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Open House Etiquette?

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Real Estate Agent with RLAH@properties AB95346

This is one of those "what would you do" posts. 

Here's the situation:

  • Two units are for sale (a 2-bedroom and a 3-bedroom) in a popular DC building, and both being held open in the same condo building at the same time.
  • The two units are listed by two different agents with two different companies.
  • There is a front desk, and we both have signs with the Open House information.
  • A buyer starts out visiting the 2-bedroom unit, and mentions to that listing agent that she is really looking for a 3-bedroom unit and plans to visit that Open House as well.
  • The listing agent of the 2-bedroom unit leaves her Open House to accompany the prospect (who she has just met) to the 3-bedroom unit, as if this is her client.

So here's the thing.

I was holding open the 3-bedroom unit.  As it happens, I have a policy of not ever doing dual agency.  If I get an unrepresented buyer, I will refer them to a colleague should they decide to make an offer.  Also, I will honor any other agent's relationship with any buyer who visits my open, even if the buyer tells me they are currently not represented.

So why does this situation bother me?

Like this agent, I look at open houses as not only a chance to find the bues for my listing, but also to meet people who might want to buyer or sell a different property.  If my listing won't work, I'd love to help them find something else that will be perfect.  And like this other agent, I will try to use our time together in my listing to establish rapport.

But here's the thing.  I would never ever in a million years leave my own Open House to follow a prospect to a colleague's listing. 

Was this behavior unethical? 

This agent probably did not really violate the NAR Code of Ethics, so within the context of real estate agent behavior, probably not. Although leaving a listing during an advertised Open House is arguably not the best way to represent your client's best interests.

In nearby Maryland, it's illegal for an agent to broach the subject of representing someone looking at an open listing or to bring up other homes on the market - even if what you are holding open doesn't meet their neeeds.  While you are at an Open House, you are representing the seller, even if you are holding open a colleague's listing.   In DC, where this condo building is located, there are no such limitations on Open House behavior.

So probably nothing for NAR to get upset about, and not illegal in DC.  Still, was this behavior a little tacky?  Yeah.  I think so. 

Still, should this tacky agent bring me an offer on my listing from this purchaser (or anyone else, for that matter), I would be elated.  And I would treat her like my new best friend, tacky or not. 

My job, after all, is to get the place sold.  So I won't be leaving my listing to bring any buyers I've just met to her listing. 

Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

That agent was wrong to leave their Open House unless she had a partner. I doubt if the owner would approve. Also, agent shouldn't have assumed he/she was going to be representing and writing an offer for the open house visitor, unless the visitor told agent he/she needs to find an agent. If I was that visitor, I just would have told that agent that I don't need their help finding the 3 bedroom condo. I might take his/her card, and tell them I'll call them when I'm ready to interview agents.

Jun 14, 2015 10:20 PM
Gay E. Rosen
Julia B. Fee Sotheby's International Realty - Larchmont, NY
As Real as Real Estate Gets!

I would have that 'icky' feeling too. As Jeff had mentioned, if there was someone still manning her open house, then it could be conceived differently... but it is also like the same company conducting 5 different open houses, and buyers going to the first one and then go to the second stating that 'so and so sent them (from the first)' when all of the signs are out there. What can you do but resolve not to hold an open house along with someone else

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Jun 14, 2015 11:09 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hi Patricia -- since you asked what would I do?

As you stated, I look at my goal at an open house as selling that property - that's why I prefer to be the one holding my own listing's open house and also not to hold open other agents' listings.  

If there was some type of "chemistry" that occurred in that visit, I can see leaving an open house as long as someone was covering it but the likelihood of such an occurrence is highly unlikely and looks rather desperate to me. Imagine what the "buyer" thinks --- now, there's a question.   Where is John Quinones?

 

Jun 14, 2015 11:14 PM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Assuming there wasn't another agent covering the open house, and if I were the seller and found out MY agent abandoned MY open house in favor of trying to sell my competition, I think the next conversation with the agent would be about the need for them to promptly remove sign, lockbox and to start seeking employment elsewhere.

Jun 14, 2015 11:19 PM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

I wouldn't even think of leaving my open house; my duty is to my seller.

