It isn’t supposed to happen this way. And I was unprepared for it.

It was later than usual on Friday evening and this was the last house on our tour. The property was vacant, so the late hour didn’t pose a problem. Even in the last light of day, everything about this house was lovely – it was painted a pretty red hue, the yard had been lovingly tended, wisteria draped it’s long arms across the front porch like an old friend. A single electric candle burned in the attic window. It felt welcoming. The listing indicated it was bank-owned and had been on the market for several months. A bit unusual for our market, especially in this neighborhood. And it didn’t make sense.

My client stood back while I unlocked the front door. He waited for a proper invitation like the gentleman he is. The old and worn porch boards hadn’t been painted in years. I stepped softly in high heels to avoid catching my heel and tripping. In the quiet of the moment, the sudden click of the lockbox release nearly startled me. It was then that my eye caught the slightest movement through the beveled leaded glass door. There again, in the barest of light, stood a child inside, and then another, both quickly darting out of sight. Before I could even surmise the why of it, there was a young woman from around the corner. Our eyes made contact but for a moment and then she was gone. As though they were never there.

My heart was pounding as I turned and walked back toward my client. I took him by the arm, though I couldn’t say a thing. He seemed to know the words I couldn’t find. An entire story unfolding in my eyes.

Twilight is the saddest light there is. But for her, the woman who lost her home, it surely arrived as welcome relief. The time of day when she and her boys could finally return safely to the place they called home. That they are sleeping in the attic in what was once truly their home… well, what does she tell them? Their bedrooms now stripped of toys, blankets and beds… do they dare ask? She knows she is marking time until…

Alone now and barely a block from my office, I park my car under a tree. My phone begs for attention with a dozen missed calls and texts. I am breathing hard to stop the flood of tears, but they insist. I want to go back, tell her a thousand things to make it better. Present them hot nourishing food. Apologize for the abuses in our industry that may have played a role in their misfortune.

But I don’t really know. It dawns on me that I don’t hold a single answer. Was she at fault? Is she a victim? Whatever the truth, her children certainly are. This isn’t how it should be. Homeownership is the American Dream. And it isn’t supposed to happen this way.


 
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Jen Jen.... this almost started off like an Edgar Allan Poe short story...   ;o)    A tad ery at first...  

But yes... the American Dream should be filled with happiness and joy.... 

jeff belonger
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Whatever the truth, her children certainly are.

And no matter who's at fault...those are the innocent ones who pay dearly.

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Jennifer- I would feel the same way emotionally about the children and yes, the children are the victims. But we can not become a society of everyone being a victim and no one accepting the consequences of their actions. It is a law of the universe; to ever action there is a consequence. I know, I have been there, done that and now a victim no more. I made a decision to accept FULL responsibility for EVERYTHING that ever happened to me and my children and that in so doing, I became empowered to do something about my circumstances. As long as I chose to remain a victim, I would never be able to make the changes in my life that I had made. It is very empowering to assume responsibility. Katerina
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I agree with Sally.  It is always a tragedy for the children.
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Jennifer -

Yes, this is very sad and I have found it a difficult part of my job recently to deal with these families losing their homes, especially when this was their dream.  And you're right the children seem to always be the victims.  When a new young family purchases this same home at an affordable price and didn't have a hope of purchasing a home just a year ago, it nakes everything seem more worthwhile.  And their joy and appreciation can be infectious.  I'm trying to spend my days with this type of client now, so that my days are full of hope. 

Also, please be careful when entering these vacant homes.  We are finding more and more transients and squatters in vacant listings here.  And just yesterday, an agent in our office, discovered a REO listing of his actually rented out & someone starting to move in.  You just don't know what you are going to find in these homes now,

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Thanks for sharing your story with everyone, it is so sad especially for the children.

Patty & Scott Carroll - RE/MAX Equity Group Vancouver WA

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The children, the children are the true victims in these situations. We are adults and responsible for every decision we make. Our children look up to us for guidance and protection.

I had to face a similar situation, but she lived in the garage with her daughter. The little angel opened the door and her mother rushed to the door and shoved the door in my face. Told me I could only show the house not the garage. Later I found out that they had turned the garage into their home until their lender's final decision.

12:36am • #7

I am kind of confused on this, I understand the sympathy of the kids and everything and that is not the sorce of my confusion... Camarillo's comment added to my confusion, maybe either of you can help me here...

they had turned the garage into their home until their lender's final decision.....

have they not been properly evicted from the home, papers on the doors etc. or do the banks do things differently out west. My parents do short sales and are investors and the banks cannot list the home or anything like that unless the foreclosure process has gone full course (and the lender has made final decision to say goodbye to them) :-\

please don't take it wrong I am not asking this to be cruel or rude or anything of the such especially being there are children involved I just do not understand how these people are getting away with staying there and you are showing the home without the bank foreclosure being completed (ie. sheriff sale + redemption period up, home tagged and whatnot)

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Jennifer, I feel your heart, it is so sad when people and especially children lose their homes. I would have bawled too, they obviously had no place else to go and even through this house was bare, it was still home. 
6:46am • #9

This is such a poignant post, Jennifer, and the comments are just as telling.

A house is the only asset that provides collateral, the opportunity for gain and loss and a place to live. So among the financial implications of the dirt and structure there is the human expectation that a sanctuary will await within the walls.

A stock ceritificate can't keep you dry in a pounding thunderstorm. You can't bake a birthday cake inside a Treasury bill or hold a wake under an oil futures contract.

We live and die in our homes. Our loved ones live and die in their homes. Should people receive free houses and sanctuaries? No.

Is there more to a home than loan payoffs, defaults, foreclosures, penalties, tax liens? Usually there's no one left inside to tell that story. Well, almost no one in your case.

