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I don't have all the answers...just questions

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Real Estate Agent with Century 21 Redwood DC-SP98366576

Today is a very special day.

                                 

The one on the far right is mine. Well she picked the one on the left ( keep it quiet, he still thinks that he picked her). So, by picking him, he became mine too. Oh, did I mention the tiny one in the center? She showed up about a year after they made their picking legal.

It all started with this.............

                                                    

 

Today, the little miracle worker is celebrating one more birthday!  Last night, I thought about all the changes having her created. I remember the little girl turning on all the faucets in the public bathroom because she could finally reach them. I remember kittens and cows and horses. I remember the "Hamel camel" on roller skates and hiding so she wouldn't see me watch her compete in gymnastics. I remember singing and driving and laughing. I remember napping with her tucked by my side.

I remember teen age years and boys and makeup and music. I remember jobs and travelling. I remember concerts and parties. I remember the 52 hour road trip for LA to MD. So many memories are etched forever in my heart.

      Then there was the day the married. You got to love a man that shows up for his wedding leading a group of Harley riders on his own hog.

So today marks another year of being dad to the most wonderful gift in the world...my little girl...Molly.

I know the joy and responsibility. This morning, watching the news, I just became very confused. I don't know the truth, but I do know the allegations are frightening.  What are those people down in Texas thinking? Look beyond the homemade dresses and cookie cutter hair styles. If young girls are forced to marry and copulate with the fella's at an age short of 18, what are they thinking? What sort of warped brain takes a child and uses it for their own pleasure?

                                        

Anybody remember little Jon Benet? So many questions go unanswered. I don't know. I don't know if her fate was at the hands of a family member or if the decision to pimp her out as a sex symbol at the age of 5 or so led to someone else ending her life. I don't know. I have to wonder what makes people do that to their children.

You see, today is a happy day for me. I just happened to realize the other side of the coin that exist in every corner of our society. Molly smiles and holds her baby. Molly is probably the most caring and loving mom that I have ever seen. O.K., I am a bit prejudiced. The fellow that showed up on the Harley....he happens to be one hell of a husband and doting dad.

It is a happy day.

                                      Then there are the children that are abused. You see them every day. You just don't know that you see them. Their bruises may be hidden or they may appear to be the kind of bruises kids get rough housing with one another. Maybe they don't go out when freshly beaten. They are down the street from you. They are in every community.

There is a very sick disconnect in some adults. They strike out violently against the very people they are supposed to protect. They punch, kick and slap little children.  The violators come in all shapes, sexes and sizes. They are parents, adoptive parents, step parents and baby sitters. They have many different labels but they are all the same. They are emotionally sick and mentally weak. You work with them and play with them. They smile in public and wreak havoc behind closed doors.

It is a happy day for me. I have been blessed with Molly who picked Jason who together brought Rylee into the world. They are all a reminder of what a beautiful world we live in. They also are a reminder of how bleak the world can be for those little boys and girls that face the physical abuse of a guardian.

For today, I promise I will honor my gift by doing what I can to put an end to the violence and promising that every child I meet will get the respect and love they deserve.

Did I go off on a tangent? ......It's ok, this is for Molly and she knows me......I am dad....

Comments(12)

Debbie Creech
ERA Team IV Homes - Poughkeepsie, NY

John,

Very intense blog.  I have to agree with you and I think a big part of the problem is that the slime that do these awful crimes to children get to live!   They get a slap on the wrist for ruining a child's life.  I believe there is something terribly wrong with our justice system.

Great blog, thanks for sharing with us.

Apr 28, 2008 02:10 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
John - You are a class act, my friend.  I read every word of this post.  My mom used to be in charge of all of Dallas County Child Protective Services, so I have heard and witnessed some terrible atrocities perpetrated against children.  You are blessed indeed to have a loving daughter and (now) granddaughter.  Your son-in-law has to be great if he's named Jason!  Have a terrific week -
Apr 28, 2008 02:29 AM
Jim & Maria Hart
Brand Name Real Estate - Charleston, SC
Charleston, SC Real Estate
Hey, John. You have a beautiful family and I wish you all the best. I agree as well that there are too many sick individuals out there that are getting away with murder and not getting nearly enough punishment for their actions. All I can say it that God know what they did. Take Care, Jim
Apr 28, 2008 02:55 AM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

What a perfect post for child abuse awareness month.  As a former child and family therapist I have read many a case file and been in many homes that were beyond my imagination.

You eloquence is always moving. 

Apr 28, 2008 04:25 AM
Terry & Bonnie Westbrook
Westbrook Realty Broker-Owner - Grand Rapids, MI
Westbrook Realty - Grand Rapids Forest Hills MI Re
Our daughter picked a good one too we are going to Chicago this weekend to see our grandson who turns 1 this week. Enjoy the grandbaby Grandpa.
Apr 28, 2008 09:01 AM
Joddie Roberts
Mountain Real Estate and Property Management - Spokane, WA
Your Spokane Realtor - Spokane, WA
John, I grew up in a less-than-functional family and have absolutely no reason, except by the grace of God, to be where I am today; stable home, married for nearly 19 years, and have 8 wonderful kids.  The rest of my family has not fared so well and I don't get it.  I'm not any better or more special....we had the same upbringing yet very different outcomes.  It makes me grateful for what I have and motivates me to be the best parent I can be.
Apr 28, 2008 09:14 AM
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor
wow john - what an amazing tribute...........you sure are an 'i am dad!'...:-)
Apr 28, 2008 01:00 PM
Deb Brooks
Brooks Prime Properties Wichita Falls Texas - Wichita Falls, TX
John, your words and feelings are just beautiful. You and your family are very lucky I assure you! There is no explaination for the type of abuse that befell little Jon Bonet! There is no human reason that is sane. Thank you for sharing your emotions and pride and love for your family. It is refreshing to hear of happy people! We don't get enough of that. Keep writing! I found it to be genuine, loving and fun. Later in the rain~Deb
Apr 28, 2008 01:33 PM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
John - I am including this post in the recap for Family Ties today.  Have a good one -
Apr 29, 2008 06:46 AM
Kevin Bungert
ReMax Professional Group - East Northport, NY

John-  Simply beautiful! 

Kevin

Apr 29, 2008 01:57 PM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group
Oh, J-Mac - you are the best 'dad' there is... How beautiful:-)
May 02, 2008 03:51 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

John:  What an absolutely wonderful story you have written about your girl Molly.  Thanks so much for sharing it with us.  Take care...

May 10, 2008 06:27 PM