COULDNT HELP ME BUT I CAN HELP THEM

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty BRE Agent 636943

I remember growing up and some of all the little memories, events, sights and sounds that accompany it. The good stuff just flows and speaks for itself while the not so good leaves a trail of tears and regret and even taunts us by coming before us again & again in memory/thought for a type of review. You see it comes again because of a certain reason. It is not to haunt you but for you to be rid of it

HOW TO BE RID OF IT?

Don't resent it as it makes it appearance and passes by for a review. Just watch it and in some instances a change can be brought about giving it a different ending. Then, it leaves either because we changed it or it diminishes in strength. Good riddance is all I can say

KIDS PICKING ON KIDS

I remember seeing & hearing bullies pick on others and even myself and not being able to do anything about it at that time. That time was me being a kid, who just didn't know what to do but wanted to do something. When bullies made their way toward me, I had no plan but to just get through it all

I AM GLAD IT WASN'T ME?

Sometimes I was relieved when they found someone else. In that moment, you are just glad it is not you and you give no thought to the poor guy who is now taking your place. It never enters your mind but instead, you have a type of gladness-relief that you are not the one

THE ONE WHO IT WAS?

Well they are thinking why does it have to be me and they suffer through it. Well, I was that person but being glad it was happening to someone else never sat well with me ever. At some point, I wanted all that to go away for everyone.

TWO BEATING UP ON ONE

I remember seeing two boys beat up on another and just watching and doing nothing. The boy who got beaten said to me after-wards: Thanks a lot as he wiped away his anguish and fear while trying to recover himself. He expected me to help him and I did not. That would never happen today with me.

NOT A HELPLESS KID ANYMORE

When I got older, that little kid who didn't know, who was scared and ignorant grew in stature and deed and was no longer plagued by injustice, unfair advantages or being discriminated for no apparent reason. Oh the sting of the event makes itself known, but it has no power over me like it once did

 I KNOW YOU ARE OUT THERE

At some point in my life, I discovered that sticking up for others was a worthy & right thing to do when presented in a certain way meaning it comes up on my radar, I am there & I have the ability to do something about it. I don't look for these things to stand for but I have an awareness that they exist

THE ONE WHO CANNOT

Now, I speak up for those that cannot speak for themselves. I don't care how old they are, what gender, or if they are right or wrong but instead to promote a safety, fairness and meaningful exchange to resolve situation and move on. There is no reason why something cannot be settled amicably

FEAR IS THE WILD CARD

People handle fear differently. Unfortunately, there are individuals who smell and sniff out the fear in others just like an animal can sense fear in humans. What happens then is that someone who is scared without knowing summons even more problems just by being scared. They know no other way

RELAX AND CALM DOWN

If I see a person being shamed, humiliated or treated unfair in a random way that is to say that it is out of line and that something has to be done, I speak up and in many cases interact and intercede. Most of the time what is needed is someone to remain objective and walk everyone through the episode

REGRET AND GUILT

I haven't had too many physical threats that have gone full cycle i.e where blows have been exchanged but they are out there and it takes a cool head and focus to work through it. In every altercation that involved harm, it was regrettable and avoidable as everyone agrees to after-wards.

HARD KNOCKS?

My do over is simply this. I wont leave someone behind that needs a helping hand if it meets my criteria in the moment. I will be that person that I wished was there when I was a youngster or in need of help and there wasn't anyone. That is a hard way to learn & navigate through life being alone & without help

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William Feela
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AS we grow we learn a lot about ourselves and how we react to situations

Dec 30, 2016 06:31 PM #1
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Ed Silva
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So many of us have the stain of either being bullied as a kid or seeing it done.  It is a stain that stays forever and the good ones find  way to make it fade with deeds

Dec 30, 2016 07:29 PM #2
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Grant Schneider
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Hi Richie Alan Naggar - We learn form our mistakes as kids and wish we could relive those years and do them differently.  I see that you have take action because you don't have to go back.  You can be that adult that is there to help.

Dec 30, 2016 09:04 PM #3
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Hello William Feela ...yes to learning as we grow and go....thank you

Ed Silva ...Nicely said and shared thank you Ed

Hello Grant Schneider ...I like the way you put it Grant. Good contest too

Dec 31, 2016 06:05 AM #4
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Jeff Dowler
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Hi Richie

What a thoughful post this was. We learn so much from our mistakes, especially growing up, and well as from the mistakes and actions of others.

Jeff

Dec 31, 2016 04:29 PM #5
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Hello Jeff Dowler ...the whole post nutshelled via your comment thank you Jeff

Jan 01, 2017 06:52 AM #6
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Kim Gaston
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Richie Alan Naggar the reflection and change you've made from within shows the true character and integrity you conduct yourself with others. Beautiful post.

Jan 02, 2017 09:32 AM #7
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Hi there Kim Gaston ...May I point out that you possess the same qualities

Jan 02, 2017 12:05 PM #8
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