 

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that is a real heart breaker, and it's little consolation that your not to blame for this women situation I'm afraid the next stop for me would have been a local bar. What can I say but good luck! Steve
7:03am • #11
Too sad, I pray they find a better life.  Thanks for sharing this story.
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This is the second type story I've read today... and it makes me think that we are in the worst position possible as professionals in this business... guilt on so many levels.  Prayers.  That's all we can do right now.
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Jennifer, I had been offered doing REO sales for one of the mortgage companies.  I couldn't stomach the part of evicting the  families.  I just cant.  I have not had that happen here in our area, where the family is still in the house some how? 

We have so many foreclosures in our area, typically when you walk in they can be so gross you wonder who could live that way, it makes you forget that there is a real human story connected to the home.

Your posts makes us stop and think about the kids.

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Jennifer - This story tore my heart out.  As you indicated, we don't know the reason that this happened to the young woman and her children, but they really are innocent victims here.  Thanks, as always, for sharing your unique writing gift.
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Wow, Jennifer what a scary and sad story. Are you sure it was their home and they weren't just homeless and found a vacant home to stay in. I've been hearing more stories of this lately, I have one client that didn't want me to use a lock box or sign because of this. (I said no to that) But she really was scared of that as it had happened to her before.

9:39am • #16

Jennifer,

  This is a very sad story. Anybody who loses their home this day and age is a "Victim" in my opinion, no matter what the circumstances. Our society in the Richest Nation in the World is too busy saving third world countries and NOT taking care of our own. I will now get off my soap box !

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Crushing tale. I got choked up reading it. No fault, no blame, we all know the cold hard facts of what goes on in these situations. Yet I can't help but feel terrible about not only the kids, but a mother who I am sure lives with the guilt of having failed them. Very moving Jennifer. Thanks for sharing...
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I guess I'm lucky in that I've only run across surly tenants that were not happy about moving.  It is sad to witness the sad result of a lost home.  Todd's question did cross my mind about squatters.  It is happening a lot.  I am so sorry for the children.
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Chris, I never followed up, but I guess since the lender is not a local lender the home owner arranged something with the realtor to get back into the house!!!!!
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My Jennifer...Heartbreaking story and I feel your pain. I have known 3 families who have lost their homes to foreclosure, all had children. It bothered me greatly. All lost their homes for different reasons, but in the end the reasons why didn't matter. All I can do as I stare at the ceiling in bed late at night is hope these families are some how able to pick up the pieces of lives and move on to a beter future.

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Jennifer - This is a brutal situation and above and beyond all else, I'm kind of surprised at the lack of compassion out there.  Yes, we do not know the entire situation.  Yet, where in all this is our human compassion for our fellow peers...both children & adults alike?  Whatever the reality of this particular situation is, if it doesn't tug a bit at one's heart...you might not have one.  Beautifully written, as only you can do in your unique & philosophically touching and eccentric way.  This is another example of what our true mission should be.....to help those that are hurt and hopefully before they are ever in the position to be hurt in the first place.
11:58am • #22

Jennifer,

Children should never have to suffer or be subjected to the painfulness derived from adult misfortunes. I wish this could be how it is, but life gives no lenience to children. My heart breaks for those kids and the numorous others who must endure this commonplace occurance.

On a sidebar, I really don't know you Jennifer other than from our assocaition here on ActiveRain. I know you to be caring, passionate, intelligent and have the gift to express yourself in manuscript. With this said, I digress back to my many earlier statements to you. Unless you love real estate sales more than life itself, you should think strongly about writing for a living. There are many who are articule and well spoken, but you paint a protrait with your words. Every Blog you write becomes a story within itself. You have a great talent. 

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Jeff... it sure felt like a Poe story. I just wish it had a better ending :-(

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Katerina... I verified that this is the result of a divorce situation. While I agree with you in principle, I have learned that we don't have control of everything that befalls us. I have known many good, responsible people who have lost everything through no fault of their own. However culpable she may be - she has my compassion.

Thanks for your comments!

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Jennifer- Compassion and responsibility are two separate things and you can have both at the same time. That is why I help the homeless and feed them and clothe them. I have compassion and I cried when I read your post. I want to reach out and help wherever I can and we do. I do believe in empowering others to become all that they can be. This is my life's work. Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime. We as a community do have the responsibility to help others, that is one of the greatest commandments. To love others as you love yourself. In so doing, you would not let another be without if you have something to give. This is from the heart. I find that most people are givers. I want it to be my choice to give and to give who I want to give to. I do not want the government to come and take my money away and decide to give it to who they feel should get it. And this feeling of compassion that I have fills my heart at the same time that I know that she can do something to change her situation. There is always a choice. I do feel sorry for children in these situations. But if they have the love of their mother that is first and foremost. If I had to live in a tent I certainly would still love my kids and no one should have the right to come and take my kids away because of my living in a tent. This compassion turns into judgment in the wrong hands. I pray for this lady and her children and that she gets to keep her children. 

 

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Jennifer- BTW, Kerry is right on! You are a fabulously talented writer with such amazing depth. You could be a writer of books and screen plays. 
6:52pm • #27
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Not everyone has family to help out when trouble hits but hopefully there is some time of help out there for these folks.

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Jennifer- God, you are so right. The American dream as a Nightmare on Elmstreet part 29. How hard for you, for her, for those children...one wishes that we could undo all the pains in the world.
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Whether you like it or not my dear, the star looks good on you:-)
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Thank you my Jason :-) FWA!

 
To Everyone: I am looking forward to replying to all of you this afternoon. I have been swamped with work and have missed commenting back quickly, as I typically like to do.

MWA!

back soon... 

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Jennifer - Oh we gird ourselves mightely with the robes of real estate contract law. We smuggly point to contracts not honored. We move papers and people and pens and pain. We must be innured to the suffering around us, no?

Well....you just ran headlong into the real world. The ghosts of a failed plan, theirs or a lenders. They are so real, so close, so in need of repair.

"The world is so crazy, I just want to leave. No one will miss me, no will grieve. I will be anything that I want to be............hey captain, take me aboard ....let me be free." - john macarthur, hey captain

Cry for them. Cry for those that created them. Cry for those that can not see them. Cry for those that refuse to acknowledge them.

