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Rainers Of The Lost Art...Of Mentoring!!!

By
Title Insurance with Patriot Land Transfer, Inc.

 Mentoring is defined in the dictionary as advising or imparting wisdom! Actually although the concept of 'mentoring' has been around for ages, the term 'mentoring' is relatively new...in previous generations it was referred to as teaching, apprenticing, training, or on the job instruction...with paradigm shifts occurring so rapidly, this was one concept that got thrown out with the wash water...or just slipped through the cracks, or putting it more bluntly, has fallen into disuse!

When I broke into real estate, my broker/mentor suggested that I spend as much time possible listening in on phone conversations by him and other seasoned agents in the office...there were about 8 or 10 of us in the office at that time, and although we had seperate desks we were not confined to cubicles or relegated to private offices..and the seasoned agents took the 'newbies' under their wings and graciously imparted as much wisdom as possible...it was truly a team/family atmosphere...don't get me wrong there was plenty of competition within the office for listings an/or buyer prospects...but the competition was always healthy and civil!

 Enter the age of 'greed' and 'undue competition'...which invites me to recall a sage old economics proverb: "Excess profits bring undue competition"...is that what's happened in our industry...were more and more agents and brokers motivated by rising commissions on rising property values...that's a discussion for another post and another time.

Getting back to mentoring---now with the advent of the internet, e-mail, cell phones, smart phones...it is even easier for every real estate agent to become an island of their own!

Now the increased flexibility allows great latitude and freedom...to work from the home, from the car, even between meetings or seminars from remote locations far from 'the office'...if there even is an office!!! You get my gist?

 So how has the 'lack of mentoring' or at least the dilution of mentoring affected our real estate industry?

One thing already evident and proven by statistics is the low level of credibility to which real estate agents have sunk...why their trust level is even lower than attorneys, and that's sinking pretty low...again, another topic for another time!

Just a small disclaimer here...The professionals that I interact with on a regular basis...real estate agents, brokers, lender reps, lawyers, etc., are people whom I highly respect and who have earned my trust and recommendation...and that takes me full circle to 'mentoring' and what I'm trying to get across...

Mentoring is NECESSARY, TIME CONSUMING, ONGOING, ESSENTIAL, RARE-BUT-NOT-LOST, CRUCIAL, CARING, DEMANDING, and a VIRTUE worth cultivating if our industry is to rise to the level of trust and respectability we all so sincerely desire!!!

 I'm a title agent, but Real Estate and how its business is conducted affects me greatly, both on a personal and a professional level!

Next Tuesday, I will spend an hour or so with a new real estate agent...Not a lot of time but enough to establish the beginning of a long term relationship and impart some knowledge and wisdom of the business which I have been so fortunate to enjoy for many years...giving back a little, mentoring, just being accessible is what it's all about...and it makes you feel good!!!

                                                     

 

Kevin Whitehorn
Filibi.com - Flagstaff, AZ
Real Estate Advertising/Marketing

Great topic Fran, and the best part about being a mentor is the questions the mentee asks.  Sometimes you have to think or re-think about something you haven't had to think about in a long time.  It's second nature to you, but having to explain it to someone new, makes you think.

Kevin

 

Mar 27, 2008 02:38 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Kevin,

Right...there are no dumb questions, only dumb answers!!! :) Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 02:41 AM
Audrey June-Forshey
RE/MAX Realty Services - Darnestown, MD
GRI, Gaithersburg, MD
Fran, when I was new, it was pretty much the same process as Judi's. I learned some, but came up with most of my material on my own.  Howeve, I think the business is much different today than it was back then.   It took me a long time to put my marketing materials/dialogue, but think I have a pretty good system down.  I have shared ALL of my materials with new and veteran agents in my office in an effort to help all of them succeed.  I think if more folks had the sharing, helping attitude it would be a better place for all.  Great post to remind us to help and mentor others.
Mar 27, 2008 02:57 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Audrey,

