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What I Learned About Marketing From Our Newborn

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Services for Real Estate Pros with The Silent Partner Marketing

What we learned about marketing from a baby.As a new dad, I've got a lot to learn. 

As business owners and professionals, we also have a lot to learn.

Today's lesson hit me as I was trying to let my wife get some sleep.  I brought our 8-week-old daughter downstairs and spent some time playing with her, then tried to put her down for a nap.  She would have none of it.  She wanted to spend time with me NOW.  Not later.  She could care less how much work I had to get done...her message was LOUD and clear.  Spend time with me.  Pay attention to me.  Love me.

She's right.  Your customers are also right.  And here are the lessons in marketing I learned from an 8-week-old.

 

Pay Attention To Me Now

The average attention span for adults watching online video is 9 seconds.  That's how long you have to capture their attention.  The average attention span for goldfish is 10 seconds.  We have a shorter attention span than goldfish, and if you don't capture people quickly and then pay attention to THEM immediately, then you've lost.  How does this apply to your follow-up process?  If someone expresses an interest to do business with you, how quickly do you respond to their needs?  How are you interacting with them on social media RIGHT NOW?  How are you serving their needs RIGHT NOW?

I'm Hungry

Consumers are hungry for knowledge.  They're hungry for education.  They're hungry for value.  They're hungry for a high level of engagement.  Are you feeding them?  Are you using social media to engage your customers in the way that they want to be engaged...or are you trying to force feed them nothing but your sales pitch?  

I'm a big fan of info-tainment.  Entertain me but educate me at the same time.  Whether you're doing a walk-around video of a house you're trying to sell me or showing me why your wine is better than the competition...I want to enjoy the experience while I'm learning.

I'm Tired

Sometimes your customers are shopping at night.  Sometimes they're just exhausted by shopping around with companies that don't ask them to take action.  Either way, the message here is clear.  Provide a clear, easy-to-answer call to action and make it as easy for customers to do business with you as possible...even if they're half asleep.  

I Want To Be Held

You can't just tell a baby it's time to calm down and she listens.  Trust me, I've tried.  You need to hold her.  Cuddle her.  You need to provide a relaxing and nurturing experience.  You need to hold her hand and help her make that transition into the next topic.

I Want To Trust You

Trust isn't given.  It's earned.  You earn that trust through creating an experience where that baby knows if something is wrong, you'll be there.  You'll provide anything and everything she needs to make sure that she's safe and happy.  Your customer WANTS to trust you.  Help them to.  You can begin to establish that level of trust with your customer before you've ever even met them.  Create videos for your business about who you are and how you operate - again, making them fun and entertaining.  Engage them on social media by working whatever platform they may be on - Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Snapchat, LinkedIn, etc.

I Scare Easily

When I cough, our daughter gets startled.  She throws her hands up in the air if she's asleep and then slowly lowers them down, gently putting her guard back down.  Your customers scare easily as well.  If you get too close too soon, you may turn them off.  If you start asking personal questions that are just a little too personal, or start texting them just a little too often, or ask them for the sale a little too soon, you risk scaring them off.

Make Me Smile

Dating.  Babies.  Business.  It's all the same here.  Make them smile and they're yours.  Create a close personal connection with them and help them to feel good about the decision to be with you.  People no longer want to just buy a product or a service, they want it to be an experience.  They want to enjoy it.  They want to leave smiling and feeling good.  Are you making this happen for your customers?

I Want You To Know What I Need

I'm crying and I don't know why.  Do I need a nap, a snack or a diaper?  That's up to YOU to find out.  Just as a baby expects you to figure out what she needs, so does your customer.  That's part of the reason they are coming to you.  Do your homework and be able to sell them on the value of whatever it is that you're proposing.  You're not just selling a product or a service, you're selling a solution.  I'm not always going to give you enough info to know exactly what I need - I expect you to figure it out.

I'll Fake You Out

Sometimes you think it's the diaper.  Then you get down there and realize it's dry as a desert and now the baby is laughing at you.  Faked you out.  Sometimes you'll try and feed her and she'll start pushing you away.  Gotcha, mom.

Can't the same thing be said for your customer?

How many times have you had THIS thought?  "But...she SAID she wanted a house with a garage."  "But...I thought he wanted a car that had leather."  "But...she said she wanted a light, crisp wine."

Your customer WILL fake you out sometimes.  But as I mentioned previously, it's up to you to figure out what they need.

I Like Music

The only way to calm our screaming baby sometimes is music.  "Turn Down For What", specifically.  That's right, Lil Jon rocks the hell out of that cradle and she loves it.  I'll bet you never would have imagined this sweet little angel making that her jam.  

Create an experience for your customer.  Know that sometimes what you THINK they like isn't going to be what they REALLY like.  Ask questions.  Try stuff out.  You may be surprised to find that the 65-year-old grandmother you've been talking to is working Facebook and Twitter like nobody's business.

Sometimes, I'm Full of Crap

"I can't afford that."  "I'm not here to buy today, I'm just here to look."  

Sometimes - many times, actually - our customers are like a newborn.  They are absolutely and entirely filled with crap.  What's the trick?  Being able to tell WHEN they are full of crap.  Nothing calls a baby's crying bluff like a fresh diaper.  Get to the cause of the problem and fix it.  But you can't fix it if you don't recognize that there is a problem to begin with.

Mom Knows Best

I hate the fact that my wife is usually right.  And when it comes to the baby, that statement couldn't be more accurate. 

She knows how to quiet her down EVERY TIME.  She knows what the baby needs EVERY TIME.  She's patient.  She's loving.  She's kind.  She's nurturing.  She's everything I hope to be in a parent and more.

