Why Social Media is Like a Company Christmas Party

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Real Estate Agent with Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 0225085927

Although I admit the Christmas parties our brokerage holds every year are very nice affairs, held in a beautiful environment, which lends itself to better behavior than perhaps other locations, I swore off company parties years ago.  

Let me clarify - I specifically swore off parties involving alcohol, as I believe that to be the foremost culprit in promoting a certain lack of decorum.  Once you have seen wildly inappropriate behavior from co-workers, believe me, it cannot be unseen or soon forgotten. And often it can affect the way you feel about that person and their judgement (or lack thereof).   

And so it goes with social media.

I don't think I am saying anything new when I say I am aghast at what I have seen some folks publish publicly over the past few months. It has been nothing short of eye popping, frustrating, insulting and maddening.

In short, I am amazed.

I'm all for people voicing their opinion and passioniately depending it. But to then go on to slam others for having a different opinion...well, that's horse of a different color and a real shame. 

Every time I read a public post full of anger which expresses what sounds like pure hatred for at least half of the folks in the country, I cannot help but be stunned by it.

It's no longer about opposing opinions.  

It's about vitriol. Hate. Insensitivity. Anger with some bitterness on the side.

Does it even matter which side of any particular argument they are on?  Not to me.  I'm more shocked at how hostile, how infuriated and how hateful some people appear.

Certainly no one I would want to do business with - regardless of their politial affiliation. 

And these are not necessarily posts from people with whom I am online friends, no, these are public posts for all the world to see.  For all prospective clients, prospective employees and prospective employers to see. 

Wow. 

Of course, there appears to be no lack of people who feel the same way, so I suppose they can all connect and be miserable together.  I just don't want negative people intruding in my life if I can help it. 

I guess on another level, I should be grateful to see people exposed for who they are.  For their opinions don't just tell us what they think of any given subject, it also says something about them.  And in many cases, what it screams to me is "I'm a bitter, cynical, unhappy person." 

Who wants to be around that by choice?

Not me.

Have I let social media affect ME these last few months...oh, sure....I now know who I wouldn't want to work with, who I certainly would not refer business to and whose online rantings I no longer wish to see. 

Does it bother me the way it apparently bothers other people? Not really, other than the sadness I feel when I realize someone I previously admired doesn't have the sense not to spew hatred online or repeat things that have no basis in reality.  I have friends who read things on FB and then explode over it...my advice? Walk away.

And my advice for those people screaming on FB, Twitter, etc. every single day?  How about turning that negative energy into something positive and work to be the change you are demanding. Sitting in front of a computer screen really isn't going to change anything, nor will it change anyone's opinion. 

Or as I like to say, "no good can come of it." 

 

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Raymond E. Camp
Howard Hanna Real Estate Services - Ontario, NY
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Good morning Susan,

This one I have to agree with you on and then the company politics that is thrown in makes it even worse!

Make yourself an astonishing day.

Feb 01, 2017 07:36 AM #1
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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
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I have to agree with you on this one, Susan!  I've noticed a marked uptick on the vitriol since "Citizens United" came into existence.  It's that belief that corporations are people too, and can give untold amounts of money to political campaigns.  The parties can't seem to raise money if they are getting along.  They must dwell on the lunatic fringe of reality.  Personally, I won't believe corporations are people too, unless they execute one in the state of California.

Feb 01, 2017 04:23 PM #2
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Myrl Jeffcoat
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CONGRATULATIONS Susan, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!    

Feb 01, 2017 04:23 PM #3
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Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
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Had to read this post ... the title made me do it, Susan Haughton.  Still chuckling (somewhat) over the line "you can't unsee" (or unhear) some things.  So true!  

I typically stay far far away from political talk in social media.  I am not in the income level where I want to offend any past or potential clients ... or referral partners.  Mum is the word ...

 

Gene

Feb 02, 2017 02:40 PM #4
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Patricia Feager
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Susan,

I love this post! You said it all like a lady! You have to wonder what people are drinking or smoking these days to act like that and say these mean and horrible things. I thought we were all adults? Could I be wrong? Are they only disguised in adult costumes, it could be Botox Babies, or teens who paid for plastic surgery instead of acne medicine? I don't know, but many of the locals here in my area went locales in the head!

Feb 03, 2017 06:01 PM #5
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Susan Haughton  Politics and Real Estate do not Mix

Feb 03, 2017 06:14 PM #6
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Ed Silva
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I am not a user of strong spirits and believe that for most of what gets shown on social media that it seems like too many people hit the spirits before they sit down to type

Feb 03, 2017 06:21 PM #7
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I have tried to not let it bother me and for the most part it hasn't other than seeing some of my relatives go on and on about politics. Give it a rest I say.

Feb 05, 2017 07:40 PM #8
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Susan- I spend very little time on Facebook for the very reasons you mentioned. Like Debbie Reynolds I try to just move on and think of positive things.  But there are times when I want to put a sock in someone's mouth!

Feb 10, 2017 01:17 PM #9
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Michael Jacobs
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Hi Susan --- wise words and wiser advice.    

Feb 26, 2017 08:43 AM #10
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
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Oh my gosh, this is SO true!  I actually laughed out loud at your comment about un-seeing or soon-forgetting those who misbehave at Christmas parties, Susan Haughton!!  And, like you, I completely agree about the social media rantings - I think we all learned a lot more about some people than we really wanted to!  ;-)

Feb 26, 2017 08:13 PM #11
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Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
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Susan what a great post I am sorry I missed it,  this is one of the main reasons I am seldom on FB .... I have down graded many ' friends' on FB because of the constant political demagoguery.... Diane & often discuss that the problem with Social Media is it gives everyone a voice even those who should not.... and it must be easier to get nasty typing on a computer than telling someone else the same thing face to face:)) Endre

Mar 05, 2017 05:10 PM #12
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Lou Ludwig
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Susan

Your post makes common sense . . . . As a professional we have to be careful on what we post on social media.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Mar 12, 2017 07:48 PM #13
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Lou Ludwig
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Susan

I stopped back to bookmark your post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Mar 12, 2017 07:51 PM #14
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Rebecca Gaujot
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Susan, I am on FB for a short period, like you, I can not stand to read some of the stuff that is published.  I definitely agree with your statement...

"How about turning that negative energy into something positive and work to be the change you are demanding. Sitting in front of a computer screen really isn't going to change anything, nor will it change anyone's opinion."

Mar 13, 2017 07:44 PM #15
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