Is Anybody Home?

It isn’t supposed to happen this way. And I was unprepared for it.

It was later than usual on Friday evening and this was the last house on our tour. The property was vacant, so the late hour didn’t pose a problem. Even in the last light of day, everything about this house was lovely – it was painted a pretty red hue, the yard had been lovingly tended, wisteria draped it’s long arms across the front porch like an old friend. A single electric candle burned in the attic window. It felt welcoming. The listing indicated it was bank-owned and had been on the market for several months. A bit unusual for our market, especially in this neighborhood. And it didn’t make sense.

My client stood back while I unlocked the front door. He waited for a proper invitation like the gentleman he is. The old and worn porch boards hadn’t been painted in years. I stepped softly in high heels to avoid catching my heel and tripping. In the quiet of the moment, the sudden click of the lockbox release nearly startled me. It was then that my eye caught the slightest movement through the beveled leaded glass door. There again, in the barest of light, stood a child inside, and then another, both quickly darting out of sight. Before I could even surmise the why of it, there was a young woman from around the corner. Our eyes made contact but for a moment and then she was gone. As though they were never there.

My heart was pounding as I turned and walked back toward my client. I took him by the arm, though I couldn’t say a thing. He seemed to know the words I couldn’t find. An entire story unfolding in my eyes.

Twilight is the saddest light there is. But for her, the woman who lost her home, it surely arrived as welcome relief. The time of day when she and her boys could finally return safely to the place they called home. That they are sleeping in the attic in what was once truly their home… well, what does she tell them? Their bedrooms now stripped of toys, blankets and beds… do they dare ask? She knows she is marking time until…

Alone now and barely a block from my office, I park my car under a tree. My phone begs for attention with a dozen missed calls and texts. I am breathing hard to stop the flood of tears, but they insist. I want to go back, tell her a thousand things to make it better. Present them hot nourishing food. Apologize for the abuses in our industry that may have played a role in their misfortune.

But I don’t really know. It dawns on me that I don’t hold a single answer. Was she at fault? Is she a victim? Whatever the truth, her children certainly are. This isn’t how it should be. Homeownership is the American Dream. And it isn’t supposed to happen this way.


 
Post is included in group: Realtors®
Post is included in group: Mortgages
Post is included in group: The Lounge at Active Rain
Post is included in group: Active Rain Addicts
Post is included in group: Family Ties

149 Comments on Is Anybody Home?

Jen Jen.... this almost started off like an Edgar Allan Poe short story...   ;o)    A tad ery at first...  

But yes... the American Dream should be filled with happiness and joy.... 

jeff belonger

04/03/2008 12:09 AM by Jeff Belonger -- The FHA Expert.com -- New Jersey mortgage -- FHA mortgages (Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc)


Whatever the truth, her children certainly are.

And no matter who's at fault...those are the innocent ones who pay dearly.

04/03/2008 12:17 AM by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman (RA), Hawaii Real Estate & Hawaii Relocation (Century 21 Liberty Homes -Mililani, Hawaii)


Jennifer- I would feel the same way emotionally about the children and yes, the children are the victims. But we can not become a society of everyone being a victim and no one accepting the consequences of their actions. It is a law of the universe; to ever action there is a consequence. I know, I have been there, done that and now a victim no more. I made a decision to accept FULL responsibility for EVERYTHING that ever happened to me and my children and that in so doing, I became empowered to do something about my circumstances. As long as I chose to remain a victim, I would never be able to make the changes in my life that I had made. It is very empowering to assume responsibility. Katerina

04/03/2008 12:18 AM by Nestor & Katerina Gasset, Realtors® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.)


I agree with Sally.  It is always a tragedy for the children.

04/03/2008 12:19 AM by Randy L. Prothero - Hawaii REALTOR® (Century 21 Liberty Homes)


Jennifer -

Yes, this is very sad and I have found it a difficult part of my job recently to deal with these families losing their homes, especially when this was their dream.  And you're right the children seem to always be the victims.  When a new young family purchases this same home at an affordable price and didn't have a hope of purchasing a home just a year ago, it nakes everything seem more worthwhile.  And their joy and appreciation can be infectious.  I'm trying to spend my days with this type of client now, so that my days are full of hope. 