If I teach you all that I know...you should be capable of exceeding my achievements, because now you know all I know plus what you know!!! Simple, isn't it!!! :) Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 03:02 AM
Sarah Berger
R.J. Smith Realty/Real Estate Solutions - Ellenville, NY
Great information.  We always try to be mentors to each other in our office.  Agents that have been here for a long time are often asked if new agents can "shadow" them for a day.  They may get to go on a listing appointment, go out with Buyers, go to a closing, etc.  There is no better experience than getting to see someone who you look up to and aspire to be like in action!  I once had a boss (an attorney) who told me that I should be paying him - "this isn't work, it's school".  He was right - I learned more than I could have if I was in a classroom!
Mar 27, 2008 04:20 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Sarah,

I like when the Mentor takes the initiative, and doesn't feel pressured into the mentoring!!! Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 04:48 AM
Joeann Fossland
Advantage Solutions Group - Tucson, AZ
Master Certified Coach to Motivated Agents
Nice points you make and it doesn't surprise me this is something you give your time to! I find the payback is HUGE! I learn so much from the one's I give to. And teaching something always leads to re-examining your own business. Nice post from a nice guy!
Mar 27, 2008 06:27 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Joeann,

Thanks for the visit and the comment!!! Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 07:02 AM
Nicole West
MaxXx'D Out - Clarksville, TN
Fran, Graet advice.  I always learn a lot from listening to other talk on the phone.
Mar 27, 2008 08:04 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Nicole,

Good listeners are rare, hard to find, and worth their weight in gold!!! Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 08:15 AM
Rebecca Levinson, Real Estate Marketing and Online Advertising Consultant
Real Skillz-Clear Marketing for Your Real Estate Vision - Lake Geneva, WI

Fran,

When I started in this industry I worked for a real estate attorney and had a great mentor,a paralegal named Marsha.  She was patient and knowledgable.  After working with Marsha for three years,she passed away suddenly at the young age of 50.  I think of her and the time she took with me.  They were invaluable to my career.

I applaud any mentoring efforts.  I think you see this on some agent teams, but certainly the effort has dissipated.  You can witness this in the number of new agents leaving the business and those that applaud the exit.  Not all of them were in it for the quick buck. 

Mar 27, 2008 08:17 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Rebecca,

If there's any love in this business it's passed on through mentoring!!! Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 08:24 AM
Anonymous
Gina Gulliford
Fran, what a great post!  In fact, I just got a phone call yesterday and I got my first Mentee.  Our office always has a new agent mentored through the first two transactions.  I've had many transactions and I still feel very comfortable calling my mentor if I need to.  I, like you, believe mentoring, teaching, caring and modeling is a lost art.  I also believe it is vital to our real estate community and our extended community.  I was a Director of Mentoring for an Association that I belonged to previous to real estate and those relationships are still precious to me.  God bless.  Gina Gulliford, Long & Foster, Columbia, MD
Mar 27, 2008 11:12 AM
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Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Gina,

Thanks for the kind words...I'll bet you're a good mentor!!! Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 11:26 AM
Robert L. Brown
www.mrbrownsellsgr.com - Grand Rapids, MI
Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic
Now this was a refreshing post. taking time for other who may not be as knowledgeable as yourself. A lost and dying art. Thank you for the reminder.
Mar 27, 2008 01:20 PM
Anonymous
Anonymous

Fran,

Magnificent post....I agree about mentoring. I do my best to mentor where-ever possible and am always willing to help someone out if I have some spare hours in my week.

Congrats on your star!

Jo 

Mar 27, 2008 02:24 PM
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Christy Powers
Keller Williams Coastal Area Partners - Pooler, GA
Pooler, Savannah Real Estate Agent
It is so true. We are in a world where most people think of themselves first and foremost. And we want everything by yesterday!
Mar 27, 2008 02:32 PM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Robert: Thanks for dropping by!

Jo: :)

Christy: Unfortunately!!!

Thanks,   Fran

Mar 27, 2008 03:10 PM
Katherine Anderson
Coldwell Banker Hobin Realty, LLC - Hampton & Rye, NH, USA - Exeter, NH
Managing Broker
Fran:  I totally agree that mentoring is very important.  It isn't gone in all agencies though.  We mentor on a regular basis in our offices.  Our recruiting ads even use the words "constant mentoring".  Real estate is very local as are the customs in a particular area.  Although there is much to learn on the internet, it will never replace a personal mentor.  Obviously, I liked your post! :-)
Mar 28, 2008 02:26 AM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ

Katherine,

You and I are on the same wavelength!!! THanks,   Fran

Mar 28, 2008 03:13 AM