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I have been threatening to write a blog for about a year now. I'll think of a topic, research it, agonize over the tone of my writing, wonder if it is witty enough and eventually get distracted by daily business. I'll come back to it weeks later and find that the topic is no longer timely or in hindsight was silly to begin with.

I just read a post written by a VERY GOOD friend (wink) about living within your means. It was well written, thought provoking and coincided with something that I read a few weeks ago that quietly outraged me. I started thinking about it and realized "I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY"! It may not be well written or thought provoking, no research has been done to back up my thoughts and there is certainly no wit involved but I'm outraged and I'm going to say it!

There was an article in a local paper not too long ago featuring a man who was outraged (that seems to be going around) that he was being kept from the American Dream of home ownership by banks that would not lend to him because his credit score is a 619. It was a long and slanted article about this "poor" man and how he was being done wrong by mortgage lenders and credit scoring agencies. It talked about the lack of common sense in today's lending environment and how the current credit crisis was keeping good people from buying homes. I feel that credit scoring is a behemoth that no one can really understand (a rant for another time) and there have been some very strange and nonsensical underwriting guidelines published recently (yet another rant) so I did feel a bit badly for him although in the back of my head I was thinking (FHA, FHA) of the other reasons he might not qualify for a loan.

There was an editorial response printed the next week from a local lender who explained that the reason this "gentleman" could not obtain a a loan through the FHA is that he did not have the minimum 3% down payment that the FHA requires. When you talk about living within your means you must take into account not just a monthly figure that you can pay but also the amount of savings that you will be able to accumulate while making that payment.

I am certain if this individual had wanted the American Dream in the roaring early 2000's there would have been lenders lined up to give him a loan with no money out of his pocket and with no regard to his means. I am equally sure that if lets say his oil burner broke and the only way he could heat his house was by skipping the mortgage payment to fix it he would have done so. I feel confident that once on this slippery slope of homeownership outside of his means that his house would have eventually been foreclosed on and he would be outraged that the lender had put him in this position.

I am outraged by the sense of entitlement that is so common today. I want therefor I should get and you ( the lender, the government, the parents ) have to make sure that happens. I am outraged by the lack of accountability that is so common today. I wanted it, you gave it to me, it was bad for me so you need to fix it for me. I am outraged that journalists who don't understand the mortgage or real estate business and make little effort to educate themselves on those industries write these "human interest" fluff pieces and make it harder for the industry experts to do their jobs. Wait, that's a rant for another time.

Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life
Beth - What an outstanding first post!  I'm with on how ridiculous the sense of entitlement is in our culture.  This was articulated wonderfully and I hope the individuals you mention will run across this piece in their Internet travels.
Apr 11, 2008 06:08 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTORĀ®/Broker/Designer

I am outraged too. Though entitlement seems to be the culture we've created and it disgusts me. But then again, if I don't get my way... look out!

Wonderful first post! Subscribed.

Apr 11, 2008 06:17 AM
Bill Engleman
Infinity Home Mortgage - Nesquehoning, PA
Schuylkill and Carbon Countynulls FHA & USDA Specialist
Beth- I'm also outraged, outraged that Jennifer Bukaty subscribed to you and not to me. I'll take that up with her VERY GOOD friend (wink) shortly. It was a great first post although I would have liked to see a little more of the sarcasm you're so famous for. That's something to work on for future posts. Until then, try to be taller.
Apr 11, 2008 08:08 AM
Beth Forbes
The mortgage help you want when you need it. - Center Valley, PA
Your 24/7 loan officer

Sardipants: Since you were the one dragging while I was kicking and screaming, I do appreciate the kind comments.

Jennifer: Wanting something, going b*lls to the wall to get it and flattening anything standing in your way is right! Expecting someone to give it to you because you're "owed" is what makes me so mad. In an aside, please don't move to the Lehigh Valley or you will be known as Mrs. Sardipants. You seem far to dignified for that.

Billy Billy: Chicks dig me, what can I say? Of course that's not something you'd know about (was that what you were looking for?). I'd work on the taller thing but it's so convinient being this height!

Apr 11, 2008 08:33 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTORĀ®/Broker/Designer

hmmmm... Mrs. Sardipants. I don't know, I might change my mind on that... But if when I do get there, maybe you and I could hook up? (wink wink!)

Sorry Scott.

Lol @ Engleman. I will subscribe as soon as I get this pics you owe me buddy!!! 

Apr 11, 2008 10:44 AM
Scott Geary
Infinity Home Mortgage Company Inc - Allentown, PA
Your Pennsylvania Mortgage Source
OK friend (wink) - so it took me a while to comment and I certainly apologize for the delay. This was an outstanding 1st post! And right on the mark too! I suppose that no matter what the scenario,the lenders, brokers, bankers, etc. will take the fall. 'I got a loan and it's the banks fault I did and am now facing foreclosure' or 'I can't get a loan to live the American Dream, and it's the lenders fault.' Never mind the high debt ratio, lack of funds, instability of income etc. The entitlement issue is an enormous part of all thats happening in our industry. Now more than ever, applicants NEED a rock solid, knowledgeable MORTGAGE BROKER to help them plot their course to home ownership. Know any? Nicely done Beth!
Apr 18, 2008 04:31 AM
Anonymous
Fred Forbes Pennsylvania Architectural Photographer

Interesting to hear such firey words from a namesake.  The word entitlement is thrown around a lot.  The other side of the equation...entrepreneurial...must not be overlooked, as those who take responsibility for themselves will find ways to treasure what they already have.  Since this is the first time I have read or answered a blog, I'm guessing I'm of your father's generation.  I also suspect if you were taller the world couldn't handle it!

Nov 05, 2008 02:47 AM
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Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTORĀ®/Broker/Designer

Hi Mr. Forbes!! :)

Nov 05, 2008 03:41 AM