If I've heard it once, I've heard it one thousand times that the first "Christmas", "birthday" or whatever holiday without someone is the worst. I don't buy that. I saw my own Grandmother miss my Papa for 30 years. I don't imagine that any of them were easy for her. When you love someone and they have gone on before you, you miss them.
I of course believe some deaths are easier to live with than others. Loosing my Grandmother who was 92 was certainly easier to face and live with than loosing cousins in their teens and 30s. It was this recent photo that my daughter took at her great grandmother's internment that made me stop and think about this. When Kerrie set the rules for the December cloud burst contest she asked us to make someone's day, and what better way than to remember and be extra kind to someone who is missing someone at the holidays.
I know my sister in laws will be missing their sons. I have dear friends who have lost children and spouses. And while time may make less the intense grief we all experience I don't imagine any amount of time heals the wounds of loss of someone that you love. Abigail's great grandmother had 40 Christmas mornings without her husband. 40. Reach out to someone this year who is missing a loved one. And it doesn't matter if the loss was this year, last year or 40 years ago.
Paying for the person behind you at Starbucks is a worthy thing to do, and I'm not suggesting it isn't. But taking the time to spend with someone who has an aching heart because they miss someone they love won't cost you anything and certainly could make their day. And I'm sure you know you someone who is missing a loved one.