Also, please be careful when entering these vacant homes.  We are finding more and more transients and squatters in vacant listings here.  And just yesterday, an agent in our office, discovered a REO listing of his actually rented out & someone starting to move in.  You just don't know what you are going to find in these homes now,

04/03/2008 12:19 AM by Lori Mode The Mode & DurhaM Team (Keller Williams Realty)


Thanks for sharing your story with everyone, it is so sad especially for the children.

Patty & Scott Carroll - RE/MAX Equity Group Vancouver WA

04/03/2008 12:27 AM by Patty & Scott Carroll - RE/MAX, Vancouver WA (RE/MAX Equity Group)


The children, the children are the true victims in these situations. We are adults and responsible for every decision we make. Our children look up to us for guidance and protection.

I had to face a similar situation, but she lived in the garage with her daughter. The little angel opened the door and her mother rushed to the door and shoved the door in my face. Told me I could only show the house not the garage. Later I found out that they had turned the garage into their home until their lender's final decision.

04/03/2008 12:36 AM by Camarillo CA Real Estate Agent/ Mana Tulberg (Beach View Real Estate)


I am kind of confused on this, I understand the sympathy of the kids and everything and that is not the sorce of my confusion... Camarillo's comment added to my confusion, maybe either of you can help me here...

they had turned the garage into their home until their lender's final decision.....

have they not been properly evicted from the home, papers on the doors etc. or do the banks do things differently out west. My parents do short sales and are investors and the banks cannot list the home or anything like that unless the foreclosure process has gone full course (and the lender has made final decision to say goodbye to them) :-\

please don't take it wrong I am not asking this to be cruel or rude or anything of the such especially being there are children involved I just do not understand how these people are getting away with staying there and you are showing the home without the bank foreclosure being completed (ie. sheriff sale + redemption period up, home tagged and whatnot)

04/03/2008 01:25 AM by Chris Horton (Horton's Lawn Care L.L.C.)


Jennifer, I feel your heart, it is so sad when people and especially children lose their homes. I would have bawled too, they obviously had no place else to go and even through this house was bare, it was still home. 

04/03/2008 06:46 AM by Missy Caulk Ann Arbor Real Estate (Keller Williams Ann Arbor, Michigan)


This is such a poignant post, Jennifer, and the comments are just as telling.

A house is the only asset that provides collateral, the opportunity for gain and loss and a place to live. So among the financial implications of the dirt and structure there is the human expectation that a sanctuary will await within the walls.

A stock ceritificate can't keep you dry in a pounding thunderstorm. You can't bake a birthday cake inside a Treasury bill or hold a wake under an oil futures contract.

We live and die in our homes. Our loved ones live and die in their homes. Should people receive free houses and sanctuaries? No.

Is there more to a home than loan payoffs, defaults, foreclosures, penalties, tax liens? Usually there's no one left inside to tell that story. Well, almost no one in your case.

 

04/03/2008 06:47 AM by Andrew J. Lenza (ABR*GRI*MBA) Monmouth County NJ Real Estate Broker (Andrew J. Lenza Realty)


that is a real heart breaker, and it's little consolation that your not to blame for this women situation I'm afraid the next stop for me would have been a local bar. What can I say but good luck! Steve

04/03/2008 07:03 AM by Alpine Lakes Real Estate


Too sad, I pray they find a better life.  Thanks for sharing this story.

04/03/2008 07:43 AM by Ruth Rivera - West Volusia Real Estate (Red Door Distinctive Realty)


This is the second type story I've read today... and it makes me think that we are in the worst position possible as professionals in this business... guilt on so many levels.  Prayers.  That's all we can do right now.

04/03/2008 07:52 AM by Eleanor Thorne, Cary Mortgage Loans (Meridian Residential)


Jennifer, I had been offered doing REO sales for one of the mortgage companies.  I couldn't stomach the part of evicting the  families.  I just cant.  I have not had that happen here in our area, where the family is still in the house some how? 

We have so many foreclosures in our area, typically when you walk in they can be so gross you wonder who could live that way, it makes you forget that there is a real human story connected to the home.

Your posts makes us stop and think about the kids.

