!  I'm so glad you listened to your gut!  Thank goodness nothing happened! 
5:00pm • #39
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You're a very smart girl to have been concerned and more importantly prepared.  Obviously, bringing someone else isn't what he expected.  I'm so glad to hear that it tured out okay.

Kathy

5:18pm • #40
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Hi Cari--Glad you brought someone along with you!  Despite the price tag, your safety is FIRST.  And your intuition is always a good guide to follow.  Thanks for the reminder!  Regards-Kathleen G
5:57pm • #41
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Thanks for sharing this story, Cari.  We need these reminders to keep us vigilant about our safety.  I lost a  friend because she went jogging by herself and was attacked in daylight.   The murderer was caught & said at trial that her last words were "God loves you."

Kathy

6:18pm • #42
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You learned a good lesson (quite safely.)  Thanks goodness!
6:23pm • #43
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Your gut reaction is alwyays right.  I had this same thing happen, except it was in the middle of day, but the guy had candles and music playing, and the house looked really good.  I gave him his consultation report and never heard from him again.  Thank Goodness!
6:34pm • #44
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Thank goodness you listened to that inner voice and asked someone to go with you.  Glad you don't ever have to know what would of happened if you didn't.

7:28pm • #45
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Well done Cari. That little voice in your head is almost always right.
7:29pm • #46
Smart thing you done brining someone else to accompany you during the night.
8:45pm • #47
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What a creep! What an idiot trying to pull something like that. What a weirdo, this gives me the creeps!
9:08pm • #48
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It sounds definitely creepy.  Good thing that you took a friend.
9:39pm • #49
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You were smart to bring a friend and even luckier that he did not continue to visit your site.
9:44pm • #50
Scary to think that these things can happen.  You have to be aware all the time.  I have thought about bringing someone as well when I go on consults.
9:52pm • #51
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Cari,  Great job of listening to your gut and bringing a friend !
10:06pm • #52
Always, always, always listen to that little voice that tells you when something just isn't right.  Our instincts are usually right on.  I'm glad you are writing about this instead of us reading about you.  Good job.
10:26pm • #53
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Good heads up warning - so glad that you are the one giving it - you did well to grab a buddy.
10:45pm • #54
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Glad you listened to that little voice that said to take a friend. Always best to be safe rather than sorry. WE never do open houses alone.
11:07pm • #55
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Maybe they should come out with Taser, Stager Edition.
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I really am amazed with "my gut feelings" -- they are NEVER wrong!  I am so relieved that nothing happened to you or your friend that day.
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And to think how long he may have been planning it!  I am glad you are OK.
1:25am • #58
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Cari,

I'm glad you decided to take a friend along. Most agents/loan officers/stagers don't realize how dangerous this job can be, especially when we are on our own. I would definately call the police and tell them that persons information and what happened. They can't do anything however it will keep them alert about that person.

2:35am • #59
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Good thing you had someone there with you.  I always read stories like this and hope that I will get the same "feeling" if I were in that situation.  I am glad that you are safe!!!
4:48am • #60
As a man, it's not really something we have to deal with, but I can relate to where you're coming from.  I've always left an open invitation for the women at my office to call on me to accompany a showing if they get that same gut feeling you had.  I would rather spend an hour of my time making sure they are safe than hear a horror story of something that had happened.  Early last year, we had a court case that was coined "The Real Estate Rapist".  There was a gentleman (not an agent) who was traveling to For-Sale-By-Owners, and after being invited into the home, well, need I go on?  Just be smart out there, mace isn't a bad idea, neither is a small tazer/stun gun. 
5:46am • #61
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I just had a man show up right when my open house was ending (no one else in the home) and I felt very uncomfortable with him.  He was telling me the names of all the agents he was meeting (and he was all over the state).  He was moving very slowly.  I immediately called my husband and stayed on the phone with him. I told the man I needed to be somewhere in 15 minutes.  I rushed him through and opened the door and started packing my car.  I just did not have a good feeling.  We need to be sure our family knows exactly where we are going Always.  We know when something just isn't right. 
6:53am • #62
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You made the wise choice to bring someone with you.. The life you saved was your own.
8:08am • #63
I agree you made a great choice .  The office that I work with one of the first things they stated was that I was never to meet clients out of the office or in a private location alone. Better safe than VERY sorry. 
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the woman intuition....im glad you are safe. he was probably going to try and seduce you..dim lights and soft music. im a safety girl too. i think this is why i dont doorknock.
8:59am • #65
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We can't be reminded enough to think about safety!  Thank you.
9:51am • #66
I saw a show on NBC the other night about that if we feel fear that we should act on it and you did....you did the right thing by taking someone with you...who can even guess what could have happened. You are a lucky girl. Good and quick thinking..always go with your feelings.
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It sounds like he had more in mind than where to put the potted plants. Good for you- safety in numbers and never go out at night alone!  Glad it had a happy ending.
10:27am • #68
I think I would've been creeped out by it also!  you went with your gut.
11:13am • #69
I think your gut feeling was right on in this case. Always try to err on the side of caution.
12:07pm • #70
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I am always trying to come up with strategies for going into appointments. I always give my husband the address and phone # where I am going, and I always have my cell phone with me. I always call him when I pull up to the house and let him know that I am going in. I have thought about having my husband to call me after a certain amount of time and If I don't answer he should be alarmed but I haven't actually ever done it. I also like to go to the door and then start on the outside of the house briefly so that if the wife is supposed to be there, then I will know if she is actually there or not. Good for you for having someone go with you.
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Thank goodness you took someone with you. Who knows how it would have turned out otherwise. There are creepy people every where from every tax bracket!
1:23pm • #72
Thanks for sharing the story. I always trust my gut feeling and make sure to bring someone with me when things don't feel right.
1:24pm • #73
That sounds a little to crazy to me, sure glad you went with your gut on that one!
1:30pm • #74

