A Lesson Remembered

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Referral Group Incorporated

I went for pizza last night. Pizza is a treat where I live, and I felt like I deserved it for the last couple of weeks I had lived through. A waitress I like but hadn't seen recently, was our server. We usually talk beyond the order and I had a sense that something was different and so I asked her. 

And so we listened. It seems our server, a woman about 50, had an old friend from her school days who was in hospice care in New York. When she heard this, she made the effort and drove the 200 miles to visit him. He had brain cancer. When she visited she immediately knew he was in a bad place. She made it a point to call during the week and visited every weekend. Finally she attempted to have her friends Medicaid moved from NY to Massachusetts. It was difficult and it seemed every bureaucratic obstacle that could happen did happen. Meanwhile her friend was over medicated, and between that and the cancer was deteriorating quickly. That was it. Our waitress decided she needed to just act and she did so. Her friend had no one, and she went to NY and picked him up and brought him back to her home. He stopped the medications and had two pretty good months, and then as the disease progressed was in a a simply safe and loving place until he died.

No regrets, no regrets, no regrets. I believe action of this nature is affirming and meaningful. A lesson remembered. 

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Hi Diana. I would like to think so too. TY    Sheila

Mar 18, 2017 05:42 AM #85
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Hello Marte. I was moved and needed to tell the story. TY     Sheila

Mar 18, 2017 05:42 AM #86
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John Wiley
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Sheila, we often tell people how much we care about them. But your server took the next step and showed she cared.

Great lesson for us all.

Best wishes

Mar 18, 2017 08:12 AM #87
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Sheila Anderson
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Hello John. You are exactly right. TY       Sheila

Mar 18, 2017 08:22 AM #88
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Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Real Estate Agent, Top 1% of Lyon Agents
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What a heartwarming story. I hope somebody does that for me, LOL. I tried to do it for my brother when he was dying, but he preferred to stay where he was. I think we all have to reach out to one another, and not wait until a person is on her death bed to show we care.

And I love your peony. No ants.

Mar 18, 2017 09:51 AM #89
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Sheila Anderson
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Thanks Elizabeth. I agree all around. TY     Sheila

Mar 18, 2017 10:02 AM #90
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Dörte Engel
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Dear Sheila,

What a Mensch! I hope, we all encounter people like that, if the need should arise. I hope even more, that we rise to the occasion ourselves, if called upon.

Mar 18, 2017 08:18 PM #91
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
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How very kind, courageous and thoughtful of this woman to make his end of life the best it oculd be.

Mar 19, 2017 04:10 AM #92
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Debbie Reynolds
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices PenFed Realty, Your Clarksville Real Estate Professional - Clarksville, TN
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That was a real gift, the gift of time and caring. Many think about the things they should do but few carry through with the actions. What a wonderful way to show you really care especially at the very end.

Mar 19, 2017 05:41 AM #93
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Gary L. Waters, Broker Owner, Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC
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That waitress is going to receive "big tip" for her kind heart!

Mar 19, 2017 05:52 AM #94
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Mick Michaud
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Wow.  What a rare thing to see.  Doing what is called for regardless of the cost or obsticles.  Beautiful.

Mar 19, 2017 09:55 AM #95
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Sheila Anderson
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Exactly Mick. Thank you.          Sheila

Mar 19, 2017 09:57 AM #96
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Sheila Anderson
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Perfectly said Dorte. Thank you.     Sheila

Mar 19, 2017 01:11 PM #97
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Sheila Anderson
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Yes Sally, pretty extraordinary really. TY.     Sheila

Mar 19, 2017 01:13 PM #98
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Sheila Anderson
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That's so true Debbie. She felt like she had no choice. Amazing. TY     Sheila

Mar 19, 2017 01:14 PM #99
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Sheila Anderson
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Hi Gary. I hope so. TY     Sheila

Mar 19, 2017 01:14 PM #100
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Kasey & John Boles
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A sad but also sweet, beautiful story.  -Kasey

Apr 04, 2017 05:33 PM #101
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Sheila Anderson
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Thanks Kasey.      Sheila

Apr 04, 2017 05:34 PM #102
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Jerry Lucas
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As a mobile notary, I visit hospitals and nursing homes to help patients with their paperwork. With families often scattered across the country, sometimes no one comes to visit the patient.

Nice to hear this story of caring and compassion.

Apr 05, 2017 08:42 AM #103
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Sheila Anderson
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Thank you Jerry. I was really touched by this too.       Sheila

Apr 05, 2017 08:44 AM #104
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