So - What do you you do when one of your clients hints at thoughts of "Draconian" actions?
Suicide or otherwise life threatening actions to self or others can surface when people face for the first time in their lives the "embarrassment" of financial ruin whether it be due to overextending themselves with a residential purchase or miring themselves in a quagmire of unprofitable investments in a sinking market.
What do you say when one of your clients tells you he is contemplating the "easy way out"
The first gut reaction is to find some help. Certainly, very few REALTORS are qualified to deal with these scenarios. Real estate school did not teach us this level of psychiatric counseling even though we have spent years dealing with fragile psyches.
We feel the need to save these folks from themselves. Graphic Images from media past flash into our minds. If we can't talk some sense into this client, we may wake up in the morning to a news story that we might have had the opportunity to avert.
What to do?
I was called by an associate facing this dilemma tonight.
The good news is that few people talk about such drastic action and then actually do it . . . but don't take that to the bank. He wanted to know what to do?
I had a few tips:
I guess you could take it to the "authorities" and let them intervene - This might not be the best scenario because that level of intervention might just push them off the ledge instead of talking them down.
Better?
Remind him/her that this challenge is just an event in their life that will pass and is insignificant as compared to a full life with family and FRIENDS.
Ask about "best friends" - Who are they and how can THEY help?
Remind them that they are LOVED.
One thing I know is that most folks at that level of distress will confide most easily to their best friends - BEFORE FAMILY - because going to family means eating some crow and showing weakness.
Whatever you do - Do NOT let yourself get sucked into their drama - Simply Create a safe space for dialogue and discover the value of life together - and encourage the person to seek professional support.
This is probably the toughest work we can do. I have had the unpleasant happening of 4 acquaintances committing suicide in the past 18 months. There was NO warning for ANY of them . . . and they were all people I spoke with just a matter of days or hours before their suicide . . . There are no words that can describe the fall-out from such happenings when young children and families suddenly find themselves "alone"
My message here is not one of pity or of a call to to get you to learn to be a savior - This is a call to find compassion and enough love within you to pick up on truly lost souls and offer them the simple guidance to seek out those people in their worlds who will in a non-judgmental way affirm their WORTH.
And remember - we are REALTORS - not pysychiatrists - don't carry this weight on you own shoulders if/when it surfaces.
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Barry Owen
Principal Broker & Productivity Coach
Keller Williams Realty - Nashville, TN - Green Hill
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