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Life's Not Always Pretty...and It's None of Our Business

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Real Estate Agent with Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 0225085927

Over the years, like any other agent who has been in this business for a while, I've seen my share of "interesting" relationships, living arrangements and an entire sliding scale of cleanliness and neatness.  

It's life and it's not always pretty.  Our clients don't always live in Hallmark moments or even as we ourselves would choose to live. 

But that's just part of this career we've chosen;  we're invited into homes, into situations, into lives.  

Sometimes those lives throw curveballs that cause issues for agents;  I've been screamed at, argued with, been hung up on because I refused to divulge confidences about my clients which would make a seemingly bizarre situation make sense.  

I've had agents practically come unhinged because their client was only getting one key to the house.

"One key?  How is it possible they only had one key?  That is unbelievable, truly unbelievable. What are we supposed to do?"    

(Trust me, it's entirely believable. The wife did not want to move and threw all of her keys into a dumpster somewhere the day before settlement. And, uh, locksmith.) 

"What do you mean they don't have a key to the mailbox?  How is that  even possible? What are my clients supposed to do?"

(Trust me,  it's possible.  The ex boyfriend took his girlfriend's key ring on his way out the door with most of her personal belongings. And, uh, go to the post office.) 

"How do you expect us to get into the storage shed if there is no key?" 

(Uh, hello, bolt cutters? Welcome to home ownership.)

"It's not even feasible they don't have keys to all the doors. How can you possibly expect me to believe that in five years, they only went in and out of the front door? What do you expect my clients to do?"  

(Paranoid husband changed the locks every six months and would  not share the keys with any other family members, other than for the front door. And the day before settlement, he threw all his keys away. What can I say, really?  Just this:  locksmith.)

As long as the contract is adhered to, I really don't care to have a 10 minute (or longer!) conversation about how many keys there are to a house. Our contract refers to the transfer of keys at settlement and includes the phrase, "if any," clearly a signal that keys are not a conveyance and hey, if you get keys, consider yourself lucky. 

As a buyer's agent, I always advise any buyers to change the locks as soon as possible, because it's not possible to know how many keys to your new house may be floating around out there.  And, believe me, you don't really want to find out the answer to that question at 2 am when someone comes stumbling into your bedroom. 

Sometimes life doesn't work out the way we plan. And sometimes we are plagued with agents whose clients come unglued at the smallest things. In an ideal world, yes, all parties would behave responsibly and do the right thing, of course, but since when do we live in an ideal world?

Rather than transfer that drama directly to the agent on the other side of the transaction, how about taking a deep breath, analyzing the situation, figuring out a solution and dealing with it...oh, and while you are at it, how about taking a close look at the contract so you actually know where you stand?

A big part of our jobs is to help our clients calmly navigate what can be a stressful time, depending on what else is going on in their lives.  Keeping our cool and working toward solutions is the only way to best serve them. 

 

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

 

Susan Haughton What a great read!

I have a locksmith programed in my speed dial.

I don't recall ... key conveyance mentioned in our contract.

Aug 28, 2016 11:28 AM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

Susan Haughton fun post and as Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland I, too, have a locksmith in my speed dial, Mr. ReKey to the rescue!

Aug 28, 2016 01:20 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Susan what an awesome post and indeed we all experience this at one point or another, so we  better have some easy solutions:))Endre

Sep 04, 2016 02:24 PM
Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Susan Haughton "Sometimes life doesn't work out the way we plan. And sometimes we are plagued with agents whose clients come unglued at the smallest things. In an ideal world, yes, all parties would behave responsibly and do the right thing, of course, but since when do we live in an ideal world?"

Right on target - and - re-blog!

Sep 11, 2016 11:27 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Indeed life does not always work out as planned nor do all real estate transactions!

Sep 11, 2016 11:42 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

So glad Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers reblogged this..how did I miss it! Real estae is full of drama if we allow it. I'm not into drama at closing. There have been times when my seller has acted out not in the best form and thrown keys away..I simply take the key from the lock box make 3 keys (this is an under $8 expense guys) and present 4 keys at closing..no drama..smiles:).

Sep 12, 2016 12:18 AM
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

Susan,

 Great post I have one that we believe thinks this is a game, one of the neediest clients ever!

Sep 14, 2016 07:29 AM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Susan Haughton I have heard all these and the first note is, are you really not going to change the locks? I carry bolt cutters and have taken care of that issue after a closing real quick

Sep 15, 2016 12:45 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Congratulations on your feature recognition. This is very good reading for home buyers and newer agents.

Sep 15, 2016 12:48 AM
Susan Haughton

Thanks, Roy Kelley !  And thanks for the reblog.

Sep 15, 2016 01:44 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good Morning Susan - unbelievable.  As long as you can get in the first call should be to the locksmith to change all of the the locks.

Sep 15, 2016 08:34 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

One of closing gifts is often a locksmith who changes locks, keys and garage codes. On the other side, I have been called every name in the book (by some really sweet agents) however it is not going to change the facts Susan Haughton 

Sep 17, 2016 09:30 AM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

As agents, what benefit is there by creating even more drama?  Sometimes I practically feel sorry for their clients.

And...uh, there's usually always a ready solution, so let's move on; welcome to your new home.

Sep 18, 2016 11:26 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

WOW! What a story! It's a shame that people get all bent out of shape for the dumbest reasons when there are so many other things going on in this world. We didn't get licensed in Drama:  yet we are faced with it often. Staying calm and not allowing ourselves to get unraveled and solve the problems is an art and a skill that only a true professional can earn. You, my dear have earned your wings and your golden license too. 

Sep 19, 2016 09:48 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Susan

Very interesting story . . . . As a real estate professional we have remain in control of our emotions at all times.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Sep 25, 2016 11:09 AM
Sussie Sutton
David Tracy Real Estate - Houston, TX
David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers

Some people come unglued at the smallest things! Who wrote about the sellers who took their potted plants when they moved and the agent had to replace them? Crazy, craze, craze.

Sep 27, 2016 08:29 AM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

If only having one key is that traumatic, I wonder how they even got through the mortgage loan process...

Oct 10, 2016 01:06 PM
Kartik Subramaniam
Adhi Schools, LLC - Rancho Cucamonga, CA
Market Analysis--Educational Content, Adhi Schools

Great mentality. People businesses get messy. 

Oct 28, 2016 02:44 AM
Diana Zaccaro Broker Associate
ZOOM Realty Group - Cocoa Beach, FL
"The Accidental Blogger" Cocoa Beach, Florida

This should be the least of anyone's worries...the locks will be need to rekeyed or changed so not an issue. And having that done for the buyer makes a great closing gift!

 

Oct 28, 2016 04:44 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Susan

Congratulations for an outstanding post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 19, 2016 07:19 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Susan, I remember a key meltdown, and when I looked at the contract, it said (at the time, at least) that the seller needed to provide keys to all locks.  Of course, the old places I sell have those old fashioned locks on every single door - and I'm talking interior doors.  Until the language changed later, I changed it to exterior doors for every place I sold.  

But yeah, it's crazy how buyer brokers can create drama over silly stuff.

Dec 25, 2016 06:40 PM