TO FOOL ME YOU MUST FOOL YOU

This little subtle part of the human nature is alive & well in everyone & must be tamed & finally put down. When you become aware that your "honesty" levels are not answering to your character or rising to the respect of another, then yours needs some tweaking and maintenance. I am speaking about a type of demeanor that is less than honest. The personal one where we answer what people want to hear

WHITE LIES

Being sincere, saying what you mean & risking taking a position is hard for many to do for all the different reasons one might have whether real or imagined. But the person knows what they are doing & why when they are doing it. Sometimes it is easier to dismiss hastily rather than account a response. A type of white lie may be lurking wanting to join you. Take heed here

DO WE KNOW?

Here is a good question to ask yourself. Can you tell when a person is lying? Can you tell why if so? Furthermore, do you go along, make a mental note, dismiss or allow or are you the type of person who will speak up and inquire within your rights and timing to do so?

APPROACH

If you are one to want that clarity for whatever reason, how do you go about it? If you catch someone in a bold lie or misrepresentation, does that empower you to act or respond? Do you? Should you? What if you catch them in a questionable situation that hints or suggests something is not right, your role is?

CONCEPT MADE KNOWN

I remember my first awareness into this subject came to me in my teens. I had a permit to drive, was getting ticketed often & one time I got stopped for another violation. The policeman asks me if I had ever been ticketed & I hesitated, started a gibberish session & avoided the answer until he interrupted me before I could finish my verbal dance

HELD ACCOUNTABLE

He said, next time you get asked a question, answer honestly. He went on to explain that he ran my driver record and already knew the answer. He wanted to see what kind of kid I was. I was humbled. Have I learned my lessons? Apparently not if I am still in denial or explain away mode..

HONESTY LEVEL TESTING

In courtrooms across the country, when an attorney has someone in either in a deposition or on a witness stand, the rule is that they already know the answer to their questions and are formulating a path to get the person who is being examined to go where they want them to go. Here is why.....

ARE YOU CREDIBLE?

Credibility runs the show. If they can prove, hint or imply by setting you up to doubt or hesitate an answer, they can raise the dishonesty question to their advantage using the persons own mouth against them. Many have been caught in their own foolishness when they practiced less than simple honesty

PANDORA'S BOX

In court, the safe conduct rule is yes, no or I don't know or recollect. If one can stay within those realms, they will have one demeanor. But a good attorney while asking questions will get you to say more than that. If what you say is honest, good for you. If not, the attempt to pry open Pandora's box is at work

INNOCENCE LEEWAY

Little kids when caught doing something they suspect or sense isn't quite right will respond with a less than honest aura in an angelic setting making the episode or circumstances take on another depth. That innocent lying if you will is dismissed or used to make a light point, statement or to punishment.

EASY TO TELL THE TRUTH

Telling the truth in and of itself requires nothing except to do so. It is doing less than that...that requires effort and in many cases, pulls one in deeper than they thought they would have to go. Some people catch the error of their ways before it compounds or becomes nasty. Others get swallowed up quickly

YOU CAN FOOL ME BUT NOT YOURSELF

What any sensible mature person knows without a doubt is whether they are telling the truth or not and why in the moment they are in. The days of not knowing, ignorance, excuses, denial and manipulation are long gone within the mature self and what may remain is food for the conscience

LYING NEEDS A HOME

Many believe that if they tell a good one or get a way with one, they handled it but the reality is that they were handled instead. The lie is always looking for a home and it either gets to stay in you or be cast far from you. In order to give a lie, you must choose it thus sanction it and you will have it

YOU BEEN TRICKED

But therein lies the trickery of the whole thing. It is the LIAR that has been lied to first and then the one it is being acted upon. Yes, it works & may get the lie teller out of a temporary jam but at a great personal cost. Your character is assassinated. Your believability is compromised & you start to resemble your lies after a while. This is not pretty on anyone

TO FOOL ME YOU MUST FOOL YOU

The Truth was here, is here and will always be here. It is the glue of the Universe, the common thread and sustenance of all decent life and its rewards. When we join it, we are in the harmony and flow as intended. If we stray or compromise, we enter into a type of HELL of our own making.

PAY THIS PRICE

The remedy, thank God, is so simple and always available too. All you have to do is tell the Truth instead of your lie and the lie is booted out as Truth replaces it. To admit and renounce is painful, embarrassing and even humiliating but that is the price to come clean.

You may still have to make good with mankind, but within, you are back on track