Im Rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you!

 You know the little childhood sayings and games that were played when we were younger and possibly still today.   The whole purpose is when someone said something bad about you....it bounced off you and stuck to them.  So the person that was saying something bad actually was calling themselves bad.

 The awakening of a student to use it as a positive reversal.

I was teaching a Sunday School Class to 14-17 yr olds when we had a certain kid in the class call one of the other kids stupid.  He said "well thats because you are stupid."   We talked about how when you call someone names and talk poorly about others it only harms yourself.   Brilliantly he asked, "So does it work in reverse? If I call others smart that it reflects on me?"   Although it was sarcastic, he didnt know he was right.  I said exactly, you are right!  So he started calling others in the class with compliments.

In our local homeowners association, the accuser's true colors shine through.

In our local homeowners association, we have a local resident that is often on the local message boards calling the developer and the HOA 'LIARS.'  He constantly is criticizing the employees calling everybody dishonest etc.  An interesting thing happened this past week.  This same person almost got a way with something until it was caught at the last minute.  He called up the HOA and demanded reports be mailed to his desk as he was the President of the Board and needed them immediately.     The accuser falsified who he was in order to obtain information.  He lied.   (This is strictly an example of what happens when you label others.  Now I believe this person has great talents that can be used for the greater of good for the HOA, so I am joining a group to help use his talents. I also belive he doesnt understand the ramifications of the past behavior. Is it my job to tell him? No. But it is my job to be an example.)

Warning of all agents.

In our Ethics code we are to not discuss or talk about other agents in a negative tone.  Why? Is it because it hurts our profession? Maybe...but more importantly it hurts yourself!  When you talk negative about other agents it is motivated by an inner need to feel more important than others.  Also, no one is perfect.  Further if we always talk about the negative we dont enlighten or see the world gratefully.   I could go on.  I love gratitude and positive speaking.  I had been caught in the middle of this years ago. Im grateful for all my leaders/mentors/friends/spiritual leaders/parents that have helped me to look for the good in people. Only by looking in the good in others we help ourselves grow. 

Label people by their strengths

Its important that if we want to enhance our lives and others that we label others by their strengths.  Ill talk more about the importance of this in another post.

The truth is, others are rubber and we are glue....whatever we say bounces off them and sticks to you..the accuser.  Let us all point out the good things so we can grow ourselves and enjoy this world.