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Does it Bother You If Your Friends, Relatives Don't Use Your Services?

Reblogger Beth and Richard Witt

Managing Real Estate Broker

February 21, 2014 11:10 AM

I am sure that we have all felt slighted when a friend or family member uses another realtor to buy or list their home. For sure I have!

After reading this post of Noah's I don't think I will feel as slighted in the future.

It's so wise to always look at the big picture before condemning the actions of others and so "Good for our bodies".

Another good Noah post... enjoy it... and learn a valuable lesson...

Ever get pissed off or feel hurt inside when you find out that your Uncle used another Realtor to list their home? Does it make you upset if your "best friend" uses a different person to find a home to buy? It can sting. It used to bother me.

I could not figure out why they did all not call me. Sure I have had a bunch of people close to me who have used me to buy or sell property, but not everyone. One day I was at a listing appointment and having a serious talk with the home owner a woman who had just been divorced. She is a financial planner and we started really hitting it off and talking about our work.

She said to me that her favorite neighbor across the street was a Realtor as we walked around. Then she said to me "heck I don't want her to know my business, that is why I called you". Then she said that she has someone do her finances, her 401k and IRA that she hired away from her own company.

As I left, contract in hand I got to thinking. I don't want to get too heavy here but if your Aunt Sally who you really loved was a doctor would you like to have her examine you in an intimate way to make sure you were healthy? Not me, I want someone I do not know all that well personally but professionally yes. Even if my aunt was top notch and it was common knowledge I think I would pass on a prostate exam.

Enough of that. Do not let your ego get hurt if you find out the friend of family member did not use you to buy or sell their home. It does not mean you are a bad Realtor. Do not hold any grudge inside about what that did and congratulate them when you hear, don't mention your feelings

Be a professional

Noah Seidenberg

Coldwell Banker Evanston

noah.seidenberg@cbexchange.com
Toll Free (800) 858-7917

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Real Estate Specialist Chicago-land and Suburbs

Licensed Illinois real estate broker

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Dave Rosenmarkle

Highland Realty, Inc - Fairfax, VA

33 years of providing fully satisfying service!

Hmm... Sometimes this can be a real conundrum. There are relatives in my wife's side of the family that I literally cringe when I think they may be about to ask for real estate assistance. I don't want to know their personal stuff and, I don't want to be the lightning rod when something doesn't go to their way of thinking it should.

There are some relatives I would give the shirt off my back and would do anything real estate-wise I could to be of help. But, I know these folks will be appreciative regardless of how the transaction plays out, because they know and accept that there is only so much we can do as advocates on their behalf.

For me, it's really a case-by-case situation and, what the potential familial relationship risks are that need to be considered before taking on a relative as a client.

Feb 21, 2014 10:38 PM

Beth and Richard Witt

New York, NY

The best Retired Brokers !!!!

I see your point Dave... I may even agree that it's a case-by-case situation... thanks for stopping by...

Feb 21, 2014 10:46 PM

John Owen

RE/MAX Impact Realty, Brokerage - Courtice, ON

Broker serving Durham Region, Ontario

Richard and Beth - Thanks for reblogging this post. It does make sense that people that are close can feel put off by having their intimate (financial) details exposed and this article puts things in perspective.

Feb 21, 2014 10:53 PM

I enjoy following Noah because he always teaches me something of value...

Feb 21, 2014 11:05 PM

Geri Sonkin

Douglas Elliman Real Estate 516-457-7103 - Merrick, NY

Long Island Real Estate & Staging Expert

It bothered the hell out of me when a close relative chose to sell a home I sold them, through another broker. Took a long time to get over. I guess I'm not evolved enough yet.

Feb 21, 2014 11:42 PM

Jon Kolsky

Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA

Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Richard & Beth~ great re-blast, thanks for sharing... Noah hits it out of the park! & yes "go with a pro or don't go at all"

Feb 22, 2014 12:50 AM

Toni Weidman

Sailwinds Realty - Trinity, FL

20+ Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL

There were several agents in my last neighborhood, Beth. Some sellers wouldn't choose any of us because they were afraid to hurt someone else's feelings.

Feb 22, 2014 06:37 AM

Joe Petrowsky

Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT

Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Beth. There is a purpose and reason for everything, as you well know. At the time we don't always understand the message, but over time we understand.

Feb 22, 2014 08:58 PM

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