Then steel yourself with newfound resolve. You can make a difference. Knock on that damn door. Take them soup and offer it with love. Do not let your own fears keep you from being the woman you are. Never believe that standing up with compassion is the wrong posture to adapt.

One mouth at a time. One belly at a time. One heart at a time.

And any others that read this tale...........hear the call to your heart. Do not judge them. Offer the compassion in your heart.......One sad story at a time.

The american dream is not dead. It is not dying. The true american dream lives on in each of us.

What good is a dream if it is not shared?

 

1:45pm • #32

Jennifer et al;

Fortunately, we haven't had that issue in our area - mostly the bank-owned properties have no power, water or heat in our area and the winters are a bit too chilly to squat, but it is a great tale and a true warning - never assume a home is empty just because it is listed "vacant".

So many war widows and widowers are losing their homes because of the loss of the 2nd family income, lets keep in mind as we look at tales such as this that there are frequently extenuating circumstances that cause the foreclosure.  Thank you for the great tale.

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Compassion & prayer we bring, if nothing else.  
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This brought tears to my eyes.  I'm always the saddest when I am showing a foreclosed home, and there is evidence of a child's life.  Stickers on the closet door, a room painted yellow with kitty wallpaper borders -- all tell-tale signs of a childs life who has now ended up being uprooted through no choice of their own, or of their family's.  It always breaks my heart.
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A very moving story Jennifer. We sometimes forget the emotional toll this mess has had on families. I agree with the other comments that you have a wonderful grasp of language and paint a beautiful and vivid story with your words. I always thought that you should be writing books or teaching others to write better.
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I think we are finding more and more homeless people who take up residence at night in vacant homes.  This may not have been HER home.  I hope you sent someone out to check on the little children and mother the next day.  You are a very skilled writer!  I agree with someone who said it started out like an Edgar Allen Poe story!  I think I'll subscribe to your blog.
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Jennifer...

You know me well enough to know that I am not an emotional kind of person.

But after reading this...I had an emotion...One of Anger...The fact that this crap happens and children are involved just pisses me off.

Regardless of what created the situation my heart goes out to those kids.

TLW...ROAR!

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Jennifer I have always enjoyed your writing and this one is no different.  I'm not sure I would have reacted much different from you.  I have not encountered this situation so far and I'm glad I havent.  The poor kids!  :(
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Keep writing and thanks fro sharing, even though it is a very sad tale, it needs to be told!

 

2:47pm • #40
Jennifer -  What are you going to do about it?  Is it a neighborhood where funds could be raised for them?  Is there a church or a center that can help them re-establish?  Is there a family that could take them in for a bit?  Surely, something can be done for you to help them.  They need help.  Please let me know what happens to them.
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Jennifer, something I do in every home I show is yell hello when I enter. I have been surprised and have surprised others, but never what you experienced... My heart always breaks for kids. Prior to real estate I was an elementary school teacher and children suffering due to nothing of thier own always chokes me up.
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Jennifer - What a timely reminder that we don't just sell dirt and wood.  We truly affect lives.  I'm also of the belief you should consider writing for a living.  You always make me cry!
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Bad things happen to good people.... that is my motto. Until I know the truth, I do not judge.

The kids make me sad

3:20pm • #44
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Jennifer, what a heartbreaking blog.  I won't list foreclosed property because I become so emotional.  Maybe I will never have what it takes to be a great realtor, but I have heart and soul and I can't bear to think about someone losing their home especially when children are involved.  I have 2 great parents and 4 siblings and we lost our home when we were all little children.  Sadly it was the home my mother grew up in.  I remember all too well leaving this beautiful 2 story home with a large yard and swimming pool and moving to a 1000 square foot home with hardly any yard. So many of these families put everything they had into buying the American Dream and because of illness, divorce, job loss or many other reasons, they end up losing it.  I so agree with Doug who wrote that America is too busy helping out third world countries to take care of our own.  I hope and pray something can be done.  Thanks for writing such a great blog Jennifer.  I feel your pain.

Laura Shirley, RE/MAX Realty Plus of Lake Placid, Florida

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Jennifer, As much as this situation is truly a sad one and we can look to our industry as being part of the problem, the truth is when the worst things happen in life, a Realtor can help.

It seems that Foreclosure is treated like a dirtly little secret, said only in such confines as most four letter words. This is a stigma that is built into our society and unfortunately leads to the kinds of situations that you encountered on your showing rather than leading to a productive solution. This is where you can channel your emotions to help others in this situation avoid this scenario through the sale of their home. Whether they sell short of the mortgage principal or not, selling may be their best alternative to foreclosure.

Agents working in this niche market find the most difficult thing to overcome is homeowners who say that they are going to work something out with their lender and don't want to move. This is the best strategy for most, however the alternatives if this effort does not pay off are few and time is scarce. This is why people should list their homes with you and work with you to have a contingency plan while working with the lender to find a workout of sorts. The foreclosure process in most states follows a pretty firm timeframe and if you can get people to be realistic about their options, you can make a difference.

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Jennifer, This story is so sad. I hear and see them everyday in my market. I have a listing right now that is a horrible divorce situation. They have been fighting over the house for several years now. The big beautiful house sits empty while the 13 year old daughter who was born in the house is living with her mom in one room of a friend's house. She doesn't understand why she can't just live in her beautiful pink bedroom with the cartoon characters painted on the walls. The children always pay the price. It sucks!!
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My god, what a horrible story....  As a mom, it just broke my heart.  My four year old wants to know why mommy is crying and I don't know what to tell him. 

This particular story should be shared with everyone, Jennifer, not just here on the internet.  You should submit it for general publication to one of the big magazines.  It is beautifully written, and make people really feel what a foreclosure is like.