04/03/2008 08:01 AM by Audrey June-Forshey, GRI, Gaithersburg, MD (RE/MAX Realty Group)


Jennifer - This story tore my heart out.  As you indicated, we don't know the reason that this happened to the young woman and her children, but they really are innocent victims here.  Thanks, as always, for sharing your unique writing gift.

04/03/2008 09:34 AM by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (Austin Texas Homes, LLC)


Wow, Jennifer what a scary and sad story. Are you sure it was their home and they weren't just homeless and found a vacant home to stay in. I've been hearing more stories of this lately, I have one client that didn't want me to use a lock box or sign because of this. (I said no to that) But she really was scared of that as it had happened to her before.

04/03/2008 09:39 AM by Todd Clark (Realtor), GRI (Washington Co, Beaverton, Oregon) (Kastings & Associates, Oregon)


Jennifer,

  This is a very sad story. Anybody who loses their home this day and age is a "Victim" in my opinion, no matter what the circumstances. Our society in the Richest Nation in the World is too busy saving third world countries and NOT taking care of our own. I will now get off my soap box !

04/03/2008 09:52 AM by Silver Legacy Properties,Inc.


Crushing tale. I got choked up reading it. No fault, no blame, we all know the cold hard facts of what goes on in these situations. Yet I can't help but feel terrible about not only the kids, but a mother who I am sure lives with the guilt of having failed them. Very moving Jennifer. Thanks for sharing...

04/03/2008 10:05 AM by Scott Geary Pennsylvania Mortgage Broker (First Choice Equity Group Inc)


I guess I'm lucky in that I've only run across surly tenants that were not happy about moving.  It is sad to witness the sad result of a lost home.  Todd's question did cross my mind about squatters.  It is happening a lot.  I am so sorry for the children.

04/03/2008 10:38 AM by Elaine Hanson, Topanga, CA Real Estate Specialist (Pritchett-Rapf & Assoc. Realtors, Topanga)


Chris, I never followed up, but I guess since the lender is not a local lender the home owner arranged something with the realtor to get back into the house!!!!!

04/03/2008 10:38 AM by Camarillo CA Real Estate Agent/ Mana Tulberg (Beach View Real Estate)


My Jennifer...Heartbreaking story and I feel your pain. I have known 3 families who have lost their homes to foreclosure, all had children. It bothered me greatly. All lost their homes for different reasons, but in the end the reasons why didn't matter. All I can do as I stare at the ceiling in bed late at night is hope these families are some how able to pick up the pieces of lives and move on to a beter future.

04/03/2008 10:39 AM by Guilford Connecticut Real Estate Agent, Sandra Cummings (William Raveis Real Estate)


Jennifer - This is a brutal situation and above and beyond all else, I'm kind of surprised at the lack of compassion out there.  Yes, we do not know the entire situation.  Yet, where in all this is our human compassion for our fellow peers...both children & adults alike?  Whatever the reality of this particular situation is, if it doesn't tug a bit at one's heart...you might not have one.  Beautifully written, as only you can do in your unique & philosophically touching and eccentric way.  This is another example of what our true mission should be.....to help those that are hurt and hopefully before they are ever in the position to be hurt in the first place.

04/03/2008 11:58 AM by Jason Sardi, Pennsylvania Mortgage Broker (First Choice Equity Group Inc.)


Jennifer,

Children should never have to suffer or be subjected to the painfulness derived from adult misfortunes. I wish this could be how it is, but life gives no lenience to children. My heart breaks for those kids and the numorous others who must endure this commonplace occurance.

On a sidebar, I really don't know you Jennifer other than from our assocaition here on ActiveRain. I know you to be caring, passionate, intelligent and have the gift to express yourself in manuscript. With this said, I digress back to my many earlier statements to you. Unless you love real estate sales more than life itself, you should think strongly about writing for a living. There are many who are articule and well spoken, but you paint a protrait with your words. Every Blog you write becomes a story within itself. You have a great talent. 

04/03/2008 12:40 PM by Kerry "Ski" Polakowski (Century 21 Home & Investment Center)


Jeff... it sure felt like a Poe story. I just wish it had a better ending :-(

04/03/2008 04:03 PM by Portland Oregon Real Estate Broker * Jennifer Bukaty * (Bridgetown Realty, Inc.)