Cari;

You exercised such wisdom bringing someone along when things felt "not right".  It's unfortunate that things have to be that way but the best way to go, is always take the safe road, bring someone along. Taking chances could be disastrous.  Don't take chances, there is no amount of money worth your life!

I never go out after dark to meet anyone I don't know alone.

I try to meet all potential buyers at my office.

I always wear sensible shoes and always wear slacks, something I never used to do because a class with a safety with a Police Sargeant taught me that. They are always ready for the unknown and we should be as well.  You never see police woman wear skirts now do you?   

Never park in the driveway of the home and makes sure that if you had to run, you can make a quick exit with your vehicle. 

Don't allow yourself to get boxed in. Remember to use the alarm on your key if you are in trouble.  It will draw attention and may deter your preditor. 

Excercise caution first and foremost, be the first one to be able to go out the door. be the last one in the basement, the first one coming up the stairs so that you can make a dash for safety if need be.

Always play safe and you may enjoy tomorrow, act foolish and there may be no tomorrow.

Fran MacDonald, Partners Realty Group, Manchester NH
5:38pm • #75
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Thank you all so much for your comments and well wishes.

Fran, thank you for adding more to this warning. I would never have thought of some of the things you mentioned! Sensible shoes and slacks make so much sense! Thank you very much for sharing!

7:11pm • #76
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I hate scary stories.  I am so glad you thought about bringing someone with you. You did the smart thing and if he ever calls again, let us know.  I am curious if he will attempt to call you.
7:56pm • #77
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Good thing you trusted your instincts and brought a friend along.  You may have saved your own life.  Good for you.  Stay safe.
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Cari,

 I'm glad you listened to your gut.  I'm a firm believer in gut instinct.  Thanks for the safety reminder.

8:29pm • #79
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That is creepy, we use constant contact as well and have wondered about a clicker or two. It was good that you brought someone with you to the appointment.
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Cari ~ We all have that Little Voice within us that we often ignore - or brush it off as "nothing." It's good that you listened to your voice and took along a fellow stager. I'm not sure why we don't trust our instincts more...
10:21pm • #81
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Cari, that is a creepy experience, good thing you listened to your inner voice and brought someone with you!  Great post!  Thanks for reminding us!
2:50am • #82
Safety in numbers, isn't that what they say? Good thing you listened to that "little voice"
4:23am • #83
I had a somewhat similar incident happen to me about two years ago.  I was on floor duty one Friday afternoon when two young men (brothers) came into  the office, wanting an agent to view  the home they were planning to sell. They said they wanted to list it that day. They resided in FLA but had been leasing their ATL property to relatives and had specifically driven up from FLA to put the home on the market (so they said). We did a search on the MLS for comps and I agreed to follow them to the house, but not until I had made a copy of their drivers' licenses (they flinched at that request) and ensured that the cell phone nos. they had given me were authentic. I did a check to make sure they were the rightful owners of the home, and they were. I gave all the information to our admin. assist. and went off to view the house,  not far from my office. It was close to a $1mil property, but the relatives  living there had no idea they were coming or had any intention of selling it, so they were a little upset, to say the least. Also, those same relatives had pretty much trashed the interior of the house and the gunite pool out back, and had goats and geese on the property wandering around. One of their dogs had had several puppies, who jumped all over me and muddied my pants. I took as many photographs as possible of areas where the clutter and trash were not too much in evidence. They agreed to meet me back at the office to sign the listing papers, and guess what?  They never showed! I have no idea what their real intent was, but I had the gut feeling it wasn't listing the house. ALWAYS leave pertinent information with someone in the office, whether or not that little voice in your head tells you something isn't right. YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO CAUTIOUS!
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Great message ! I had a very close call a couple of weeks ago. One I am just not ready to talk about yet....SAFETY...FOLLOW YOUR GUTT...thankfully I did and the altercation was in my own office, not outside like he wanted it to be.
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Thanks for posting. We often forget the potential damger we could be inwhen we are thinking of making a sale.
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Wow - you had a great gut instinct about this and you were very smart to take someone with you!  I am glad that you are ok!  Safety is priority #1!
12:26pm • #87

Wow how scary! Safety is something that should always be in the forefront of our minds. I think Fran had a great tip by starting on the outside of the home which I do as well. That way neighbors are aware you are there. Leaving the address,phone number, name of the client, and how long the appointment will be with your husband/partner/friend or relative are essential. But, as we have all been taught there is power in numbers bring a buddy. Thanks for the reminder! Stay safe and aware! I'm just in Oak Park if you ever need company.