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Hi Jennifer,

We may never know the story but the children are the ones who suffer. You are a beautiful writer! :)

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Wonderful blog, wonderful story, beautifully written and very very sad.  I wish we could all pull together in this industry and help the children
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Wow, I dont't know what to say. It just make your heart cry out for all the needs in this country of ours.
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In the twelve years that the DH and I have been buying foreclosures, we have come across horrifying sights.  I never forget the toys , memories, child's drawings and trophies that get left behind.  I agree it is the children that suffer at the fault of their parent's decisions.

I was in a foreclosure house recently.  I was previewing the property for a customer.  From the minute I walked into the house, I got this really odd feeling of dread and violence...just sort of a bad energy coming from this house...which was bizarre becasue the house was vacant except for a few childrens toys....odd!!!

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So so sad, I know how you felt when you left.  I was in a home not too long ago that was foreclosed on, nobody home and my clients and I get to the backyard and guess what we find.  A beautiful golden retriever tied to a post with a wire leash.  Ok, now I'm flipping out, saying how long has this dog been here, on and on.  Sweetest thing.  I go to the next door neighbor's house because we see there is a bowl of food and water.  The neighbor said the dog had only been there a day, and she called the police to come and get it. 

I would have taken him if the police weren't coming.  That would make 3 for me, so I'm glad I didn't have to.  I gave the neighbor my card in case he was left there, but she never called me so I'm hoping someone took him. 

Sad situation for everybody and now our shelters are filled with thousands of more animals.   

 

 

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Jennifer...

My friend, you know I hated hearing this story the other day.  And while I cried and still grieve for this young family, may I offer this little bit of hope?   In one comment (I think to Jeff) you said you wish that it had a different ending.  My way of coping with tough times is to remember that the ending has not been written.  It may be the end of a chapter.  But certainly not the story.  Thank you for your heart of compassion and grace.  Love...Sarah

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It's always hardest on the children.  They don't make any of the decisions, but live with the results of any decisions made by or for the parents. 

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Jennifer, We save homes from foreclosure their is hope.

 Sad story Thanks for the post.

www.PreForeclosureUSA.com/craigcooper 

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Sad state of affairs. And it's happening all over this good USA. It will get worse before it gets any better.
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Unreal, but what would a mother do? I guess we know. Can't blame her can we?
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Unreal, but what would a mother do? I guess we know. Can't blame her can we?
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Unreal, but what would a mother do? I guess we know. Can't blame her can we?
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Jennifer,  This really is a sad look at the reality of a foreclosure.  Someone has lost their home.  I really hope this little family has a place to go when the bank puts a new lock on the door.  I would hate to think they would be living on the streets or in a shelter.  It definitely puts it all in perspective.  If you hear anything else about this little family let us know.  I would love to hear of a happy ending for them. 
5:46pm • #63
Such a sad story... not much I can add, but I hear you.
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Jennifer,

I thank God that I am not in an area where I have needed to list a foreclosure or had a homeowner I sold a home to my knowledge foreclosed.........Are there no area shelters or churches for homeless women and children in your area? 

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Jennifer, if you ever move to South Jersey and need a job look me up.  It isn't easy to find such a good heart - and that is tragic too. And to be able to put it into words that truly convey it is even more rare.

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Jennifer, you have a way with words, and I too want to cry for this mom and her kids. Can you reach out with a warm meal? I'll buy it.

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Jennifer,

That is the saddest story.  My heart goes out to this family.  Is there any way for you to assist them?

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This also brought tears to my eyes.  I recently showed a short sale where a family was living there - a young couple where the mother was nursing her baby.  I thought short sales were pre-foreclosure so it doesn't get to the eviction process yet.

The one short sale listing I had happened to be an investment property where the tenants were long gone.  So I never thought of every short sale having to be vacant.  Most of them are but this last one was not.  And nothing seemed out of place.  It was clean, fully furnished with all utilities on.

6:54pm • #69
Eerie and sad.  I think seeing someone in a foreclosed house while I was showing it would scare me, but also make me feel very sad.  I showed one a few weeks ago.... when we arrived the side door with the lockbox was wide open, we went on inside and we thought we heard shuffling noise coming from upstairs.  We got freaked out and left.  Perhaps it was the previous owners???
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Jennifer, thank you for such a touching story, and thank you even more for caring about people that so many are willing to turn a blind eye to.  Fact is, there are many sad situations.  I believe, that we are here to do what we can to help others.  Thanks for the great post.
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Jennifer, What a well written story and oh so very sad. Poor kids.
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About 15 years ago I bought a duplex as an investment. It was bank owned and supposed to be vacant. The agent knew me and gave me the key to go look at it. I heard something when I went in the first floor apartment. There was a woman there that had been evicted by the bank. She said she didn't have anyplace to go so she came back. She was on SSI disability.  The utilities were on.  I talked to her about a half hour looked at the other unit and left.  I told the agent about it but also told him that the apartment she was in didn't need as much work as the other one and I didn't care if she were still there if I got it which I did.  It took me a couple months to get the other apartment so I could rent it.  I told her she could pay me $250/month while I worked on hers.  She ended up being my tenant for 10 years and I never did raise her rent.  I sold it shortly after she left.   I didn't lose any money from that apartment but I could have made a lot more. Sometimes people put themselves in bad positions. Other times, they just end up there and wonder why. 
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Jennifer, I think it's easy for our industry to become forgetful that these houses are actually homes where life happens everyday. Beautiful albiet very sad post!

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Oh god Jennifer you have me crying. I don't know what to say..you've said it all!
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people try to place blame. we are all victims and we are all perpetrators. it's a broken world we live in.

thanks for this heart-tugging story, jenjen. you're one of the good guys. except not a guy.

8:37pm • #76
I know just how you feel, I have never run into the actual former owners but have seen plenty of the rooms that were lovingly decorated for the child who used to live there or the lone toy left behind in the corner of the closet and I always feel so sad for those who have lost their home.  So many of the repossessed homes that I show were clearly being cared for and often in the midst of home improvement projects when the owners had to leave, it makes you realize it can happen to anyone.  We should all count our blessings. 
9:14pm • #77
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It is no good for the kids.  They didn't sign up for this.  I can make a case for laying the blame of the situation on either or both parents... but the kids don't deserve that life. 