Katerina... I verified that this is the result of a divorce situation. While I agree with you in principle, I have learned that we don't have control of everything that befalls us. I have known many good, responsible people who have lost everything through no fault of their own. However culpable she may be - she has my compassion.

Thanks for your comments!

04/03/2008 04:33 PM by Portland Oregon Real Estate Broker * Jennifer Bukaty * (Bridgetown Realty, Inc.)


Jennifer- Compassion and responsibility are two separate things and you can have both at the same time. That is why I help the homeless and feed them and clothe them. I have compassion and I cried when I read your post. I want to reach out and help wherever I can and we do. I do believe in empowering others to become all that they can be. This is my life's work. Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime. We as a community do have the responsibility to help others, that is one of the greatest commandments. To love others as you love yourself. In so doing, you would not let another be without if you have something to give. This is from the heart. I find that most people are givers. I want it to be my choice to give and to give who I want to give to. I do not want the government to come and take my money away and decide to give it to who they feel should get it. And this feeling of compassion that I have fills my heart at the same time that I know that she can do something to change her situation. There is always a choice. I do feel sorry for children in these situations. But if they have the love of their mother that is first and foremost. If I had to live in a tent I certainly would still love my kids and no one should have the right to come and take my kids away because of my living in a tent. This compassion turns into judgment in the wrong hands. I pray for this lady and her children and that she gets to keep her children. 

 

04/03/2008 06:50 PM by Nestor & Katerina Gasset, Realtors® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.)


Jennifer- BTW, Kerry is right on! You are a fabulously talented writer with such amazing depth. You could be a writer of books and screen plays. 

04/03/2008 06:52 PM by Nestor & Katerina Gasset, Realtors® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.)


Not everyone has family to help out when trouble hits but hopefully there is some time of help out there for these folks.

04/03/2008 07:41 PM by Keith & Robin Perry - REALTOR® -West Metro Atlanta (Coldwell Banker)


Jennifer- God, you are so right. The American dream as a Nightmare on Elmstreet part 29. How hard for you, for her, for those children...one wishes that we could undo all the pains in the world.

04/03/2008 10:12 PM by Brentwood TN Real Estate - Vanessa Stalets (RE/MAX Elite)


Whether you like it or not my dear, the star looks good on you:-)

04/04/2008 01:29 PM by Jason Sardi, Pennsylvania Mortgage Broker (First Choice Equity Group Inc.)


Thank you my Jason :-) FWA!

 
To Everyone: I am looking forward to replying to all of you this afternoon. I have been swamped with work and have missed commenting back quickly, as I typically like to do.

MWA!

back soon... 

04/04/2008 01:35 PM by Portland Oregon Real Estate Broker * Jennifer Bukaty * (Bridgetown Realty, Inc.)


Jennifer - Oh we gird ourselves mightely with the robes of real estate contract law. We smuggly point to contracts not honored. We move papers and people and pens and pain. We must be innured to the suffering around us, no?

Well....you just ran headlong into the real world. The ghosts of a failed plan, theirs or a lenders. They are so real, so close, so in need of repair.

"The world is so crazy, I just want to leave. No one will miss me, no will grieve. I will be anything that I want to be............hey captain, take me aboard ....let me be free." - john macarthur, hey captain

Cry for them. Cry for those that created them. Cry for those that can not see them. Cry for those that refuse to acknowledge them.

Then steel yourself with newfound resolve. You can make a difference. Knock on that damn door. Take them soup and offer it with love. Do not let your own fears keep you from being the woman you are. Never believe that standing up with compassion is the wrong posture to adapt.

One mouth at a time. One belly at a time. One heart at a time.

And any others that read this tale...........hear the call to your heart. Do not judge them. Offer the compassion in your heart.......One sad story at a time.

The american dream is not dead. It is not dying. The true american dream lives on in each of us.

What good is a dream if it is not shared?

 

04/04/2008 01:45 PM by John MacArthur The MacArthur Group (Long and Foster Real Estate, Inc.)


