Even Steven is a Nearsighted Man with a Selfish Plan

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Real Estate Agent with Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 CA BRE# 01261476
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Thinking out loud; I propose this thought

that came to mind as I read

The Go-Giver by Burg & Mann this weekend:

 

Even Steven is a Nearsighted Man with an Selfish Plan...

Have you ever said any of these phrases or thought this way towards a spouse, friend or client?

 

"Now, We're Even Steven"

"You Scratch My Back, I'll Scratch Yours"

"Win / Win"

"50 / 50"

"Fair's Fair"

 

 

Amateurs act this way.         Scarcity thinks this way.

 

Instead of living the score keepers way, which is the subtle trap of win-win mentality, just give 100% to someone today! Truly put their needs ahead of your own and just give of yourself with the faith that when you do, you'll get what you need with interest! This is known as enlightened self-interest.

 

From The Go-Giver: Win-Win is just disguised score keeping.

Forget win-win and just focus on their needs. Keeping track of who owes you what is not being friend, it’s being a creditor. 50/50 is a losing proposition; 100% is the only way to truly give.

 

Zig Ziglar said: "Help enough people get what they want, you'll have everything you want."

I've heard this said:

"Give it out in slices, it comes back in loaves"

 

Proverbs 23:7-

As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.

Which if I may be so bold to interpret, means what we focus on is what we bring into our lives

Why Not Focus on Giving from an Abundant Heart?

 

Here's a great call to make to your clients for 2017:

"What can I be doing for you this year, that would bring more value to our relationship?"

 

"Don't expect to collect the interest until you first, make the deposit"

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Lise Howe
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This is a wonderful post - after I read it I scrolled back to double check who had written it and of course, I was not surprised to see that it was you - This is a lovely and meaningful post - I am going to bookmark it and start making my phone calls - Have a wonderful new year! 

Jan 08, 2017 02:28 PM #1
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Steffy Hristova
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Hi Thomas, it's actually a lot easier not to keep score, when things happen at ease, that's a healthy balance, I would say. Great post, I bookmarked it.

Jan 08, 2017 02:36 PM #2
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Maria Sapio
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Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor, CRS - It's a Wonderful Life is a great movie displaying the truth of your post and summed up by the one line - "A toast to my big brother George. The Richest Man In Town"

Jan 08, 2017 02:36 PM #3
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Susan Haughton
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Congratulations! You have been featured in Banantude!

Jan 08, 2017 03:51 PM #4
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Susan Haughton
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Great post - I am a  big fan of Bob Burg and love this philosopher of being a giver!

Jan 08, 2017 03:52 PM #5
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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
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Gotta love those quotes, and Zig Ziglar gave some of the best!  When I was first licensed in 1981, my broker sent me off to one of his seminars.

Jan 08, 2017 04:51 PM #6
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Thomas, love this post!  I think that no matter what type of relationship you're talking about, you have to be willing to take 100% of the responsibility for it. And I love the ways all of these wise people have put it.

Jan 08, 2017 10:57 PM #7
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Gary L. Waters, Broker Owner, Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC
Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC - Rockledge, FL
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I have never thought a lot about this but you are right on target.  Most of us are taught to keep score from early childhood!

Jan 09, 2017 04:57 AM #8
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Charita Cadenhead
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Giving 100% is the only way to go EVER.

Jan 09, 2017 10:12 AM #9
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB
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Thomas love this post!  I find that those who keep score are so busy keeping score that they tend to loose sight of the bigger picture - being of service first.

Jan 10, 2017 03:46 PM #10
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I have never been a fan of the Quid pro quo mentality, prefer to give freely.

Thanks for the great post Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor, CRS !

 

Jan 12, 2017 10:53 AM #11
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Raymond E. Camp
Howard Hanna Real Estate Services - Ontario, NY
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Good afternoon Thomas,

These were drilled into me a long time ago in the grocery business.

Take care of the customer and everything else will fall into place.

Make yourself an astonishing day.

Jan 12, 2017 11:04 AM #12
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It is living the Golden Rule!  Thanks for sharing!

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