I hope that when they grow up, they can use the situation to define a life they won't have.  I hope that the kids are able to look at this like my parents looked at the reality of growing up during the depression, determined to not have the same pitfalls catch them. 

9:29pm • #78
That was a very sad, but beautifully written story.
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Wow, powerful story.  This puts the people back in the equation.
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Families that go through hard times together are often closer and stronger as a result.  Yes, I feel for them, but spoiled rich kids often suffer much more from what I have seen.  Most people of good character that I have known have come from the hardest of circumstances.

I don't know why, but I thought maybe that would make you feel better. 

 

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 Dear Jennifer  ,

 

This was a very sad story. My heart broke, and I cried for a long time as I know this is a reality all over the country . Then I decided to sit down and write how I feel. I live and work in Phoenix and even tough I know I should try and get REO listings for some reason I can't, I don't feel right about taking advantage of someone's pain. There are soooo many homes foreclosed here.  Sad story is a lot of people moved here from other places so those people have no place to go when these homes are taken away. Most times is not because people are not responsible is because they have lost their jobs ( example: mortgage industry  jobs, real estate, construction, engineering etc.... it is getting now all the way to retail jobs)  

The  new jobs most people can get  now are not paying even close to what they used to make. So now,  how are they going to afford the payment on a home ?

The banks loose money when they sell these homes , sometimes 200 to 300K on a loan,  owners' loose everything,  their down payment along with their dignity. Why not work something with these hard working people let them pay what they can until the market gets back and the homes can be sold at a decent price. These people  might have put money down, 10% of 500 K is a lot of money and paid the mortgage for 2 years and now job loss is forcing them into foreclosure and there isn't a way we can help them sell the house to avoid that.

 It is not laziness is not being irresponsible is jut bad economy and our broken government.

I think of my child and what I could do if I were in their shoes. Some really have no place to go.... I would be one of them since I have no  immediate family living in USA. Sure,  someone can say go to your country .... well my child is a US citizen and so am I. I have been here for a long time. There is nothing for me to go to.  I would not be the only one in those shoes,  there are many more.

We,  as an industry told all these people to buy homes and live the American dream then the rug was pulled from them and the jobs were taken away, their kids forced to watch these things... then in 20 years we are going to say to those same children " buy as much as you can afford this is a great investment,  your home is the best investment you can make" , we would look like hypocrites if we don't pull together and help them now to overcome the hard times. 

What we need to do is lobby and write our officials to HELP now when it counts. Have banks hold off foreclosures and forgive  part  of people's debt just like credit card companies do.... in the past a bank might be able to take a home and sell it at foreclosure,  get their full investment back now they can't get 70 to 80 % of their money ...

 I am sick and tired of hearing the cold hearted business types yelling , no government intervention ..... fine than let the bank and wall street help.  The goverment sent all the help and $$$ to other places around the world but when it comes to their own back yard some say NO HELP HERE.  What is wrong with this goverment ??????/

 

 

 

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Sally... If it were just her, I would have been saddened anyway, because but for the grace of God... but then those kids...

Randy... Just the look in their face was enough...

Lori... Hope is the goal in this profession - to help people realize their hopes and dreams. I'm glad you're enjoying that side of this work as well. You are certainly right about the potential for safety mishaps. I typically don't visit many homes without someone with me - a client or colleague, but still...  

Patty and Scott... And thank you both for reading this. 

Mana Lisa... That must have been awful. Especially when you see the way the child(ren) know the role they're supposed to play. And what could you really do?  

Chris... I think Mana answered your question as it pertains to her situation. As for this one, it appears that she has been rendered completely homekess and knew her house well enough to utilize the attic space as a sleeping area for her and her children late at night. She obviously still has a key.

Missy... Exactly. And it's that simple. Nothing more - nothing less. Thanks for understanding :) 

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Wow--such a sad, sad story--and being a true story makes is even sadder. I can't even imagine what that poor woman must be going through, NOT to mention the children. THE innocent children.  I've never heard of this happening before while showing property. Here is the US!

 

10:57pm • #84
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Jennifer,  You write very well and certainly take us inside with your story.  So sad !
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Jennifer - I get it... and my heart does goe out to these people - this will be remembered by you and others for a long time to come
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Lernza... I want so much to respond back to you with something profound, but I can't say it any better than you just did. Our homes ARE something more. Thank you so much for this thoughtful comment. I hope everyone will read it. This isn't about finances - it's about our lives.

Steve... Believe me, I can relate to that. 

Ruth... Me too. I hope they find hope and relief very very soon.

Eleanor... I am certainly feeling the guilt. And I'm not even sure why. 

Audrey... I don't blame you one bit. We can all justify anything in the name of work - but I believe something different - that no matter what I will never partake in any activity that causes genuine human hurt. So fire me, sue me, or take me to jail. I have convictions and I will always stand by them. I'm glad you do to ;-) 

Loveseat...  Thank you my good friend. I know you and you would have pulled over and cried too. And I know what else you would have done. What I have learned is that she is what remains of a recent divorce situation. I know that beyond the children, the thing that broke my heart is the way she has taken such beautiful care of the Spring garden. Lovingly tended in the way she endeavors to do for her children. All indications are that she is making an effort. I hope she will find her light again soon.

Todd...  First, let me say how thrilled I am to have finally met you! And now you know this story: she appears to be the recent owner. Divorce can put the best people in the gutter. So sad that the children must suffer even more.

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It is so sad when this sort of thing happens. And sadly it is happening way too much. But on another note, we all need to be VERY careful when going into these repo and vacant homes. There are stories of other people who should not be in the homes being there, so it is wise to be very careful.
11:11pm • #88
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You brought tears to my eyes. You are right. It doesn't matter if their parents were at fault or not, the true victims are the children. They had no say and only have to deal with what they get dealt. Poor little things!
12:58am • #89

Jennifer~ What a sad story.  I can only imagine what the family was feeling.  I'm sure if they had somewhere else to go, they would have.  It's sad to think that there are many others out there, just like them.