Jennifer et al;

Fortunately, we haven't had that issue in our area - mostly the bank-owned properties have no power, water or heat in our area and the winters are a bit too chilly to squat, but it is a great tale and a true warning - never assume a home is empty just because it is listed "vacant".

So many war widows and widowers are losing their homes because of the loss of the 2nd family income, lets keep in mind as we look at tales such as this that there are frequently extenuating circumstances that cause the foreclosure.  Thank you for the great tale.

04/04/2008 01:51 PM by Carrie Heath (Prudential Benrud Realty)


Compassion & prayer we bring, if nothing else.  

04/04/2008 01:56 PM by Audrey Hoffman, SimplyStage (SimplyStage)


This brought tears to my eyes.  I'm always the saddest when I am showing a foreclosed home, and there is evidence of a child's life.  Stickers on the closet door, a room painted yellow with kitty wallpaper borders -- all tell-tale signs of a childs life who has now ended up being uprooted through no choice of their own, or of their family's.  It always breaks my heart.

04/04/2008 02:07 PM by Jeannie Kontis - Lancaster Real Estate, Lancaster PA Homes for Sale (Long & Foster Real Estate, Lancaster PA)


A very moving story Jennifer. We sometimes forget the emotional toll this mess has had on families. I agree with the other comments that you have a wonderful grasp of language and paint a beautiful and vivid story with your words. I always thought that you should be writing books or teaching others to write better.

04/04/2008 02:07 PM by Portland Oregon Real Estate >> Wayne B. Pruner, GRI (Oregon First)


I think we are finding more and more homeless people who take up residence at night in vacant homes.  This may not have been HER home.  I hope you sent someone out to check on the little children and mother the next day.  You are a very skilled writer!  I agree with someone who said it started out like an Edgar Allen Poe story!  I think I'll subscribe to your blog.

04/04/2008 02:10 PM by Barbara S. Duncan ABR, CRS, GRI, e-PRO Searcy AR (RE/MAX Advantage)


Jennifer...

You know me well enough to know that I am not an emotional kind of person.

But after reading this...I had an emotion...One of Anger...The fact that this crap happens and children are involved just pisses me off.

Regardless of what created the situation my heart goes out to those kids.

TLW...ROAR!

04/04/2008 02:13 PM by "The Lovely Wife"...Broker Bryant's Wife... (Co-Owner Tutas Towne Realty, Inc.)


Jennifer I have always enjoyed your writing and this one is no different.  I'm not sure I would have reacted much different from you.  I have not encountered this situation so far and I'm glad I havent.  The poor kids!  :(

04/04/2008 02:22 PM by Huntsville Alabama Real Estate Agent, Kimberly Grant (Exit Leon Crawford Realty)


Keep writing and thanks fro sharing, even though it is a very sad tale, it needs to be told!

 

04/04/2008 02:47 PM by Kelly's - Orange County Real Estate Possibilities Blog (Century 21 Superstars)


Jennifer -  What are you going to do about it?  Is it a neighborhood where funds could be raised for them?  Is there a church or a center that can help them re-establish?  Is there a family that could take them in for a bit?  Surely, something can be done for you to help them.  They need help.  Please let me know what happens to them.

04/04/2008 02:52 PM by Meg Zoller Houston Fine Homes (Keller Williams)


Jennifer, something I do in every home I show is yell hello when I enter. I have been surprised and have surprised others, but never what you experienced... My heart always breaks for kids. Prior to real estate I was an elementary school teacher and children suffering due to nothing of thier own always chokes me up.

04/04/2008 02:56 PM by Birmingham Alabama Real Estate, Stephen Wolfe (LivingInGreaterBirmingham Team of Powell Properties)


Jennifer - What a timely reminder that we don't just sell dirt and wood.  We truly affect lives.  I'm also of the belief you should consider writing for a living.  You always make me cry!

04/04/2008 03:07 PM by Debbie White, RE/MAX of Juneau, Alaska (RE/MAX of Juneau)


Bad things happen to good people.... that is my motto. Until I know the truth, I do not judge.

