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SCOLDED BUT NOT FOLDED

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Real Estate Agent with Austin Texas Homes

 

 

 

 

Confrontation is a word we don't like to hear. No one is naturally good at it and it is usually very uncomfortable. Unfortunately the need for it arises very often. Bullies do not disappear after we leave grade school. 

I spent a good part of last evening talking with one of my leaders about leadership. The primary issue was their timid approach to leadership. No one was really bullying them or purposely trying to disrespect them. But since the leader was timid in leading, others were stepping forward because they sensed the absence of leadership and direction.

My leader was ready to quit, give up, slip away into the shadows, fold up her tent and go home. I told her you have to believe in yourself as much as I believe in you. You cannot be so sensitive. Leaders often do not have the luxury of dwelling on how the group feels about them. 

Leadership is influence and not Title. No one follows a title into battle. We follow those who have demonstrated they care, are willing to stand on the front line and move purposefully through life. 

When you get scolded and you will. DO NOT FOLD! Lead!

 

 

Comments (13)

Broker Patty Da Silva Da Silva
Green Realty Properties® - 954-667-7253 - Cooper City, FL
Top Listing Broker

Oh I love this blog, Alan. So true. Thanks for sharing :)

Jul 23, 2015 02:50 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Thanks, Alan. I needed that, too!

Jul 23, 2015 03:05 AM
Alan Kirkpatrick
Austin Texas Homes - Round Rock, TX
Alan in Austin

Patty Da Silva, Davie, Southwest Ranches Cooper City, Plantation, Weston, REALTOR 

Thank you for your comment much appreciated. 

Pat Starnes 

We all need it at times just a kick in the pants to remind us who we are. 

Jul 23, 2015 03:19 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Sensitivity when personally attacked is hard to deal with. I'm learning to kill with kindness!

Jul 23, 2015 03:33 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Alan,

That is definitely a good reminder of what leadership is about.  How else would be learn if we did not take the proverbial bull by the horns.  Happy Thursday, A

Jul 23, 2015 03:44 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

You shared very good advice. If followed, your recommendation can change a life.

Jul 23, 2015 04:44 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Alan, Good motivation blog with excellent advice for all to learn. 

Jul 23, 2015 06:05 AM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good for you Alan. Hope the person takes your encouragement, you gave really good advice.

Jul 23, 2015 06:19 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

If we still had a suggest button, I would be hitting it!

Excellent advice, both to your leader and to the rest of us!

Jul 23, 2015 06:20 AM
Alan Kirkpatrick
Austin Texas Homes - Round Rock, TX
Alan in Austin

Sharon Tara 

So very nice of you to say. Much appreciated. Have a wonderful day. 

Jul 23, 2015 06:53 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Alan, if you in the position of "the leader", you better act like one.  Step up, lead the group, and be proud!   Great advice!  

Jul 23, 2015 08:14 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Alan, having been in the Military for a few years... I have seen good leaders and good followers....I have also seen people put in leadership positions who were not "leaders" and I have also seen follower who should have been in leadership positions because they were not good followers.... some leaders are born others learn to become leaders some never do...Endre

Jul 23, 2015 03:01 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

There's also a really cool expression called, delayed but not denied. Love and light!

Jul 23, 2015 03:43 PM