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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 GREC# 169695

I was busy as a bee again today when I was at work. I also had a Dr. appointment this afternoon because I'm feeling a bit under the weather. Then I went back to the office and worked on various parts of three contracts. One  I had to scan and send to the listing agent. Had to forward an addendum the bank sent to yet another buyer today. Also had to type an amendment to get signed after the negotiations after the inspection.

My Donald is so very sweet.  He was there for my hand holding while they poked and prodded my vanishing, diving, blow out and collapsing veins for them to draw vile after vile of blood. And he was my squeeze ball when I got not one, but two giant shots. Hopefully tomorrow I will feel better.

On the ride to the doctor I mentioned to Donald that I felt sure that part of my physical pain today was my heartache. It was 4 years ago today that my nephew died. My heart aches. Not for Hunter, but those of us left behind.  For his big sister that catches herself looking at the clock at 4:28 time and time again.  For his little sister who will graduate from high school and feels alone on that journey because Hunter never got to walk across that stage and get his own diploma. For my Abigail is at work tonight and for every life she helps save on this day she will always remember the one, her cousin, that couldn't be saved.

So with my very heavy heart I want to remind you to tell those people in your family and your circle of friends that you love them. You never know how much time you have, you never know how much time they have.  Donald and I have lost three nephews between us and it's just heartbreaking to loose a young person in your family. Tell someone you love them.  And reach out to anyone that you know that may be hurting over a loss they've had. Even though years may have passed I can tell you from experience the loss is with you every day. The pain is with you ever single day. Reach out.

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Comments (35)

Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Tammy, our bodies have a way of reminding us of events.  We need to treasure every moment we have with loved ones and friends.  I cannot imagine losing a child. Please know that I'm sending enormous hugs from Dallas to you and your entire family.

Apr 28, 2015 05:48 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Tammy. I can understand when you have a heavy heart, because of losses like the ones in your family. The greatest gift you can give them, is to remember them.

Apr 28, 2015 06:46 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Oh my gosh, Tammy -- I am so sorry for your loss! It truly is not in the natural order of things to lose those younger than us and you and your family have had more than your share of heartbreak in this regard.

Apr 28, 2015 09:11 PM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Tammy, I am sorry to read about your nephew. April must be a very difficult month for you.

Apr 28, 2015 09:11 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Tammy Adams ~ Realtor Maricopa, AZ I could use that hug right now too.

Kristin Hamilton CA Realtor in a blink of the eye someone can be gone

Sharon Parisi that is so very true.  There are times I've gotten physically ill before I realized it was one of "those" dates on the calendar.  For years I'd get a little sick around the anniversary of tornado where I lost a lot of things that could never be replaced, I never worried a second over "things" I had bought, but some family things that had been passed down and were not worth much to the insurance company were priceless to me.

Joe Petrowsky and he will never be forgotten.

Apr 29, 2015 12:22 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Nina Hollander I agree we've had more than our share. It's made me a very empathic to others kind of person.  I feel others pain very profoundly because I know it first hand.

Gita Bantwal The actual days are hard, but rarely does a day go by that I don't think about the young people my family has lost.

Apr 29, 2015 03:53 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Tammy-Sending you lots of love and hugs. Time does NOT heal all wounds.  I hope you feel better soon and whatever you needed to go to the doctor for is minor. Take care of yourself.

Apr 29, 2015 06:05 AM
Sussie Sutton
David Tracy Real Estate - Houston, TX
David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers

I know it is sad ... I pretend they are away at camp. My nephew died from cancer years now; he was 21.

Apr 29, 2015 06:33 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Sharon Lee waiting for test results and I don't wait well. But hopefully all is well.

Sussie Sutton we have to each deal with it the best way we can figure out.

Apr 29, 2015 06:39 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Tammy, hope you feel better soon, and so sad to hear your heart aches for Hunter.   One would think those "heart aches" would lessen, but they sure don't.   We always think of those we have lost. 

Apr 29, 2015 11:03 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Tammy- I hope that you will soon be feeling better, and I understand your aching heart for Hunter.  You're so right to remind us that we must never stop telling those we love just how much we love them, and cherish every minute we have with them. It is especially hard when those lost are so young. 

Apr 29, 2015 12:17 PM
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Tammy, when we lose our friends and/or family it seems the heartache never ends. My mother died at the early age of 52 of pancreatic cancer...48 years ago. I miss her every day. THe pain is gone but at times I still cry as I miss her and my dad very much. But, thank GOD for the memories...they are sooooo good!

Apr 29, 2015 12:19 PM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

I know there is a greater Intellingence, I know there is a God. But dang it, there are some things I just cannot come to understand.  Having Hunter taken from us doesn't make sense, no way, no how.  Much less to have 3 of these.

Since you're not having a good day, I may as well tell you about my veins. Big fat blue honkers.  I've been donating blood since I first got to college (the gimmick was, donate a pint, get a free Molson beer).  Anyhow, I've had many many many people tell me I'd have an easy time being a junkie since my veins were so easy.  But...I'm too chicken-**** for pain to go that route.

Apr 29, 2015 12:43 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Claude Labbe Oh I wish it was just the three.  But in my adult life I've lost my cousin Dale who was my age (was in my early 20s when he died). I worked at the newspaper and I actually found out because his name was in the State Patrol report that came over the AP wire as a memorial holiday accident fatality.  My cousin Sammy in the early 90s.  Fell out of the back of a pick up truck and died. Then my cousin Christopher who was just 17 and a junior in high school in 1996 (fell out of the back of a pick up truck)  Sammy's mom was a nurse on call in the ER when Christopher was brought in.  Yeah how screwed up was that. My cousin Russell the father of 5 committed suicide. I'm still pissed at him. My Donald's nephew Jay who passed before we met (early 90s) fell out of the back of pickup truck (I know right?) and after we were married his nephew Kellen (committed suicide) again, I know right?, Then my nephew Hunter, then two years ago my cousin Ryan in a motorcycle accident. All younger than me.  All of them should still be here.  The only thing I can take any solice in at all is that I believe they are not suffering and in a better place. 

And while I don't have big juicy veins and I never got more than a cookie and juice for my gift of blood I too have donated, in fact I don't know exactly how much, but I do know I have my 8 gallon pin in my jewelry box and I've donated since I got that.

Apr 29, 2015 01:50 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Joan Cox I did feel better today.  At the end of the day I'm pretty tired, but hopefully will wrap up my social media rountine soon, take the pups out and get to bed.

Kathy Streib It's so easy to think I'll tell them later.  You just can't always have later.

Rebecca Gaujot, the GO TO REALTOR my dad lost his father young from cancer 39 years ago.  So when my own dad had cancer 16 years ago I was in major panic mode. I was fortunate he made it though and that I learned to see every single day as a gift.

 

Apr 29, 2015 01:55 PM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

Tammy, you're still here strong & kicking.  So, while I don't understand the ways of God at all times, I've got to believe you're still here because you got stuff to do. Important stuff.

Apr 29, 2015 02:15 PM
Mike Frazier
Carousel Realty of Dyer County - Dyersburg, TN
Northwest Tennessee Realtor

Tammy, we have all lost people close to us and it is never easy.

Apr 30, 2015 04:34 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

So sorry to hear and I wish you nothing but love and light and many spiritual hugs!

Apr 30, 2015 04:50 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Mike is right that something like this can make you feel useless or crazy and its uneasiness is nothing to play with and takes time to heal from in almost all aspects.

Apr 30, 2015 04:51 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Also, remember that I lost my mom and there's really nothing to describe that loss I could ever make you understand without actually experiencing it.

Apr 30, 2015 04:52 PM