Jun 15, 2015 12:23 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Patricia Kennedy  I tend to agree with Michael Jacobs .There have been times that I have had instant Chemistry with a particular buyer .  Other then that I would not have brought a buyer .. Hope you had a successful open house

Jun 15, 2015 12:31 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Sounds like the first agent knew to take full advantage of his opportunity with the buyer.  I'd take it as a compliment that they were not letting that buyer walk to your open unattended.  They were afraid they'd lose them.  

 

Jun 15, 2015 01:32 AM
Chris and Dick Dovorany
Homes for Sale in Naples, Bonita Springs and Estero, Florida - Naples, FL
Broker/Associate at Premiere Plus Realty

Wow, Pat you are a much better person than I.  I'd have sent an e-mail to the agent and CC both brokers just to put them all on notice.  The I would mention it at an office meeting so others are aware and try to keep a distance.  As we all know, these types of agents do not last forever.

Jun 15, 2015 03:26 AM
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Pat - I agree with you - a bit tacky. We always need to remember that we're there to serve our clients first, and that finding new clients has to come second to that.

Jun 15, 2015 03:58 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

It does not surprise me, I have met plenty of agents like this, they think that it is just being thorough, while those around them often think it is something else.

Jun 15, 2015 06:03 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Since the 2-bedroom unit is occupied, I assume she locked the door and took off.  She did not have anyone helping at the Open.

And I agree that, as Michael and several others put it, my job is to get the listing sold, and I think that leaving one's listing to try to grab a new buyer who might buy the competition really isn't the best way to serve a sellers' interest.

Jun 15, 2015 06:27 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

When you leave your open, you could be upsetting a buyer for it while you are away.    Just not good business.

Jun 15, 2015 02:38 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

You know, if these two listings had been houses in the same neighborhood, accompanying a prospect you just met to another agent's Open House would be pretty unheard of, even if there was a second agent to cover in the listing agent's absence.  And especially if the prospect was on the way to the second listing as a result of whatever advertising and promotion the second agent had done. 

When an agent holds an open, it's to get the listing sold and to meet  prospects for other listings and sales.  The first agent robs the second agent of the possibility of establishing a relationship with the prospect in question.  And this was a case where my listing wasn't quite right for her, and with the other agent hovering like she owned this woman, I had no chance of following up. 

I think this kind of behavior is inappropriate on so many levels.  And while leaving an Open House is wrong, this is almost like the agents who hover around a colleague's Open and try to pick up prospects as they head for their cars. 

Jun 16, 2015 12:12 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

It was not the most professional way to handle that customer, especially if the agent abandoned their own Open House.  It could have been that the customer just didn't know how to shake the agent

Jun 21, 2015 12:28 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

We definitely do take basics like this for granted and we forget that we learned how to mind matters in preschool.

Jun 21, 2015 02:45 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Not the most professional but definitely unique in the very few units details insisting to be that interesting.

Jun 21, 2015 02:46 PM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

"tacky" is the gentle word.

I'll pretty much believe the buyer didn't likely know she was being "represented" by the 2-bedroom Open House agent.

I WOULD have liked the Open House agent to simply direct this unrepresented buyer to your listing, and to continue to focus on her seller client's needs.  It would have been appropriate to give the unrepresented buyer a business card and say "go along and check that unit out which I think may work for you, call me later and we can chat about how I can help you".

I WOULD have liked you to do as you did.  Zip it, keep your thoughts to yourself, smile, alert the seller to what you know, because knowing about how that buyer agency came to be could influence how your seller responds to the offer.

If the buyer thinks about this very long (oh,maybe more than 30 seconds), she'll realize that not all was well with that first Open House.

Jun 21, 2015 03:15 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I have had the same thing happen in Clarksville. I too think it is tacky and even had the agent act like I had better not talk to her "new clients". It doesn't make me respect that agent and wonder if she locked up the house or put a note on the door that she would be right back. Her sellers deserve better.

Jun 21, 2015 10:37 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Pat  I would call it "no class" piece of s.... of an agent...when I was new in the business I saw seasoned agent hanging around my open house "kidnapping" the potential lookie loose ....needless to say I understood their intent...I do not have time to focus on such bottom feeders....Endre

Jun 22, 2015 03:53 PM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

It's times like that that you wish the sellers of the other listing sent an undercover friend to scope out the open house. How do agents get away with representing their clients so poorly?

Jul 04, 2015 03:40 AM