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Activerain Gives "Active" Boomers The Advantage

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Mortgage and Lending with Equity Resources NMLS 67179 Licensed in NC

Perspective after a strokeOn March 26th, I woke up in a different body... literally.  I had a stroke, and there are some pretty important lessons I've learned in the past month, that could change your life too.  

The  first thing I think everyone should know is that not all strokes leave you with the inability to talk, or with typical reflex problems- I was diagnosed first with an inner ear infection, and then with MS, before the 3rd MRI showed that it was in fact a stroke - nearly a week after it happened.  

If you (or someone you are caring for) have balance issues, high blood pressure (mine was 168/122 when I entered the Emergency Room), double vision - and the MRI says, no stroke... have them look at the Brain Stem.  

My stroke was in the "neck" area - and as opposed to "Brain" strokes, it is pretty much effecting everything "below" the brain.  Most MRI's only look kind of from your ears up - where most people have strokes.  Brain Stem Strokes are rare, but just as life changing.  

I'm left with weakness on my left side (I can lift 40 pounds more weights with my right leg than my left), and I have no feeling on my right side.  There are a few other issues, like double vision most of the time (my left eye sags a little),  I have some issues "recalling" words, but over all I'm SOOO lucky!  I can talk, write (with one eye shut) and move around on my own!

I had no history of high blood pressure, no high colesterol, no diabetes, never smoked.  I was not one of those people this was "suppose" to happen to.  But - I'm going to be 55 next week, and this was my wake up call.

Social Media "Active Boomers" Have The Advantage

After my inital Stroke Assessment /Physical Therapy session (which was tough - because the entire hour was a process of "proving" what I can NOT do...)  I looked at the Therapist and said, "Well, the good news is, I'm not afraid to learn new things." 

She looked at me like I had 2 heads.

"Well, "I said, "it's been my observation, that most Baby Boomers don't like to learn new things - that's not been a problem for me. I like learning how to do new things, I like learning how to maximize the newest tools.  I KNOW that I'm okay with change, and that's what I'm bringing with me each time I walk into these Physical Therapy doors."

I think that any Boomer who has taken the time to learn how to Network, using Social Media - who is blogging on Activerain, who is embracing Dropbox on their smart phone, is TWO legs up on all of the other "old people" out there.  

Active, is not just about running 3 miles a day.  I know plenty of 50 and 60 year olds who are "fit," and then look like they ate a persimmon if I send them a Text message and don't call them first to let them know it's coming.  Get with it!  

Yes, having Activerain, and other platforms that allow me to interact is helping.  Social Networks keep me from being isolated, when I have no choice but to "work" (and rest) from home by myself. But that's such a small part of the benefit.

Learning how to do "new things" with technology, adapting to what works (and what doesn't work) in this new "internet" marketing era - gives me confidence that I CAN be successful and handle change. This awareness has taken the FEAR out of my current "un-known" situation.

Activerain "Boomers" Have The Advantage

Real Estate Industry ChangesImagine, I literally woke up a different person.  How scary would that be?  But in reality, many people in the Real Estate Industry have experienced just that.

We were all cruising along, placing ads in the local news paper, and selling houses, scooping up leads from our neighbors and local Chamber contacts.  WOW! That changed.  

We went from a Real Estate "MLS" centric Industry, to one that is now concentraing on a different conversation.

You don't see as many successful "great big box" Real Estate offices in our area. Smaller, boutique focused Real Estate shops are thriving.

The offices that are client centric are becoming the "disruptinator" forces  - and the way you adapt, and the way you continue to change in the face of this Industry shift, helps you prepare for the next day you wake up... and everything has changed.

What I've learned is that those of us who are continually changing, and learning and adapting, are now so much more ready for the inevitable LIFE and "aging" changes coming our way.

My children and my friends are not as afraid of these changes I'm going through - because they've seen that I CAN learn, I can throw myself into the next phase, and come out ahead of the game!

Thank You For My Advantage

I guess what I'm trying to say is, "Thank you." Activerain was the FIRST "new thing" I tried - and it's proven to be MY advantage.

Thank you to all of my Activerain friends who have helped me learn that blogging does pay off (We've made thousands and thousands of dollars from our Activerain Blog).  Thank you for taking my phone calls when I didn't understand how something works.

Thank you for teaching me, and reaching out to me when I've needed your support.  Having inspiration, lunch, and so much support from AR friends like Pamela St. Peter and Nannette Turner have made this past month so much easier.

I'm okay.  I woke up a month ago with a different body - but I'm teaching it new tricks, and I expect before the end of the summer I'll be able to play "Mother May I" with the best of them!  

Each day is still all about perspective, and attitude :) If you have been reluctant to try something new, I encourage you to try.  You never know, it could change your life.

Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

Eleanor - wow, you are so right.  Having the right attitude can make all the difference.  You are a survivor and adaptor for sure.

Apr 25, 2014 08:18 PM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Eleanor, you may have woken up in a different body, but your positive attitude shines through. You've proven that nothing is impossible.