12:58am • #90
Great post Jennifer, it really makes you realize that there are names and faces behind a foreclosure and it's almost always a sad situation.
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what an incredible story......you just submit that to a couple of your local papers and maybe city...for publication....heck that would make times.........so sweetly written......you have a gift there........the gift of heart and the gift of pen!
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Jennifer, this truly brought tears to my eyes. Your excellent writing skills made me feel like I was there and that I too could see the little faces.  Such a grime reality.
6:43am • #93

This is a very moving story and obviously touched a nerve judging by all the comments.  I would challenge everyone who has made a comment and who reads this to do what you can to make things better in your community.  A donation to the local food bank, homeless shelter, animal shelter in your area would help the very real families who are dealing with this type of situation.

All of these organizations are overwhelmed by need right now--across the country.   A bag of food, a check or your time would be greatly appreciated.

  

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Jennifer, lovely post....you write so beautifully. Your writing compels us to entertain all the ramifications of what is happening and we don't always know the whys or hows. But our compassion can never be misplaced. Thank you for taking me along on that evening and opening my heart.
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Jennifer, your writing as always has hit a cord for me and this time it is a sad cord.  Well spoken by you but so sad and we see this too much in Michigan with homes vacant.  Not exactly as you have here, but so sad stories nevertheless. 

So sad that this is the story is true for many today.

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Jennifer, your writing as always has hit a cord for me and this time it is a sad cord.  Well spoken by you but so sad and we see this too much in Michigan with homes vacant.  Not exactly as you have here, but so sad stories nevertheless. 

So sad that this is the story is true for many today.

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Jennifer, your writing as always has hit a cord for me and this time it is a sad cord.  Well spoken by you but so sad and we see this too much in Michigan with homes vacant.  Not exactly as you have here, but so sad stories nevertheless. 

So sad that this is the story is true for many today.

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Jennifer, everytime I see in the MLS "short sale" or "foreclosure" it breaks my heart.  Regardless of how someone got there, it all started with pursuing the American Dream.  We can't know if it was eagerness to have something they really couldn't afford in the first place or the result of the economy.  Unexpected things happen and I don't think anyone lives in the expectation of someday losing their home.
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Jennifer  - All I can offer has already been offered I think John MacArthur in his comment ecohed my feelings most eloquently.
12:49pm • #101
Jennifer. Thanks for sharing quite a post. Remember the children. Thanks,Royal..
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Jennifer, Your writing is filled with an enormous amount of sensitivity. Sharing this sad event with AR is appreciated.

Congratulations on a well deserved featured post.

2:03pm • #103
Jennifer, this made me cry...there are so many sad situations on the market we have today.
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Jennifer, this made me cry...there are so many sad situations on the market we have today.
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Hey my heart goes out to those people losing their homes right now and your absolutely correct that the children in America are really suffering due to the economy.  I appreciate you sharing this touching story with me.

Thank-You,

Tom Davis - Delaware Realtor

11:42pm • #109
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Jennifer - It must have hurt to sit down and write about it, and probably did not make you feel any better.
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I knew you had it in you... to combine your writing talents with real estate -

It is sad, and maybe a bit more shocking as Portland is supposed to be one of the only places left with a stable to increasing market... But it doesn't mean that all are safe from death, divorce, bad loans or whatever the circumstance may be. 

I hope you understand when I say that it is oddly fortunate that you were the one to witness this as only you could relay the story so well.

12:28pm • #111

Jennifer,  Thank you for the story.  I'm like you I want to help but what can you do?  We all donate money and time to causes that are supposed to help but maybe this lady did not know where to go - so sad. 

Wouldn't you love to show this situation to the REALTORS and the Mortgage Lenders that were so money hungry they never thought about the people.

And you write beautifully. 

Kathy

 

2:35pm • #112

Thanks for sharing this, the human element of it all. It about tore my heart out to imagine the rest of the story. But it's something that should be told and heard. 

5:52pm • #113

I keep thinking how scary it must be for the mother and her children not knowing where or how to go. Kudos to you for taking your client and leaving. I am sure the mother and children are distressed enough without having to endure a showing.

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There is a lot of pain in the market today.  And too many people pointing the finger of blame.  There is more than enough to go around and to a degree all affected share at least partially in it. 
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I feel for all the people loosing there homes. I work in Orange County but have been in the Inland Empire, Corona, Chino, Mira Loma, etc. a lot lately. Every block is filled with for sale signs, with bank owned, in foreclose and short sale riders on the sign. Prices have gone down an average of $200K in these homes and there is no way to save them. But lets remember who decided on those neg am loans in the first place, who said I want a brand new 4 bd 3 ba home, who didn't think about the higher payments when the loans adjusted.

I have been through hard times myself, but no one was there to bail me out at crunch time. The children do break your heart, but the responsibility is with the parents who wanted everything and did not think ahead. The builders, the mortgage companies and yes sometimes the Realtors are to blame for putting these people in the American Dream, without a thought to the future.

I hope we can find a way out of this dilema, but I don't think the public should be the ones to help all of the people who  forgot that in their future, there was a piper to pay

Marsha Miller, Prudential CA Realty
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And the bank contacts are so hardened and have no heart at all.  READ MY POST called Foreclosures are ALWAYS a bargain!!! and note my comment on how last week I tried my best to get a short sale completed for an investor client and the bank screwed it up over a few thousand dollars.  Now it will go to foreclosure and the lady that will be foreclosed on probably won't even be able to rent a home when this is all said and done per her listing agent....  SAD SAD SAD!  My $0.02, Steve
6:40am • #117
This is a sad fact of life and I have been in the situation on both sides. I have been "ramen noodle" poor and now have 3 properties. One of which is being rented by my daughter. They are only about $10,000 behind in rent over the last 4 years. I want so bad to remove them but when I go to the house and see my 4 year old and 1 year old grandchildren I just can't bear to think of them on the street. I do love my daughter with all of my hear but she needs to realize that nothing in life is free. I have footed the bill for the rent and utilities for months because I love my grand-babies. I could not imagine the horror of knowing they were living like the children you spoke of. God help them! I know if I had the ability I would!
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That is sad.....and who knows if she was "at fault".  All I know is that I'm still waiting for a "REAL" plan to help people keep their homes...The government doesn't seem to have a problem with "bailing" people out...as long as you're a big wall street investment house, that is....

