This is my "them, them" to all Military Spouses on Military Spouse Appreciation Day. President Reagan designated the Friday before Mother's Day as the national Military Spouse Appreciation Day back in 1984. Military Spouse Appreciation Day is to recognize the service and the sacrifices of military spouses.
Today President Bush spoke about how military spouses' contributions don't always get the attention they deserve, and said
"But I can tell you that every one of your efforts matters. You do not do this only for your loved ones who are serving and sacrificing in distant lands, but for your entire community and for our county. Your dedication, compassion and selflessness play a vital role in uplifting spirits, and our nation is deeply in your debt. "
Dana Forster was there - be sure to read her blog.
I am a military spouse, a fairly new military spouse and have only celebrated this day for four years. It is a day that I find myself thinking what it means to be a military spouse. I can tell you that from my experience being a military spouse is very stressful and yet very rewarding. The opportunities I have had and the people I have met have been priceless. I served as a Key Volunteer for a Marine Corps Battalion and wouldn't trade those days of helping other wives through an Iraq deployment for anything.
Military Spouses have to be "mission ready" too! We have to make sure that at a moments notice we have all the POAs, Wills, bank accounts and finances in tip top shape in case we are on our own. We need to make sure that our house can run smooth as silk when the spouse is on the other side of the world. We need to be very independent and yet willing to ask for help.
I have met some very amazing women who are Military Spouses. Some are young and barely out of high school, some are attending college while working and some hold BA's and are working on their masters. I also know Military Spouses who have their doctorate and military spouses who are stay at home Moms. Military Spouses come in all shapes and sizes, from all back grounds and yet we all have one item in common - we fell in love with a person in the military and will sacrifice our goals and dreams to serve our country the way a Military Spouse serves - through support, readiness and dedication to the military member we married. When a family is "squared away" and prepared the military member doesn't have to worry and can perform their mission giving 110% not having to worry about back home.
These are pictures from my very first homecoming as a military spouse. Homecoming is one of the "perks" of being a military spouse - just like Christmas morning! It is an amazing event and a memory I will never forget!
We do however, have lots of memories of days that aren't like Christmas morning. This is how I spent Valentine's Day 2006. It was 0200 and we were all saying goodbye to our spouses for the second deployment to Iraq. We take these kinds of videos and pictures because we never know if they will be the last time we will see our spouse. That may sound morbid but it is realistic. We have to be prepared for the worse. These videos and pictures of our spouses leaving get us through those seven rough months. I have watched this video a million times, I can see my husband board the bus and I can see his last words were to the CO's wife - she gave him a hug and on he went. It still brings me tears. I was very fortunate my husband came home - not everyone did.
Here is a video of a song that every military spouse has listened to over and over and over on those long hard nights of deployment.
I wish you both happiness and his safe return. He is a very special person and he has a very special lady.
I salute all of you. God bless them and the spouses that stay behind.
Jo, what a touching blog! I am also military spouse of 16 years! My husband is active duty Army. I was a stay at home mom for years and decided to fulflll my dream of becoming a Realtor while my husband was deployed to Iraq for 13 months. Bless you and your family and I wish your husband well.
Jess, This is an awesome and well deserved tribute... I spent a few years as a military spouse before Kathy retired and was proud to support her. You just made tears well up in my eyes with this video, Jo... and that is not an easy thing to do.
Jesse, being a male spouse can really have challenges!! I had one Marine who was a female and her husband was one of my spouses - can't always call them wives :). Emotions are good when it comes to USA USA USA!!
Jo, nice ThemThem to the military spouse's. Sorry I missed this one earlier. Thank you for your support to the person's performing their duty form our freedom.
Jo,
Being a military spouse is very challenging. In some ways the servicemember has it easier. The one left behind is charged with pulling double duty. I was always so thankful to have such a wonderful husband at home taking care of everything while I was gone. The wives and husbands left at home deserve a huge round of applause.
I noticed you showed up under associations the other day. Thank you! Jesse just told me what that meant so I go add you.
Kathy
Hi Jo, What a wonderful and well deserved tribute to military spouses, they are true heroes (heroines). I see these spouses dealing with the challenges of daily life and you guys are amazing.
Kathy, Thank you for your service! I am glad we are starting to recognize male spouses :)
Cynthia, The love we have for our spouse gets us through the challenges :) Thanks for you your kind words.
I wish you both happiness and his safe return. He is a very special person and he has a very special lady. I salute all of you. God bless them and the spouses that stay behind.