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Haters gonna Hate

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Zion Realty

This is not me                    This is me

                 

It's Friday and it's Halloween to boot! I thought I'd end the work week blowing off just a little bit of steam so those that matter won't mind and those that mind don't matter.

I'm still relatively new to Active Rain and I've found so far that the overwhelming majority of folks here are friendly, inviting, accepting, and knowledgable. But there have been a handful of men (and women) who think it's acceptable to post sexist, rude, inappropriate, and insensitive remarks on my blogs because of how I look.

It's hard enough for a woman in the business world to start and run her own company. I have been a successful real estate agent and now broker for over 16 years and I will continue to be successful. I feel sorry for those people who find it necessary to try and tear another person down because they aren't comfortable with who they are. I'm sorry for those who feel they can post cat-calling comments on a strangers blog post as if they are a construction worker in the 1950's whistling at a female walking across the street. These types of comments and posts on peoples blogs show YOUR character, not mine.

I have always been, and always will be comfortable with who I am. The question for those who post inappropriate comments on other peoples blogs is "Why aren't you?"

 

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Comments(23)

Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

George Souto - so far i've just deleted the comments and left it at that. If those same people do it again I'll report them.

Will Hamm - haha. No, you're good Will. My husband reviews my blogs and comments and he hasn't said anything about you.....yet

Oct 31, 2014 03:57 AM
Kimo Stowell
HI Pro Realty LLC RB-21531 - Honolulu, HI
REALTOR Associate® RS-76763 - Honolulu Hawai'i

Aloha Nicole,

Despite our evolution in human rights and our country's movement towards a more inclusive and accepting society, there are pockets of dark resistance reticent to give up their Neanderthal ways.

In the not to distant past, these primitives could spread their ignorant sexism and hate openly and with little fear of being called out as misogynistic and misanthropic malcontents. Today they are forced to comment anonymously and soon will be extinct all together. Female Neanderthals can be just as nasty as their male counterparts and equally dedicated to resisting the evolution of society regardless of the cave of irony and hypocrisy they take shelter in.

Happy Halloween

peace,

Oct 31, 2014 04:29 AM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

If you feel you are being harassed or being made uncomfortable you can always alert the staff.  Don't put up with it.

Oct 31, 2014 04:51 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

     Hi, Nicole.

     It happens on the internet, but it should not be happening in a tight community like ActiveRain.

     Notify Kerrie or Bob via email with a link to the offending comment.   Or, email support at ActiveRain dot com.

 

    

Oct 31, 2014 05:07 AM
Tom White
Franklin Homes Realty LLC (615) 495-0752 or www.FranklinHomesRealty.com - Franklin, TN
Franklin Homes Realty LLC, Franklin TN

WHAT!? That totally sucks! I don't get why people worry about what somebody else looks like. I guess it just goes to show that there are a few bad apples in every barrel, even a great barrel like ActiveRain. Please don't judge all of us because of a few Neanderthals!

Oct 31, 2014 06:01 AM
Athina Boukas
Virginia Capital Realty - Richmond, VA
Certified Residential Specialist (CRS)

Hi Nicole,

I find it hard to understand how and why people would judge someone based on how they look. I looked at your website and thought it was very creative and refreshing. You are in your own business and you can do whatever you want the way you want! You go girl!

Oct 31, 2014 06:04 AM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

This is terrible. Be sure to report these types of things to Bob Stewart or Kerrie La Guardia . They are great people and don't want this type of behavior on AR. Don't forget, you can always delete comments made on your posts as well.

Oct 31, 2014 06:14 AM
Mark Wagner Jr.
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ

Having been in the fitness industry for 9+ years i totally understand where you are coming from and you are very correct that these people are not comfortable with themselves! It was always a shame to see people lose weight or hit their goals and have people hate on them.  People always find a way to take out their insecurities on others! Like you said haters gonna hate! Keep rockin it!

