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For Better Client Communication - Become a Parrot

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Marte Cliff Copywriting

Become a parrot? What does that mean?

Becoming a parrot means repeating back what has been said to you, and it will serve you well in 3 ways:for better communication become a parrot

  • You'll have to actually listen to what your client is saying - rather than think ahead to what you are going to say in response.
  • Your client will see that you're really listening.
  • Your misconceptions and questions about what they've said can be cleared up immediately.

If you repeat what another person has said, you'll hopefully be thinking about those words. If their meaning isn't crystal clear, you can preface the statement by saying "What did you mean when you said..." You can also say "Please tell me more about..."

Not long ago I received a completed agent questionnaire prior to writing a bio. When asked about hobbies, pets, etc. the agent had written "My family and I have a miniature horse farm." What did that mean? Did they have a mini-farm or did they raise miniature horses? I wrote back to ask, and the answer was miniature horses.

Most would find it extremely irritating if you repeated EVERYTHING they said. But when it comes to the important points, parroting can help you communicate more clearly and efficiently.

Had my client been your buyer talking about needing a property where he could set up a miniature horse farm, you just might need to know what he was talking about.

Comments(42)

Phil Stevenson, CRMP
PS Mortgage Lending 305-791-4874 or 888-845-6630 - Miami, FL
"Mortgage Nerd" in Miami, Florida and Texas

Marte, communication is key in every deal. This is why I always explain everything more than one because things can get lost in translation as you have demonstrated above. Going into anything having doubts is never good business so make sure both sides are clear on the information that exchanged and what is expected. Being a parrot can save you and your clients from making a mistake in most situations.

Jan 27, 2014 04:44 AM
Bette Gottwald
UNITED REAL ESTATE | Central PA - Mechanicsburg, PA
"Bet"on Central PA Real Estate!

Marte, I enjoyed your post and totally agree with you. Parroting is an important sales tool and a forced discipline that will actually improve our listening skills

Jan 27, 2014 04:59 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Phil - When you can dispel doubts, everyone is happier and more relaxed.

Bette - I like that: "forced discipline." Discipline is not a really popular concept today, but it's something we all need in our lives.

Jan 27, 2014 06:03 AM
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-739-3843

Marte, excellent points.

I try to repeat their names a few times, too. It helps me remember their names as I'm a visual person not an audial person. HOWEVER, sometimes my hearing isn't the best--the other day, I called a fellow Brian THREE TIMES and he never corrected me (while we were on the phone) until when I asked to get his e-mail and he spelled it out, it was actually RYAN. Duhhhpppp!!! Well, of course I apologized (tail between the legs), but he was quite fine with it. Thank goodness.

Jan 27, 2014 10:56 AM
Rosie Crow
Serving Sugar Land, Richmond, Rosenberg, Missouri City - Sugar Land, TX
Exceeding Expectations. Delivering Results

I love your parrot analogy. Repeating what your client says reassures them that you are listening attentively to their needs and concerns. We need to be active listeners.

Jan 27, 2014 01:20 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Gayle - That WAS embarrasing. But, maybe he realizes that he doesn't enunciate clearly. One of my worst problems when I was an agent was being unable to remember people's names. Especially if they stopped in to talk and then didn't come back for a year. It annoys me when people know my name and I have no idea who they are - that happened to me in a store here last week. Who WAS that guy? I have no idea.

Rosie - I think it's especially valuable to people who have had "service" from agents who didn't listen.

Jan 27, 2014 01:26 PM
Eric Galuppo
Real Estate Rev - More Leads Means More Revenue

I agree! It is kind of irritating if you repeated everything they said. I admit that I find it irritating when I ask someone a question then they’re going to repeat the question just to clarify things.

 

But still, I agree with you, in this business, parroting is a good idea.

Jan 29, 2014 05:51 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Eric - Even chocolate ceases to be good when you get too much of it.

Jan 29, 2014 06:08 AM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Hello Marte and another wonderful post ... "How would you like to write for Vegas Bob's blog/ posts???

VB

Jan 29, 2014 11:10 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Vegas Bob - I'd love it. But I don't think you need a ghostwriter. You do a fine job all by yourself.

Jan 29, 2014 12:51 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

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Feb 01, 2014 09:48 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Marte,

I'm coming over from Kathy's post on her "Ah-ha" moments for the week. Your post is a great choice! I believe in asking questions to clarify when someone makes a statement. You are right you need to know exactly what you are dealing with to help your client. Repeating or asking questions to clarify will only help you get the full picture on how you can best preform your job. Excellent post!

Feb 01, 2014 09:33 PM
Liz Wallace
Century 21 Sherlock Homes - Rockville Centre, NY
Broker C21 Sherlock Homes, Rockville Centre, LI, N

So glad that Kathy featured this.  The parrot response also works very well when a client makes a ridiculous statement.  When you repeat it back they actually sometimes hear how far fetched it is.

Feb 01, 2014 10:39 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Thank you Kathy - and thanks for reminding me that I need to take time today to visit your post and read the others!

Dorie - Sometimes what people say isn't quite what they meant - and it's good for you to know right away.

Liz - A good way to avoid saying "Can you possibly mean that?"

Feb 02, 2014 01:33 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Excellent advice!  Too often people are more concerned with their reply than what's being said.  

Feb 02, 2014 09:35 AM
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

My husband does this and I've learned that it really helps, and do it as well now.

Feb 02, 2014 11:20 AM
Tanya Van Blake-Coleman
Van Blake-Coleman Realty, St. Thomas/www.talk-to-Tanya.com - St Thomas, VI
Improving the Quality of Your Life

I like using the questions rather than just repeating what someone else has said. It is a great listening technique I will use. Thank you!

Feb 02, 2014 12:01 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Sharon - Yes, they're thinking ahead to what they'll say when the other person pauses.

Rebecca - Awful when we have to admit that we can learn good things from our spouses.

Tanya - Questions are good - and as long as they related to what the person just said, they still show that you were paying attention.

Feb 02, 2014 02:25 PM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Marte, parroting keeps much misunderstanding from happening!

Feb 03, 2014 05:46 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Connie - Exactly. And at the same time, it builds confidence because your clients know you've been listening.

Feb 03, 2014 06:01 AM