The kids make me sad

04/04/2008 03:20 PM by Tom Burris | Texas Home Loan Expert (DallasLoanGuy.com)


Jennifer, what a heartbreaking blog.  I won't list foreclosed property because I become so emotional.  Maybe I will never have what it takes to be a great realtor, but I have heart and soul and I can't bear to think about someone losing their home especially when children are involved.  I have 2 great parents and 4 siblings and we lost our home when we were all little children.  Sadly it was the home my mother grew up in.  I remember all too well leaving this beautiful 2 story home with a large yard and swimming pool and moving to a 1000 square foot home with hardly any yard. So many of these families put everything they had into buying the American Dream and because of illness, divorce, job loss or many other reasons, they end up losing it.  I so agree with Doug who wrote that America is too busy helping out third world countries to take care of our own.  I hope and pray something can be done.  Thanks for writing such a great blog Jennifer.  I feel your pain.

Laura Shirley, RE/MAX Realty Plus of Lake Placid, Florida

04/04/2008 03:37 PM by Laura Shirley Highlands County Real Estate (RE/MAX Realty Plus II)


Jennifer, As much as this situation is truly a sad one and we can look to our industry as being part of the problem, the truth is when the worst things happen in life, a Realtor can help.

It seems that Foreclosure is treated like a dirtly little secret, said only in such confines as most four letter words. This is a stigma that is built into our society and unfortunately leads to the kinds of situations that you encountered on your showing rather than leading to a productive solution. This is where you can channel your emotions to help others in this situation avoid this scenario through the sale of their home. Whether they sell short of the mortgage principal or not, selling may be their best alternative to foreclosure.

Agents working in this niche market find the most difficult thing to overcome is homeowners who say that they are going to work something out with their lender and don't want to move. This is the best strategy for most, however the alternatives if this effort does not pay off are few and time is scarce. This is why people should list their homes with you and work with you to have a contingency plan while working with the lender to find a workout of sorts. The foreclosure process in most states follows a pretty firm timeframe and if you can get people to be realistic about their options, you can make a difference.

04/04/2008 03:38 PM by Kevin Comerford - Brokerage Management Consultant (Realogy Corporation, Mid-Atlantic States)


Jennifer, This story is so sad. I hear and see them everyday in my market. I have a listing right now that is a horrible divorce situation. They have been fighting over the house for several years now. The big beautiful house sits empty while the 13 year old daughter who was born in the house is living with her mom in one room of a friend's house. She doesn't understand why she can't just live in her beautiful pink bedroom with the cartoon characters painted on the walls. The children always pay the price. It sucks!!

04/04/2008 04:00 PM by Bryant Tutas-Tutas Towne Realty, Inc


My god, what a horrible story....  As a mom, it just broke my heart.  My four year old wants to know why mommy is crying and I don't know what to tell him. 

This particular story should be shared with everyone, Jennifer, not just here on the internet.  You should submit it for general publication to one of the big magazines.  It is beautifully written, and make people really feel what a foreclosure is like.

04/04/2008 04:09 PM by Marlene Scheffer, Realtor to Kitsap County, WA (Realty Station)


Hi Jennifer,

We may never know the story but the children are the ones who suffer. You are a beautiful writer! :)

04/04/2008 04:10 PM by Suzanne Sands-Somerset, MA Real Estate (Century 21 Associates Realty)


Wonderful blog, wonderful story, beautifully written and very very sad.  I wish we could all pull together in this industry and help the children

04/04/2008 04:17 PM by Tammy Anderson-Owens, Broker/Associate (The "Metro East Home Team" of RE/MAX Preferred)


Wow, I dont't know what to say. It just make your heart cry out for all the needs in this country of ours.

04/04/2008 04:31 PM by Steve Volkers Grand Rapids Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty)


In the twelve years that the DH and I have been buying foreclosures, we have come across horrifying sights.  I never forget the toys , memories, child's drawings and trophies that get left behind.  I agree it is the children that suffer at the fault of their parent's decisions.

I was in a foreclosure house recently.  I was previewing the property for a customer.  From the minute I walked into the house, I got this really odd feeling of dread and violence...just sort of a bad energy coming from this house...which was bizarre becasue the house was vacant except for a few childrens toys....odd!!!