Apr 25, 2014 10:42 PM
Sophia Lin
Intero Real Estate Services - Sunnyvale, CA
Sunnyvale CA Real Estate Specialist

Hi Eleanor, first off I want to say I'm sorry to hear about your stoke. I'm  happy to hear your doing well.  As a boomer myself,  I am experiencing varies health challenges as well.  I'm trying to be more like you and embrace changes. It's difficult, but I'm trying. Take care & good luck.

Apr 25, 2014 11:05 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

The fragility of life and its lessons is well presented here...Thank you for your posting

Apr 26, 2014 12:12 AM
Margaret Woda
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc. - Crofton, MD
Maryland Real Estate & Military Relocation

Oh my goodness! That must have been a terrifying experience. But you have the attitude to cope with and master the changes in your life. 'Sending hugs and prayers for you and your family.

Apr 26, 2014 12:12 AM
Gary McNinch
Better Properties Real Estate - Renton, WA
Broker, Renton WA Real Estate

Heal up, move forward at a high rate, kick it's butt.  Take time to enjoy and we will send you prayers.  Those were all my first thoughts after reading your post.  Isn't life great where we can take so much of what we learn in one place and apply it to others.  Good luck!

Apr 26, 2014 02:07 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Eleanor, Thank you for your courage to share your story and experience with us here in the Rain. You are a strong and courageous woman. Your belief if yourself, your willingness and desire to overcome, and how you embrace change will cause you to be back better than ever.

Apr 26, 2014 02:56 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Eleanor- I can only imagine what you've been going through and I love the upbeat tone of your post.  I suspect that this is the real YOU!  I thank you for sharing this with us and for encouraging us with your own courage. 

Apr 26, 2014 03:08 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

What a great and inspiring story to share. My best wishes to you for continued recovery.

Apr 26, 2014 11:22 PM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Eleanor, your attitude can't be beat! Sorry you're dealing with this challenge, but I suspect you'll do just fine. Thanks for sharing your story

Apr 27, 2014 02:04 AM
Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

Hi Eleanor, Thanks for giving me inspiration, as my favorite Aunt needs support with the passing of my Uncle this morning. Evelyn and I are her only relatives left for her to lean on. She needs to begin a new life and with your message, I'm sure that we will be able to give her the guidance and support she needs. 

Apr 27, 2014 03:22 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Hi, Eleanor!  Just wanted to let you know that I included this post in today's Last Week's Favorites. 

Also, my own experience with phsical therapy?  They kid about being 'Physical Terrorists"!  But I was lucky to have gotten some good meanies while I went through knee rehab.  Stay will and keep blogging!

Apr 27, 2014 03:43 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I hope you are improving with therapy.  A very good friend had a stroke at my house a year and half or so ago.  I am not sure I would have recognized the event had my daughter not been a medic and enough of her medical training rubbed off from me helping her study over the years.  

Apr 27, 2014 05:19 AM
Erika Madsen
eXp Realty - Mesa, AZ
eXp Realty Broker ~ CE Instructor ~ elm Biz De

I LOVE you Lady!! Stay Strong - just like you always have been... and keep doing the work!! 

You are an INSPIRATION to all of us to simply remember that WE control our attitude!! 

 

Apr 27, 2014 07:41 AM
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

WOW -- when you have your inner-ear infection did you also suffer with vertigo?  I had that symptom a few months ago.  Now I'm concerned.  Best of health to you!

Apr 27, 2014 07:58 AM
Eleanor Thorne
Equity Resources - Cary, NC
Advantage Lending 919-649-5058

Carla - I was mis-diagnosed with an inner ear infection.  It was actually just a stroke.  It seemed like that might be the issue, because I was so dizzy, etc.  But I added other issues to the list as the day went on.  My stroke is in my neck (it won't ever go away, so I don't use the past tense).  It's a "leison" that is pushing against my spinal chord.  I have multiple physical challenges, but all are getting better day by day.

 

Apr 28, 2014 03:51 AM
Eleanor Thorne
Equity Resources - Cary, NC
Advantage Lending 919-649-5058

The response from the ActiveRain Community has been AMAZING.

I've gotten MANY calls and messages outside from this comment stream, from those of you I know - and many of you that that I've never spoken to before.

Thank you all for your kind words, your calls, text messages and concern.  I wrote this to confirm that change can be difficult to accept - but there have also been sooo many great moments of growth and awareness.

It really comes down to carrying a little extra patience in your pocket, and continuing to try new things (I walked backwards and side stepped today) / even when your brain thinks you might go into full tilt!!

Apr 28, 2014 03:59 AM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
HomeSmart - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Wow Eleanor, you sound like an amazing person! You will be able to deal with anything life throws at you. You are an inspiration to us all.

Apr 28, 2014 02:14 PM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

Perhaps one of my favorite reads of yours ever, Eleanor.  Fantastic perspective and oh so true.  Glad you are okay:)

May 28, 2014 05:50 AM
Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Your story has been a blessing to me, and I've shared it with friends here in Tucson.  Blessings on your day!

Mike in Tucson

Jul 18, 2014 03:41 AM