The 10 R's Of Life: Resistance

Thank you for checking out my post . I have always enjoyed learning and helping other people, I hope you pick up a idea or two from here.  I am going to be talking about the 10 R's In life that lead to much of our pain, suffering and accomplishment or lack there of.

 

The first R we are going to talk about is resistance.

My definition for resistance is mentally not accepting "what is". Keep in mind that the difference between resisting and actually changing something, is that changing something must include the possibility of taking action on your part. Many of the thing that we resist cannot be changed, they simply "are what they are".

Things you may say to yourself or others while you are in the process of resisting are:

• It shouldn't be like this
• This isn't fair
• I can't believe this is happening to me

Another area of life to look for resistance is complaining. Things like:

• Isn't this weather nasty
• I wish it weren't raining
• That meeting was too long
• I wish I were somewhere else

Can you see what I mean by mentally not accepting something for what it is? We act as if when we change things in our minds, that our reality will somehow change. Resistance is the root of much unneeded mental suffering in our culture.

Why do we resist? Well in most cases resistance gives us a temporary feeling of being right, while whatever is truly happening is wrong. "I am right, the weather should really be more like this", "The church service is going to long, it would be better if it we X minutes". In both cases the things that are happening are going to happen either way, so why put yourself through the suffering?

A great way to gauge if you are resisting is to ask yourself "Is this something that I can change", If the answer is yes, then ask yourself "Am I willing to do what it takes to change it". If the answer is NO to either of those questions then you are in the process of resisting.

Once you can spot yourself resisting, you don't need to start an argument in your head, simply observing the act of resistance without being caught up in it will be enough to stop the suffering.

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