 

Bob Mitchell

ValueList Real Estate Services, Inc. 

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Jennifer,

Sad and tragic.  Interesting to know they are still trying, while they have lost the house.  In Renton we do have some resources to help folks and I have been know to drop a note or let them use my cell to call.

List and Sell (and remember we are blessed to have what we have)    Gary @ RentonHomeFinder

2:01pm • #120
Jennifer - read about this post on Jason Crouch's entry today and it breaks my heart.  I hope you were able to help the family a bit with immediate needs or advice or something...breaks my heart!
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TO EVERYONE:

WOW! I DON'T KNOW HOW I CAN REPLY TO EACH OF YOU INDIVIDUALLY WITH THIS OVERWHELMING RESPONSE. JUST KNOW THAT I ALWAYS DO AND THIS MAY HAVE TO BE AN EXCEPTION.

FIRST, I WANT YOU ALL TO KNOW THAT THIS WOMAN AND HER CHILDREN ARE HOMELESS DUE TO DIVORCE. THIS WAS IN FACT HER HOUSE PRIOR TO DEFAULTING ON THEIR LOAN. AS A GARDENER MYSELF, IT STRUCK ME THAT SHE HAS MAINTAINED THE EMERGING SPRING GARDEN EVEN THOUGH IT IS UNLIKELY SHE WILL REAP THE EVENTUAL REWARD. THIS IS ALL I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO LEARN. THE REST DOESN'T EVEN MATTER TO ME. I'VE LEFT FOOD FOR THEM INSIDE THE HOUSE AND I HOPE SHE KNOWS THAT MY HEART AND MY GOOD WISHES ARE WITH THEM.  

THANK YOU ALL FOR REMEMBERING THAT WE COULD SO EASILY BE IN HER SHOES.  

 

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Oh, my dear Jenn, how heart-breaking. For as long as we are all human, we all wear the scars of human tragegy, and i must say i am appalled by any comments to this post looking to pinpoint blame...  May she reap the rewards of some Spring garden for her children somewhere :-(
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Jennifer, this is an incredible story. Sad and tragic. Wouldn't it be possible for the banks to lease back the property to the occupants till it sells? My heart breaks for them. No one deserves to be homeless. Later in the rain~Deb
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What a sad story!  I wonder how many similar situations there are out there that we have no idea exist?  Very sobering.  Thanks for sharing.
6:57pm • #125
Said story seems that is the way of our business these days.
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Hi Jennifer - what a heartbreaking story, and when I read your comment just a few above this one, my eyes really watered up even more.  It is so very sad for those who get caught in this type of situation, and for those kids..... my heart breaks thinking about them living like that.

I can't imagine how I would have felt had I been there seeing them in the window like that.  I know I would have had to walk away because I just couldn't have shown that house at that point. 

I've done many BPOs, and when I go into those homes and see lives completely disrupted and left behind, I always find myself wondering about whose home it was and what happened.  And when I see kids' belongings left behind, it really makes me feel so sad.  I was in a house today just like that that I'll be listing, and my mind always wanders to the family whose home life was torn apart.

I'm sure that mother and her kids cherish the angel who brought them some food.....

Ann

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Jennifer,
Here I sit with tears running down my face!  My heart breaks for this woman and her children and I know that there are many more whose story is very much the same.  Children are often victims of adults' actions/decisions.
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Inna... I was equally disturbed by the handful of comments that placed blame or simply wrote this off to the harsh reality of life. I just don't believe that for one moment. If we don't give something - maybe just a smile, or tiny bit of our heart, and when we can... something more - then we really get nothing from this wonderful gift we call life. If nothing else - compassion is free and it's food for every spirit. 

Her garden... well, the flowers are rewarding her right now. Nature is certainly smiling at her. But nature often gets it right.

Debra... Possibly. And you've given me an excellent idea. I will call the listing agent tomorrow and ask if this home is rentable for 2 months and say nothing more about why I'm asking. I would gladly cover that cost. But it will be tricky. Great idea!

Debi... I'm betting that while this may be unusual, it's going on more than we realize. Very sobering indeed.

Susan... I am trying hard not to believe that. But you're probably right.

Ann... your comment means a lot to me. Other than my sweetie, I've pretty much been alone with this and I've wondered if it was wrong of me to walk away and leave the house without showing it. You remind me that he and I are not the only people who follow our hearts no matter what else vies for our loyalty. That's a good thing, right?

I know you'll have a hard time listing that house. I'm sorry Ann.

Cynthia... Naturally you, Mom of such a sweet little girl, would feel for this Mother. And you're so right that many, many more are suffering in the same way. I wish we could reach out and protect every single child, but we can't. So maybe if you know of just one, you could offer something?

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How tragic for the children as they are the victims here.
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Jennifer, I feel the pang of sadness every time I show one...you just do not know what the story was but can only imagine.  Along with that sadness....I also count my blessings.  You write very well, keep it up!
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Pam... Yes they certainly are. In more ways than just the obvious.

Debra... Thank you. I count my blessings as well.  

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Thank-you for such a well written portrayal of the human side to this mess.
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Wow, you truly have a gift for writing.  I have deluded myself into thinking I am a bit of a hard a$$ but your portrayal of this disturbing event set me back some.    Thanks for sharing your talent.
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David... Your comment just made my day - thanks :-)

Chris... What a very kind thing to say. Thank you. But I am most pleased to read that you felt a little something for this Mom and her kids. I try to imagine each day what she's doing and how she's finding ways to cope with her dilemma. A favorite quote from my high school gymnastics coach comes to mind: "Storms make oaks take deeper roots". Here's hoping she will be stronger when this is all over. Thank you for your comment.

