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The roller coaster of life, many times it's unfair and

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Mortgage and Lending with Canopy Mortgage - Leo Namiot 89769

The roller-coaster of life.... This is one ride I wish I had  choice on whether or not to get on. Adjusting to life after the ride.

Over the past 6 weeks I have been on a roller coaster ride which I wish I had choice whether  to ride or not, but in the game of life I guess we have no other choice but to play the game and ride that ride no matter how good or bad it may be.

Let's turn the clock back 9 months when my wife broke me the news that we were going to expect our first born some time around March 1st 2008... This was great news!  Every was going great and no issues with the new baby and mom was dealing great with everything. We had chosen not to know if we were having a boy or a girl so we would be surprised.

Now we forward to Feb 18th, 2008. My cell phone rings @ 4:45am, The first thought is my wife had her water break since we are a couple of weeks away from our due date (my wife is working, she works the in the medical field and works the 7pm-7am shift). I pick up the phone and it's my mother, she says the worse thing I think I could have heard "Leo, your father is dead" " He never came to bed last night and I went to check on him thinking he fell asleep watching the game last night and he is dead in the chair" . What a shocker and major blow to me, this was totally unexpected, he was not sick, I was just with him on Thursday and we were planning to meet at my office on Tuesday. We last spoke Thursday and he said "I will see you Tuesday". My father and I were very close , we spent a lot of time working with each other over the years, going to countless yankees games from childhood through adult and so much more.

While having to deal with the worse week of my life I had to keep my business a float as I have an active pipeline, I had to help my mother get straightened out with everything and keep focused that I have a new baby due to arrive soon.

10 Days after my fathers death (after  just turning 63 in Jan) my wife was scheduled to be induced, we checked in the Hospital on Feb 28th at about 7am, she was induced at 8am and countless hours later, no baby, the doctor had he starting to push at 10pm and the baby would not co-operate, ( note: my wife wanted to have the baby on the 28th as the 29th is leap year, thus the reason to induce at 8am on the 28th), finally after pushing for almost 2 hours the doctor said we need to go to plan "B" which really was plan "C" or C-section. At 1:55am came our little cute LEAP Year baby Jillian Leigh, It was the happiest and sadiest time of my life as I was not a father and 11 days prior I lost my father, the Grandpa that Jillian will never know.

After finally getting home with our new baby I spent the next week or so working from home as much as possible to help my wife with the new baby. Everything started to get back on track and then bam... I got one of the worse colds I every had and was basically out of work for 7 days! It was to tough that just checking e-mails was a project.

Today, I feel much better and hope to get back on track 100% Monday. This has been a horrible roller coaster ride and I hope to get off here today. You never know when the last time you see or talk to someone if that will be the very last, learn to appreciate others in your life more, spend more quality time with family and close friends.

Baby Jillian has helped bring some joy to our lives in a time when we really needed some.

Yesterday is a Cancelled Check, Today is Cash and Tomorrow is a Promissory Note

Live Life To the Fullest Everyday!

Comments (3)

Kevin Robinson
Twin Falls, ID
Fractional Developer
Leo I am sorry to hear about your loss. We went through the same thing. My grandmother died 3 days before our oldest son was born and my wifes dad died 1 week before our second son was born. It does make it tough, but you will make it. May God bless you.
Mar 30, 2008 04:16 AM
Vickie Nagy
Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate - Palm Springs, CA
Vickie Jean the Palm Springs Condo Queen

Your AR family shares in your sorrow...and your joy. As you say, focus on the future and the things that bring us joy.

Mar 30, 2008 04:18 AM
West Hartford CT Real Estate Agent | West Hartford Realtor | www.CTMike.com
ERA Broder Group - West Hartford, CT
Glad you had time to get it off your chest man. I could only imagine it was the hardest few weeks you ever had to go through. If it's any consolation at all, she really is a beautiful baby.
Mar 31, 2008 05:06 PM