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8 ways to be happier.... Make a not so good day better

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Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Integrity

8 Ways to Make a Not-So-Good-Day Better

1. Use the phrase, “I’ll wait for you,” or “We have time.” Such offerings only cost a few minutes but have the potential... to bring instant peace to any situation.

2. Accept one invitation that will make someone else happier:
Yes, you can throw a penny in the fountain.
Yes, we can read one more book.
Yes, you can push the button.
Then notice the joy that YES brings; that joy is yours for the taking.

3. Decline one request that will make you happier:
No, that doesn’t work for me right now.
I wish I could, but I can’t.
It’s no for today, but please ask me another time.
Feel the relief that NO brings. Commend yourself for guarding your time and energy.

4. When a loved one is struggling or you are in conflict with each another, ask: “How can I help?” This question acknowledges his or her struggle while keeping defensiveness, judgment, and accusation out of the equation. It puts you on the same team.

5. Be a Silver-Lining Spotter. In the midst of a challenging moment, find the bright side:
Well, at least we didn’t miss the whole thing.
Well, it could be raining too.
Well, at least we had a few minutes to talk while we waited for the doctor.

Added bonus: This teaches your loved ones to be Silver-Lining Spotters too.

6. If feeling overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of you, remind yourself that you do not have to them all at once, just one. Just start with one.

7. When critical thoughts become critical words that hurt loved ones or yourself, silence them with the phrase: “Only love today.” Constant criticism creates a toxic environment where no one wants to be. Love creates a home that people want to come back to—even when they are grown.

8. Remind yourself of this significant (but often unappreciated) fact: Someone is counting on me to be here and I am. I am here.
If that is all you do today, that is worthy of celebration

I hope this makes your day a bit brighter! Feel free to pass this along to friends and family who need to be happier!

Jan Sohlman

RE/MAX Integrity

541-302-4810

Your realtor in Lane County Oregon. Jan Sohlman has been selling homes in Lane County Oregon for over 30 years and 25 years with RE/MAX Integrity. Ready to buy or sell a home, then give Jan Sohlman of Remax a call.

Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Jan - thank you for those 8 thoughts.  Always seek to serve and look for the positive.  That is what I believe.

Apr 06, 2016 06:41 AM
Jan Sohlman
RE/MAX Integrity - Eugene, OR
RE/MAX Integrity

I think helping others always makes one feel better. Thanks for the reminder Grant Schneider . You are very right! :)

Apr 07, 2016 08:12 AM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

Hi, Jan. These are all great ways to change the way we are thinking. I love #5. I also look on the bright side. 

Apr 07, 2016 10:18 AM
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

 Good morning Jan Sohlman . These are all excellent mood changers. When I start to get overwhelmed, I take a deep breath and say, "I am safe."

Apr 08, 2016 06:07 PM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Jan,

I agree, change your ''glass half empty'' attitude to ''glass half full'' one. 

Apr 13, 2016 04:53 PM