Amber

1:33pm • #88
Thank you for reminding us to be safe. We sometimes get caught up in the moment and forget that there are dangers around us. 
2:28pm • #89
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There's a great book you should read called THE GIFT OF FEAR.  It's all about trusting your gut. 
3:59pm • #90
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Glad to hear you went with your instinct's and had a friend w/ you! 

I always try to bring some one with me on first appointments.  If I go alone I leave the address, phone # of the client, and what time I will be calling after the appointment. 

Now I even "google" the potential clients name.  Better safe then sorry!

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You're very lucky to have someone go with you!

I don't have anyone to come with me...and I'm completely creeped out by your post. Time to hire a 'driver'. Guess the rates would have to go up. Can you rent a body guard for a couple of hours I wonder?

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I'm very glad you listened to your inner voice.  Be careful out there!

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Cari,

So glad you are well, and all turned out ok.  if you were an agent I would suggest doing a follow up with THE WIFE...!!!  By asking the right quesitons about the "appointment", I bet she is unaware of the shanannigens, and likely even the appointment itself  and  see if she is on to this scum bag.

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Sheryl - What an evil plan!  I love it!  He might be busted right at home.
1:43am • #95

Virginia,

SOmetimes I wonder where my heart lays, I am black and white, evil and loving... this guy brings out the evil in me.. God forgive me!!!

sheryl

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Cari, you just reassured what a friend of mine told me a few years back and I've often neglected...GO WITH YOUR GUT.  Your gut instinct is NEVER wrong.  Glad you were OK.  Thanks for sharing.  =)
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Cari,  That tracker on your site was really helpful. Thank you, I would love to get that on my site. You may have really saved many  people from a bad situation with this post.
12:42pm • #98
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Cari (sorry for the long comment),
I commented on another blog post a while back that was related to personal safety and "stalkers", and like the gentleman commented on yours, as a man, I never thought too much about things like this - but I should have.

I received an email from a man who said he was referred to me by someone while at a party. He said he was new to town, just out of a relationship and was a guest of a guest to this party, so he could not give me the full name of the host (only "David"), who apparently referred me.  He said he was in contact with another agent, who upon realizing HE was gay, stopped returning his calls, so it was real important to him that he find an agent he could be comfortable with (ie, a gay REALTOR).  I thought nothing of it, and certainly did not discuss my personal life with him, and kept it very professional.  He said he was not sure of what he wanted to do (buy or rent) and needed advice.  In working with him, I would automatically get his step father as a client, who would be relocating to the DFW area.

In hind sight, there were some obvious red flags, but like I said, I never really thought I'd be put in this situation.  1)  I don't know a David.  2) He said he got my email address after searching every Keller Williams website in the DFW area until he found me.  3) When I asked him where he was currently living, his answer changed a couple of times.

After a few email exchanges, I agreed to let him meet me at my office on a Saturday (to fit his schedule).

Even though I felt uneasy, I figured that if he was dumb enough to email me from his work email, it might be a legit lead so I kept the appointment, but I made sure he knew that my office is open on weekends and that others would be there.

He arrived, we met in a conference room, and I began to ask him questions relating to RE.  His answers were vague.  I started asking him questions related to info that he had previously told me and when his answers did not match, I called him on it.  That's when I got freaked out.  He started asking ME questions.  Personal questions.  REALLY personal questions, and obscene innuendos.  He even asked about my Partner and if we liked living where we live!  I stood up and told him the meeting was over and that he MUST leave.  I walked him out and locked the door behind him and told my receptionist that if he came back to call 911.

The following Monday, he sent me another email apologizing for his behavior and that I MUST let him make it up to me.  For that week, he emailed me almost daily with phrases like "I don't give up or take no for an answer", "when I want something, I go for it", etc..... OMG!

F-R-E-A-K!  I printed out his emails and was getting ready to contact the police, when they stopped.

I am very cautious now when talking to new prospects, because what I thought would never happen, did.  I am thankful that I didn't agree to meet at a property.

 

3:47pm • #99
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Yikes Mike! Glad you are safe too! What is the matter with people? It really doesn't matter who we are as individuals - there are people out there that are not right in the head and are out to do others harm. all we can do is watch out for our selves and take every precaution available to us to keep us safe. I have children at home who need a mom and no job is ever worth that risk.

I am jsut afarid that there are a lot of new stagers and new real estate professionals who will get excited about the prospect of earning some money, finally putting their talents to work, building their portfolio or client base and forget - or not listen or see the red flags. I honestly almost didn't and I shudder to think of what could have happened.

Thank you for sharing your story as I am sure it will enlighten many more people that don't think it could happen to them.

Stay safe everyone!

5:19pm • #100
MAR
16
2008

Thank you for your post, Cari!  I am always afraid that I am just being paranoid when I get feelings like that, but stories like yours make me realize I should always trust my instincts like you did!

8:45am • #101

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