Oct 31, 2014 08:16 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Hi Nicole,

Thank you for commenting on my post....I stopped by to welcome you in the rain and am shocked to see anyone might be harassing you. That is not what this community is about and I apologize for any rude and immature rainers! I can assure you the majority are not like that..let them know through a private email you will not tolerate their behavior!!

Oct 31, 2014 08:49 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Wow!  Some people are just so ignorant, but there is no reason for you to have to put up with it.  If it continues, report them to the AR staff.  

Most of the people "in the Rain" are great people.  Helpful, knowledgeable, fun and for the most part very positive.  On occasion, I've run into a few that aren't my "cup of tea".....so I just don't bother with them.  At one time I followed their posts and stopped.....that part was easy.

Good luck, but don't let a few bad apples spoil your fun "in the Rain".

Oct 31, 2014 09:18 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Inappropriate comments?  That sucks and have been the recipient of them myself.  I delete them and move on.  

Oct 31, 2014 11:07 AM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Well now Nicole just take a deep breath and tell us what you really think.  Those types of people have been recorded for a long time and will continue.  Just sorry you had to put up with them in this forum 

Oct 31, 2014 08:11 PM
Conrad Allen
Re/Max Professional Associates - Webster, MA
Webster, Ma, Realtor

Wow Nicole.  That sucks.  Is that why you changed your profile picture?  You should have turned the creeps in.

Oct 31, 2014 09:14 PM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

Conrad Allen - No, I like change. I don't like to keep a picture up too long. I get bored with it.

Nov 01, 2014 01:19 AM
Conrad Allen
Re/Max Professional Associates - Webster, MA
Webster, Ma, Realtor

Good.  I got the sense from your blogs nobody is going to intimidate you.  Annoy yes.

Nov 01, 2014 01:45 AM
Peter den Boer
Atlanta Communities - Woodstock, GA
MBA,GRI, Associate Broker, Realtor

Nicole - I agree with everyone above. There is no place in the Rain for that and I would suggest you turn them in. On a lighter note...Look at all of us who came to your defense!! Have a great day!

Nov 01, 2014 03:58 AM
Tom Arstingstall, General Contractor, Dry Rot, Water Damage Sacramento, El Dorado County - (916) 765-5366
Dry Rot and Water Damage www.tromlerconstruction.com Mobile - 916-765-5366 - Placerville, CA
General Contractor, Dry Rot and Water Damage

Holy Cow Nicole, I hope it hasn't been me. My wife tells me that I should just apologize first, I probably have a part in it.  :)

I would hope that things do get better, we really appreciate having you here and hope to have a long successful blogging relationship.

If you need help in dealing with these people - I know some guys...

Thanks for blowing off some stream, I don't mind.  :)

Nov 01, 2014 05:40 AM
David Shamansky
US Mortgages - David Shamansky - Highlands Ranch, CO
Creative, Aggressive & 560 FICO - OK, Colorado Mtg

Well I feel for you as that is ridiculous but I totally understand as I have seen it first hand. Not myself but my wife is so pretty that women (most anyways) hate her out of pure jealousy and thats nothing other than being insecure and sad.

Hang in there and kudos to you for standing up for yourself. Pay no attn or thought to those A-holes and jealous women!

Nov 01, 2014 10:57 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Nicole,  I am sorry to hear this.  I sincerely would not have thought it of the Active Rain community.  Know these comments come from the insecure and jealous.  I know that does not help the sting of such comments when they show their ugly head.  Continue writing for as you say "those of us that count will be looking forward to what you have to say" for in your short time here you have shown yourself to be intelligent, insightful, and successful.  If your looks intimidate someone it is their shallowness showing,  that is all.  Thanks for being in Active Rain and I personally look forward to more from you.  Mark

Nov 02, 2014 03:30 AM
Dave Hymes
RE/MAX Gold - Placerville, CA

Nicole, unfortunately that's the internet, haters are very brave behind a keyboard and type things they would never say in person. Kind of cowardly don't ya think? Just consider the source.

 

Nov 03, 2014 04:42 AM