On a side note, she's also the one you should be targeting with those ads for baby stuff.  And house stuff.  And all stuff in general.

Because mom knows best. 

Everything You Thought You Knew Was Wrong

I thought life was all about me.  And about my wife.  And about having a nice home and a great job.

I thought that shushing a baby would put her right to sleep.

I thought I couldn't possibly manage on fewer than five hours of sleep.

Everything I thought I knew was entirely wrong.

You THINK you know where your customer is and what they're doing.  You THINK you know what types of advertising will hit them.  I mean, it's always been television, radio and newspaper...so it will always be that, right?

You're pretty sure you know what to do with social media.

But guess what?  When it comes to marketing during this digital revolution, a lot of what we thought we knew was entirely wrong.

Start marketing in the year we are actually doing business in.  And learn the lessons of the newborn.  Nurture.  Love.  And don't forget to change the diaper.  

 

 
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Kyle Reyes is the President and Creative Director of The Silent Partner Marketing, a boutique marketing firm focused on helping businesses grow in an age of exploding technology.
 
Reyes is an acclaimed Keynote Speaker on entrepreneurship, leadership, marketing and social media.
 
The CEO is a former Producer of News and Special Projects, having worked in broadcast journalism for nearly a decade.  His team offers a marketing one-stop-shop, filling the role of a Chief Marketing Officer and support staff at a fraction of the cost of having to worry about the payroll, taxes, benefits, etc.
 
Reyes has appeared in multiple media outlets including Aol.Com, Yahoo and Bloomberg Business. 
 
You can find him on FacebookTwitter, Instagram and SnapChat (@dasilentpartner).  And he wants to connect with you on LinkedIn, so send him a request!
 

Comments(122)

Nina Rogoff
Boston, MA
Wix Websites for Real Estate Agents

In the end, you know what really matters and who is really right...your wife! 'course your daughter already knows that, too! lol We need to remember that the client is always right...even when they don't know yet what they want.

Nov 29, 2014 09:51 AM
Catherine Ulrey
Keller Williams Capital City - Salem, OR
Equestrian and Acreage Property Specialist

That's a lot of insight from a new born!  Congratulations.

Nov 29, 2014 01:25 PM
Kyle Reyes
The Silent Partner Marketing - Manchester, CT

Both are very valid points, Nina Rogoff lol.

Catherine Ulrey thank you!!

Nov 29, 2014 09:16 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Kyle, you did a great job of tying the baby in to marketing! Great job, and she is a little beauty!

Nov 30, 2014 08:49 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Hi, Kyle!  You can find this post on today's "Last Week's Favorites".

Nov 30, 2014 09:34 AM
William Johnson
Retired - La Jolla, CA
Retired

Hi Kyle, Congratulations on the new family member and this marvelous comparison of baby and client. Well deserved feature. Very creative and a fun read.

Nov 30, 2014 12:04 PM
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

Kyle a very clever post.. I think we all can learn something from the newest members of our famlies.

Nov 30, 2014 12:09 PM
Beth and Richard Witt
New York, NY
The best Retired Brokers !!!!

Kyle I love this post and if not for Pat including it in her weekly favorites I would have missed it... I'm sharing on Pinterest and sending to all of our agents...

Love it!!!

Dec 01, 2014 01:17 AM
Beth and Richard Witt
New York, NY
The best Retired Brokers !!!!

Kyle I tried to re-blog for all that missed it as I did but I wan't allowed...

I did get you on Pinterest so hoping some agents will benefit from your great advice...

Dec 01, 2014 01:22 AM
Donny Carter
Carter & Roque Real Estate - Frostburg, MD
Mountain Maryland Real Estate Expert

Kyle you hit the nail on the head! As a new parent and Real Estate Professional, I agree that this is a perfect analogy. 

Dec 01, 2014 01:53 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

Very nice analogy.  Yes many of my clients are just like babies.  On the serious side, pay attention to them when you get their attention.  

Dec 02, 2014 06:50 AM
Kyle Reyes
The Silent Partner Marketing - Manchester, CT

Thanks so much Patricia Kennedy and Richard & Beth Witt!  Thanks everyone for your kind words!  And Donny Carter congrats is in order for you - good luck!  Fun, isn't it? 

Dec 03, 2014 10:47 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Great lessons on marketing and more, thanks for sharing the wisdom shared by your young client Kyle!

 

Btw, congratulations on becoming a new father, it is an exciting time in life.

Dec 04, 2014 06:24 AM
Kyle Reyes
The Silent Partner Marketing - Manchester, CT

Bob Crane thank you so much!

Dec 05, 2014 07:01 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

I love this post - and will share it with all the agents in my office having babies!

Mar 18, 2015 09:31 PM
Winston Heverly
Coldwell Banker Access Realty - South Macon, GA
GRI, ABR, SFR, CDPE, CIAS, PA

I think Active Rain has done a great job in bringing out the best potential in all of their members blogs like this one.

Mar 23, 2015 08:18 AM
Wayne Zuhl
Remax First Realty II - Cranford, NJ
The Last Name You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

First, congratulations on becoming a Dad. Your daughter is beautiful and lucky to have a father that clearly understands her needs. 

Second, your post is fabulous. Thank you for sharing!

Aug 01, 2015 10:59 PM
Kyle Reyes
The Silent Partner Marketing - Manchester, CT

Thanks so much, Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl !

Aug 02, 2015 10:39 AM
Wayne B. Pruner
Oregon First - Tigard, OR
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI

Great post and anology. You are coming up on a first birthday!

Sep 30, 2015 07:39 AM
Kyle Reyes
The Silent Partner Marketing - Manchester, CT

Thanks Wayne B. Pruner - just passed it!

Sep 30, 2015 10:50 AM