Instead of New Year's Resolutions, have Resolve instead

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I read a statistic that only 8% of all New Year's resolutions are kept, so whether it is to lose weight, stop drinking, be more organized, be kinder to animals, or whatever it just doesn't stick. So let's go through a few reasons why they don't work, and what could be better for us to do.

The Timing: When do people creat these resolutions? I would say at the last minute, or after a massive hangover. By New Years Day it is either too late or it is based on past issues, and often out of guilt for not dealing with the problems in a significant and comphrehensive way.

It's too isolated from the flow: Having a plan is not a short term thing and change should be tethered to a bigger picture of how you see your life evolving physically, psychologically, and spirtually. Touching all components for the future is where change is made and promises kept.

Short Term versus long term: Do people every make a resolution that says, I will do this change for the next 20 years? I would say close to never. When I was 30 I knew that I had so many bad habits which I will not recount all of them here, that if I did not change I would not live to see 50, it was that bad. I resolved to be 50 and healthy, so next year for instance I will celebrate 40 years without a cigarette or a soft drink. As I turn 70 next year I have a new 30 year plan to celebrate my 100th birthday by skydiving, hiking, running a marathon, or just meditating in Bali. I have a lot to do in those 30 years to achieve my goal, and I plan on acheiving my goal.

Tony Robbins said it best: "Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach". To be committed you need to be all in. When the founding fathers resolved to create a more perfect union, it wasn't just words, it was a committment. I know that unexpected events may change how I approach the next 30 years of my plan, but I am committed to the goal, and I also resolve to adapt to changing circumstances. I don't believe in a lot but I believe in change as the one thing I can depend on. Can I fall off the wagon? Sure I can but with a resolution that would be easy, but with long term planning that started at 30 I will not be the one to stop me. FYI, I plan to send out invitations. Hope you can join me on mine, and I will join you on yours.

 

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For the life of me, I can't understand why there aren't more comments here! I love this post!  Resolve is so important and I agree, maybe more important than a resolution.  Very agressive on your goals and kudos on your accomplishments.  

Jan 03, 2017 07:48 PM #13
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Thank you to.

 

Best regards

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Jan 03, 2017 08:36 PM #14
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Dorie Dillard
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Good morning Joe Pryor ,

I'm so glad to see this post featured! I've always understood it takes resolve when making any resolution! I'm sure you will meet you goals as you come sliding into your 100th mark..sky diving..go for it!! I never plan on jumping out of a well plane with a chance that chute won't work!!

Jan 04, 2017 04:19 AM #15
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Good morning, Joe... great post and congratulations on the feature. It really is all about resolve at the end of the day. I'm right behind you in age and I'd like to say I'll be there to wish you a happy 100th birthday, but don't know yet that I've resolved to be around that long! 

Jan 04, 2017 05:29 AM #16
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Create and implement plans rather than intentions when it comes to life. More things happen with a plan.

Jan 04, 2017 05:53 AM #17
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I did the skydiving thing four years ago ... I highly recommend it.  Not sure I would at age 100.  

As for being "all in" ... yes.  We cannot get what we want if we are only willing top dip our toes in the water.  

Jan 04, 2017 03:20 PM #18
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I hope you are having an outstanding week. Make this your best ever January.

Jan 04, 2017 04:51 PM #19
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I stopped doing resolutions long time ago, now I prefer as you call it, to resolve whatever I come across which is a much better approach!

Jan 06, 2017 03:35 PM #20
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                               Thank you Joe Pryor 

Jan 07, 2017 05:51 PM #21
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Love this and thanks to Kathy I didn't miss it... I love the fact that you are 70 and have a 30 year goal... I am 77 and my goal is to reach 100 and blow each and every candles out with not help needed... God bless and have a great day 

Jan 08, 2017 05:15 AM #22
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Good morning Joe. Don't know about running a marathon at 100 since I could not do it at 20, but at my age living to 100 is something I could be resolved to do providing I am in reasonably good health! Enjoy your journey!

Jan 08, 2017 06:14 AM #23
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Joe,

So glad this post was featured and I had missed it, but thanks to Kathy Streib I had to the pleasure to read it.  We are aligned with you, and wish you continued success.  A

Jan 08, 2017 07:28 AM #24
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I've never been a believer or a maker of resolutions. I do however believe strongly in resolve! Congrats on a well deserved feature!

Jan 08, 2017 07:45 AM #25
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Love your post, and love your realism to life.

I know that unexpected events may change how I approach the next 30 years of my plan, but I am committed to the goal, and I also resolve to adapt to changing circumstances. I don't believe in a lot but I believe in change as the one thing I can depend on.

Those are some big things to celebrate 100, sure that looking forward to those will bring energy and drive to your life every day.

Jan 08, 2017 08:08 AM #26
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I can see why Kathy chose to high light this post!  Well done!

Jan 08, 2017 09:19 AM #27
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Hi, Joe!   I included this post in today's Last Week's Favorites.  Hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Jan 08, 2017 10:25 AM #28
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Here's to "resolve" !!! Great post Joe Pryor !! Though, I'm not one to jump out of planes, I applaud you! Congrats on the features!

Jan 08, 2017 10:37 AM #29
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I agree I no longer set resolutions as I feel it's a set up for failure. Instead I set life goals, to work on myself each and everyday so that I become a better person than I was yesterday. Becoming "ones best self" is a daily motivator. 

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" Becoming "ones best self" is a daily motivator. " Johanna Roy I could not have said it better myself!

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 "Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach".  Perfect!  Thanks for this post, Joe!

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