04/04/2008 04:35 PM by Kristi Ross Palm Coast/Flagler County REALTOR (Hawk Beach Realty)


So so sad, I know how you felt when you left.  I was in a home not too long ago that was foreclosed on, nobody home and my clients and I get to the backyard and guess what we find.  A beautiful golden retriever tied to a post with a wire leash.  Ok, now I'm flipping out, saying how long has this dog been here, on and on.  Sweetest thing.  I go to the next door neighbor's house because we see there is a bowl of food and water.  The neighbor said the dog had only been there a day, and she called the police to come and get it. 

I would have taken him if the police weren't coming.  That would make 3 for me, so I'm glad I didn't have to.  I gave the neighbor my card in case he was left there, but she never called me so I'm hoping someone took him. 

Sad situation for everybody and now our shelters are filled with thousands of more animals.   

 

 

04/04/2008 04:51 PM by Ida McCarthy


Jennifer...

My friend, you know I hated hearing this story the other day.  And while I cried and still grieve for this young family, may I offer this little bit of hope?   In one comment (I think to Jeff) you said you wish that it had a different ending.  My way of coping with tough times is to remember that the ending has not been written.  It may be the end of a chapter.  But certainly not the story.  Thank you for your heart of compassion and grace.  Love...Sarah

04/04/2008 05:15 PM by Sarah Eubanks ~ Preferred Oregon Loan Consultant & Notary Public (Hill Valley Financial Services)


It's always hardest on the children.  They don't make any of the decisions, but live with the results of any decisions made by or for the parents. 

04/04/2008 05:16 PM by Lenn Harley, Homefinders.com, MD & VA Real Estate


Jennifer, We save homes from foreclosure their is hope.

 Sad story Thanks for the post.

www.PreForeclosureUSA.com/craigcooper 

04/04/2008 05:19 PM by Craig Cooper


Sad state of affairs. And it's happening all over this good USA. It will get worse before it gets any better.

04/04/2008 05:21 PM by Robert L. Brown~Grand Rapids Real Estate Flexit Realty, West Michigan (www.mrbrownsellsgr.com)


Unreal, but what would a mother do? I guess we know. Can't blame her can we?

04/04/2008 05:28 PM by Richard Lecinski (Long Realty Company)


Unreal, but what would a mother do? I guess we know. Can't blame her can we?

04/04/2008 05:28 PM by Richard Lecinski (Long Realty Company)


Unreal, but what would a mother do? I guess we know. Can't blame her can we?

04/04/2008 05:28 PM by Richard Lecinski (Long Realty Company)


Jennifer,  This really is a sad look at the reality of a foreclosure.  Someone has lost their home.  I really hope this little family has a place to go when the bank puts a new lock on the door.  I would hate to think they would be living on the streets or in a shelter.  It definitely puts it all in perspective.  If you hear anything else about this little family let us know.  I would love to hear of a happy ending for them. 

04/04/2008 05:46 PM by Sandra Paulow, Your AZ. White Mtns. REALTOR® (RE/MAX Pine Country Realty)


Jennifer,

I thank God that I am not in an area where I have needed to list a foreclosure or had a homeowner I sold a home to my knowledge foreclosed.........Are there no area shelters or churches for homeless women and children in your area? 

04/04/2008 06:03 PM by Chapman Realty


 

Jennifer, if you ever move to South Jersey and need a job look me up.  It isn't easy to find such a good heart - and that is tragic too. And to be able to put it into words that truly convey it is even more rare.

04/04/2008 06:09 PM by Paul Howard, Broker, NJHomeBuyer.com Realty


Jennifer, you have a way with words, and I too want to cry for this mom and her kids. Can you reach out with a warm meal? I'll buy it.

04/04/2008 06:21 PM by Anderson Homes Redesigned LLC, Staging Kitsap County, Roberta Anderson (Anderson Homes Redesigned LLC)


Jennifer,

That is the saddest story.  My heart goes out to this family.  Is there any way for you to assist them?

04/04/2008 06:40 PM by Diane Bell, Hilton Head Real Estate, Bluffton (Charter 1 Real Estate, Hilton Head, Bluffton, SC)


This also brought tears to my eyes.  I recently showed a short sale where a family was living there - a young couple where the mother was nursing her baby.  I thought short sales were pre-foreclosure so it doesn't get to the eviction process yet.

