Missing someone you love at Christmas

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 GREC# 169695

If I've heard it once, I've heard it one thousand times that the first "Christmas", "birthday" or whatever holiday without someone is the worst.  I don't buy that.  I saw my own Grandmother miss my Papa for 30 years.  I don't imagine that any of them were easy for her.  When you love someone and they have gone on before you, you miss them.  

reminderI of course believe some deaths are easier to live with than others.  Loosing my Grandmother who was 92 was certainly easier to face and live with than loosing cousins in their teens and 30s.  It was this recent photo that my daughter took at her great grandmother's internment that made me stop and think about this.  When Kerrie set the rules for the December cloud burst contest she asked us to make someone's day, and what better way than to remember and be extra kind to someone who is missing someone at the holidays.  

I know my sister in laws will be missing their sons.  I have dear friends who have lost children and spouses.  And while time may make less the intense grief we all experience I don't imagine any amount of time heals the wounds of loss of someone that you love.  Abigail's great grandmother had 40 Christmas mornings without her husband.  40.  Reach out to someone this year who is missing a loved one.  And it doesn't matter if the loss was this year, last year or 40 years ago.

Paying for the person behind you at Starbucks is a worthy thing to do, and I'm not suggesting it isn't.  But taking the time to spend with someone who has an aching heart because they miss someone they love won't cost you anything and certainly could make their day.  And I'm sure you know you someone who is missing a loved one.


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Gloria Todor
Century 21 Absolute Realty - Media, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Tammy, A very nice post.  This time of year is so hard on people.  I know some people that have lost so many people they just do not want to even engage in the holiday fuss they just want it to be over.

Spending time with people is such a gift.

All the best to you and yours this holiday season.



Dec 16, 2013 03:00 AM #1
Liz Wallace
Century 21 Sherlock Homes - Rockville Centre, NY
Broker C21 Sherlock Homes, Rockville Centre, LI, N

Well Peach you hit the nail right on the head.  Good Old Southern Common Sense.  It is a lot harder to give time than to give money and so the thing that is the hardest is the next thing to do.  Merry Christmas.

Dec 16, 2013 03:06 AM #2
Brad MacKenzie
Brad MacKenzie - Duxbury, MA
Turning Houses into Homes on the South Shore

True. Sad and true. The holidays can be very tough on people. Love the ones you have!

Dec 16, 2013 03:15 AM #3
Trisha Bush-LeFore
Preferred Properties Land & Homes - Walla Walla, WA
Providing Realtor Services in the Walla Walla Area


I to believe that our time is worth more to people than money. Taking the time to show people that you care, spending time with them, or doing some little chore or that something extra that will make their day brighter or their burden lighter is the best.

Dec 16, 2013 03:24 AM #4
Barbara Altieri
RealtyQuest/Kinard Realty Group, Fairfield and New Haven County CT Real Estate - Shelton, CT
REALTOR-Fairfield County CT Homes/Condos For Sale

Tammy -- Well said. I miss all my angels in heaven. Yes, holidays can be tough. For those who have lost, it's always best to share time with those who care... and understand.


Dec 16, 2013 04:45 AM #5
Laura Allen, Lake Tahoe - Truckee Real Estate for Sale www.TahoeLauraLuxuryHomes.com
Coldwell Banker, Tahoe City, CA (530) 414-1260 - Tahoe City, CA
Tahoe Real Estate Agent Helping Buyers and Sellers

Tammy - The gift of time is a priceless one, so share it with those that you love!

Dec 16, 2013 05:28 AM #6
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

I see sadness in some of my friends and family during the holiday season.  I can't imagine what I'd be like without my wife or my son...  

Dec 16, 2013 07:19 AM #7
Rebecca Foresee
Alain Pinel Realtors - Morgan Hill, CA
Let's foresee the possibilities . and get results!

Tammy, Beautiful sentiment and well written.  Time is precious and sharing it with others is priceless.

Dec 16, 2013 11:31 AM #8
Thom Abbott
MyMidtownMojo.com |770.713.1505 | Intown Atlanta GA Condo Living - Atlanta, GA
Midtown Atlanta GA Condos For Sale

Well said my friend. 

Dec 16, 2013 11:34 AM #9
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Gloria- I can imagine those feelings

Liz- I love to give my time.  

Brad- now that I make sure I do

Trisha- I agree

Barbara- I think that helps

Laura- absolutely

Jared- a puddle

Thank you Thom.

Dec 16, 2013 11:59 AM #10
Carla Muss-Jacobs, Principal Broker (503) 810-7192
BuyersAgentPortland.com | Portland Metro Exclusive Buyers Agent | 100% Buyer Representation ~ 100% of the Time - Portland, OR
Buyer Focused ~ Buyer Results

I never had a husband to spend Christmas with.  Probably never will.  Can a person miss what they've never had, or will?  

Dec 19, 2013 02:14 PM #11
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