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WOW - this post moved me to tears.  I'll never look at another REO property without thinking of this story.
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Spokane Washington RealtorYeah I thought for a moment they were homeless people who broke in, you did use a little poetic talk here keeping us on the edge and sometimes lost. Yes, people rarely look to see the stories and lives behind the pictures of life we see. Home has to be somewhere.
3:38am • #137
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Nancy... I truly hope you don't either.

Ross... That's so true - home has to be somewhere alright. How sad that it can be lost so easily. I hope we all stop now and then to really look at what may be behind what we think we're seeing. 

9:56am • #138
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Jen...I expect a reply to every single comment!

I guess that's the curse of being a good writer and telling a good story.

lotsa love.

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My Joey... You know I always do, but it was a crazy week and this post very quickly got away from me. I promise to do much better next time :)
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Jennifer ~ This is such a sad story. It would be difficult enough if this was a single person - but when children are involved, it makes it so much more difficult.

Homeownership is the American Dream. I wonder what will happen to this woman. She not only must be strong for herself but help her children make sense out of what is happening. Sad!!

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This may go down as one of the best articles, and saddest, this forum has seen.
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Darleen... It is very sad. Not what any of us envision when we imagine our future. I believe she is resourceful and one way or another, she will find the next stone on her path. It is undoubtedly very hard for her at this point in time, but given the care she has shown both in her garden and by finding a safe and warm place for her children - at any risk - she strikes me as a survivor. At least I hope so.
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My Jason... You know how sad this is to me. And while it's definitely very sad, I'm pretty certain you are biased. But you just stay that way baby! I love it ;-)
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Jennifer, oh my god!  This is such a touching post - one that puts a very human face on the whole fiasco.   It's so beautifully written.  wow.
12:35am • #145
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Patricia... Curious you should phrase it that way because there IS a human face attached to every single home that has been lost. And yet, we see it as an economic issue - not the epidemic of broken dreams that it truly is. 

Thank you for your kind comment :)

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Jennifer - This was a great story!  Even more, the subject matter is heart wrenching.  Thanks for sharing your experience with this and reminding each one of us how behind it all, we're still humans.
1:19pm • #147
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James... At least some of us are :-) Hopefully that will be enough.
5:19pm • #148

Jennifer....WOW...I just had to get up from my desk and kiss both of my children!  As a mom this story broke my heart, tragedy can happen to anyone! I've never had to experience that they're in my deepest prayers.

C. Lange

5:35pm • #149
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Mom Lange... I hope you never have to experience it either. EVER! I'm just sorry this Mom (and so many Mom's and Dad's like her) are experiencing this. If you can make a donation at a homeless shelter, etc.. maybe it would be a cool thing to take your kids along with you to do. My son and I have worked the soup kitchen on holidays before and it's very bonding and eye opening. Thanks for your comment and big heart :)
5:46pm • #150
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Jennifer, this was a great story. I first read it almost a month ago, I was pretty new to AR, wasn't sure how to respond.
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Peter... Just say what you feel. Sometimes that's something profound, other times it's just enough to stop in and say 'hey'! Which I hope you will again in the future :) And thanks :)
11:13am • #152
APR
28
2008
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Jennifer, I defintiely will. It's actually amazing how with so many members at AR, I'm actually starting to get to know a lot of people. This is how I came around and read your blog a 2nd time. the 1st time I read it, I was new and didn't know you, but the second time, I felt I was beggining to get to know you.
7:10pm • #153
108,954 Points 8 Featured Posts

Peter... It's a terrific community that way. Today I was at the grocery store and saw so many familiar faces - faces I see almost every time I go in, but so far, none of us have introduced ourselves. After years! And then you come here, on AR, and discover you have an entire community of friends the first few days. It's a wonderful place and I'm delighted to have you here with all of us :))

Stick around... it just gets better!! 

8:52pm • #154
MAY
28
2008

Sad very sad. This is now becoming an everyday occurrence. It's like a giant tsunami overtaking this country. We are not immune to it as we thought we were. The pained look on the faces of these people put so much in perspective.

3:49pm • #155
108,954 Points 8 Featured Posts

Mr. or Ms. Anonymous... Very well put. I think of it as a terrible virus that needs serious life support intervention.

p.s. Do I know you??

3:59pm • #156
JUN
10
2008

I, too, have run across similar things in my business dealings across the country.  So sad.  All we can do is keep spreading the word about these hardships and hope that the powers that be will start working on real solutions to this mess.  Being a very prolific writer myself, I have authored numerous posts on the subject.  Best.

8:55am • #157
108,954 Points 8 Featured Posts

Mystery Person... Did you just forget to log in? How about providing a few links to your posts on this topic?? I'd love to read them!

11:36am • #158
JUN
15
2008
111,430 Points 3 Featured Posts Localism Sponsor Outside Blog

I have just stumbled across your blog and you are a beautiful writer.  It is sad about the lady and her boys.  I know I would want to do something but what?  Bring them something the next night?

12:43am • #159
111,430 Points 3 Featured Posts Localism Sponsor Outside Blog

I have just stumbled across your blog and you are a beautiful writer.  It is sad about the lady and her boys.  I know I would want to do something but what?  Bring them something the next night?

12:43am • #160
JUN
16
2008
108,954 Points 8 Featured Posts

Thank you so much Crystal! I did exactly as you would have - took them food a couple of times. In our own small way, I guess we can all do a little something - even if it's just for a day. Thanks for commenting!

4:52pm • #161
JUL
04
2008
AUG
01
2008

Hi Jennifer - I came here via Mirela's post on you.  Exceptional writing.  But an unfinished story for me and now I will wonder for a long time what has happened to them....

5:51pm • #163
AUG
10
2008
Outside Blog

It is a very sad but very real part of today's market, and just the economy in general!

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