The one short sale listing I had happened to be an investment property where the tenants were long gone.  So I never thought of every short sale having to be vacant.  Most of them are but this last one was not.  And nothing seemed out of place.  It was clean, fully furnished with all utilities on.

04/04/2008 06:54 PM by Judy Orr (Classic Realty Group)


Eerie and sad.  I think seeing someone in a foreclosed house while I was showing it would scare me, but also make me feel very sad.  I showed one a few weeks ago.... when we arrived the side door with the lockbox was wide open, we went on inside and we thought we heard shuffling noise coming from upstairs.  We got freaked out and left.  Perhaps it was the previous owners???

04/04/2008 07:18 PM by Christina Moock (Cutler Real Estate)


Jennifer, thank you for such a touching story, and thank you even more for caring about people that so many are willing to turn a blind eye to.  Fact is, there are many sad situations.  I believe, that we are here to do what we can to help others.  Thanks for the great post.

04/04/2008 07:20 PM by Denise Shockey Melbourne, Brevard County Florida Real Estate (RE/MAX Elite)


Jennifer, What a well written story and oh so very sad. Poor kids.

04/04/2008 07:33 PM by Huntsville, Alabama Real Estate Agent Elizabeth Ramsey Cooper (Remax Huntsville/Madison)


About 15 years ago I bought a duplex as an investment. It was bank owned and supposed to be vacant. The agent knew me and gave me the key to go look at it. I heard something when I went in the first floor apartment. There was a woman there that had been evicted by the bank. She said she didn't have anyplace to go so she came back. She was on SSI disability.  The utilities were on.  I talked to her about a half hour looked at the other unit and left.  I told the agent about it but also told him that the apartment she was in didn't need as much work as the other one and I didn't care if she were still there if I got it which I did.  It took me a couple months to get the other apartment so I could rent it.  I told her she could pay me $250/month while I worked on hers.  She ended up being my tenant for 10 years and I never did raise her rent.  I sold it shortly after she left.   I didn't lose any money from that apartment but I could have made a lot more. Sometimes people put themselves in bad positions. Other times, they just end up there and wonder why. 

04/04/2008 07:36 PM by Paul Howard, Broker, NJHomeBuyer.com Realty


Jennifer, I think it's easy for our industry to become forgetful that these houses are actually homes where life happens everyday. Beautiful albiet very sad post!

04/04/2008 07:51 PM by Maple Valley WA Broker/Owner Colleen Fischesser 425-432-5400 (RE/MAX Select Real Estate)


Oh god Jennifer you have me crying. I don't know what to say..you've said it all!

04/04/2008 08:20 PM by Monika McGillicuddy~ N.H. Real Estate Broker & Trainer (Prudential Verani Realty/Hampstead)


people try to place blame. we are all victims and we are all perpetrators. it's a broken world we live in.

thanks for this heart-tugging story, jenjen. you're one of the good guys. except not a guy.

04/04/2008 08:37 PM by Hemet Home Loan Guy, Joey Aszterbaum (Patrion Mortgage)


I know just how you feel, I have never run into the actual former owners but have seen plenty of the rooms that were lovingly decorated for the child who used to live there or the lone toy left behind in the corner of the closet and I always feel so sad for those who have lost their home.  So many of the repossessed homes that I show were clearly being cared for and often in the midst of home improvement projects when the owners had to leave, it makes you realize it can happen to anyone.  We should all count our blessings. 

04/04/2008 09:14 PM by Beth Anderson ~ Tecumseh / Lenawee County ~Realtor (Coldwell Banker Success)


It is no good for the kids.  They didn't sign up for this.  I can make a case for laying the blame of the situation on either or both parents... but the kids don't deserve that life. 

I hope that when they grow up, they can use the situation to define a life they won't have.  I hope that the kids are able to look at this like my parents looked at the reality of growing up during the depression, determined to not have the same pitfalls catch them. 

04/04/2008 09:29 PM by Lane Bailey - The REALTOR for Car People (Century 21 Network Realty)


Wow, powerful story.  This puts the people back in the equation.

04/04/2008 09:39 PM by Tracey Thomas Calabasas, CA Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty)