Pulling Weeds

You never had the heart to tell your little boy that the beautiful flower bouquets he proudly presented you with upon bursting through the front door were no more than weeds.  Rather, you received each day's gift with a smile and feigned surprise, removing yesterday's withered haul from the makeshift vase to clear the way for the purples and yellows and oranges of the day.  The little flower petals looked so misplaced on the dense, malignant stalks.  As if these plants had learned through eons of evolutionary persecution to adopt the adornment of a harmless, delicate flower to disguise their true nature.  To divert attention from the ground choking tentacles exploding just beneath the earth's surface. 

"Don't be alarmed.  Just a flower here.  No need to pull me!"   

Culled from the one remaining vacant lot on the block, my bouquet was superior in every way to my friend, Billy's.  I thought so, at least. 

Thought so?  Heck, I knew so!

Every day after school, before the bus that dropped us at the end of North 80th Place could even pull away from the curb, we sprinted to our lot.  While the weekends would find us building non-code forts from scavenged materials and digging tunnels (thwarted from pioneering a direct route to China by only the occasional trespass of a utility line), school days saw us vie for the most beautiful "flowers" to present our mothers.  Striking out in opposite directions, we knew that one perfectly unique treasure was hiding just out of sight somewhere.  If we saw mostly purples, we looked for blues.  If we saw mostly blues, we looked for reds.  With an hour to kill before the day's highly anticipated olive war, we took our time to locate the very best specimens.  Only when satisfied that we had crafted the finest bouquets ever seen west of the Mississippi would we collect our abandoned backpacks and trudge the rest of the way home.  Each smirking privately in victory.  

That lot was developed long ago.

Ironically, the German couple that moved in kept the most beautiful garden in the neighborhood for years.  You couldn't pass by their house without marveling at the sight.  More often than not, one or both of them would be out in the yard on hands and knees, tending it.  Pouncing on the interloping weeds that I once cherished so.

If I had my way this Mother's Day, I'd bypass the store bought roses and eschew the Germans' amazing daffodils altogether.  I'd roll back the clock and peel away the stucco and mortar to reclaim the patch of dirt that the backhoes and cement mixers took from me some two decades ago. 

I'd return that lot to the barren state that was a blight to every set of eyes except ours.

And I'd pick you the prettiest bouquet that you have ever seen ...

... since yesterday.

I love you, Mom.

 

Happy Mother's Day,

Paul

 
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33 Comments on Pulling Weeds

Hi Paul, I love the way your mind works, to capture a memory and to instill it better than all the prose already written and published. To take your childhood memory and protect from an adult mind of trespassing on the barren lot and picking the flowers that not only pleased your eye but would probably make your Mom's water. Not from the weeds but from the captured innocent beauty.  A wonderful story and an even better tribute to both you and your Mom. Seeing as how the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree, she must be so delighted and proud that you are her son.

05/11/2008 12:59 AM by San Diego Real Estate Voice authored by William Johnson GRI CRS e-PRO (RE/MAX Associates)


Genius, pure genius man... If this doesn't bring a smile and a tear to mom's eye, well, nothing will.  Nicely done. 

05/11/2008 03:44 AM by Fairbanks Real Estate Broker Jesse Clifton (Jesse & Kathy Clifton, REALTORS - 907.699.6024 - )


This is simply the essence of giving and receiving from the heart.  I would prefer someone take the time to do this than to call a florist (or worse have someone else call for them) to send a huge arraingement.  Happy Mohter's Day to your mom.  Beautiful post.

05/11/2008 05:43 AM by Paddy Pizappi PineBush & Hudson Valley NY Real Estate (RJ Smith Realty Real Estate Solutions)


It's quite amusing to consider what two little boys left to their own agendas will compete over. Wait, you have two little boys. Buy a pith helmet! ;)

The olive wars? I imagine projectiles? Where was all the eye gear back then?

I agree with Bill wholeheartedly. Your prose has a time machine quality, an innate knack to project us back to our development through your images and descriptions. I remember pulling weeds in my old man's garden and the absolutely stankiest bugs crawling up my wrists.

I sent flowers to my Mom but they won't arrive until Tuesday. Late with a Mother's Day gift. Go figure that irony. Nicely penned -- or tapped, Paul. Nicely written.

 

05/11/2008 08:42 AM by Andrew J. Lenza (ABR*GRI*MBA) Monmouth County NJ Real Estate Broker (Andrew J. Lenza Realty)


She did a great job raising you and your mother must be so proud, Paul.  You are such a giving family man and I am grateful to have you as a friend. 

Happy Mother's Day to Mrs. Slaybaugh...both of them!

05/11/2008 08:42 AM by AMANDA HALL*Broker*HALL TEAM HOMES* FORT WORTH REAL ESTATE (Serving all of DFW and surrounding areas within N Texas)


As always, a good read.  Thanks for memories.  I would have never waged war with an olive, however.  The black ones out of the can doubled as finger tip covers.

05/11/2008 09:19 AM by Melody Botting RE/MAX Empire Realty


Paul- What a wonderful gift to your mom. Happy Mother's Day to your wife and to your mother who raised a thoughtful son. I love your story of picking the flowers through a child's eyes! And more importantly the wise mother you have that accepted them as the most beautiful flowers she could ever receive!

05/11/2008 03:06 PM by Nestor & Katerina Gasset, Realtors® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.)


Paul, this bouquet is stunning.

Happy Mother's Day to your lovely mom and to the wonderful mother of your little ones.

05/11/2008 03:49 PM by Elaine Hanson, REALTOR® ~ Topanga, CA Real Estate Specialist (Pritchett-Rapf & Assoc. Realtors, Topanga)


Paul - This is a lovely post for your mom.  I was hoping to write one for my mom and one for my wife today, but it may not happen until later or tomorrow.  Have a terrific day, and Happy Mother's Day to your two special ladies.

05/11/2008 04:47 PM by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (Austin Texas Homes, LLC)


Paul - What a touching tribute to your mom. I hope your wife is having a nice mother's day!

05/11/2008 04:51 PM by Tom Plant - Murrieta Real Estate Expert - Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage)


Awww Paul!  That was beautiful.  Your mom should be very proud of the sensitve man you have become. 

05/11/2008 08:24 PM by Susan Mangigian, West Chester PA Realtor RE/MAX Preferred, ABR (RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A)


Paul, come visit me, I have a great area where beautiful wildflowers grow all summer long!

05/11/2008 09:21 PM by Jeremy Blanton- Myrtle Beach Real Estate ,Coldwell Banker Chicora (Coldwell Banker Chicora Real Estate)


a wonderful mothers day post.  ...and to think, Billy's mom brought me flowers today.  Funny world, isn't it?  Love the post from yesterday as well.  Thank you for maintaining your integrity in this most unique market.  It will come back to you a thousand fold.  I second what your previous responder said.... Happy Mothers Day to both Mrs. Slaybaughs! 

 

05/11/2008 10:29 PM by Jessica Archambault


Going out of order here, but I will get back to everyone.

Jessica, Thanks for dropping in to comment!  I trust that the three of you had a nice, relaxing Mother's Day as well.  While you thank me, I thank you.  Without having such terrific people to work with (in addition to being friends), I would be in a different profession.  Say hello to the gang for me, and we still look forward to getting the boys together when time/schedules permit.

05/12/2008 10:54 AM by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives)


I just want everyone to know that along with this special (and tear-inducing) blog that I received a gift of wildflowers from my son ( and I did not ask where he got them!!). What a great Mom's Day we all had!!!

05/12/2008 01:14 PM by Amy Slaybaugh


Oh, Paul - you made me cry too, and that doesn't ever happen. Truly beautiful, this was... Now, my little one is due here with today's collection of pretty weeds in another five minutes! :-)

05/12/2008 02:44 PM by Inna Hardison-ha media group Marketing and Advertising Pros (ha media group)


Slay, How cool is that? Your Mom visited your blog and left a comment! My blog has a restraining order against my mother. She can't come within 100 yards of some dude's head in Seattle.

Feel free to delete, delete, delete if this irreverant entry conflicts with the Mother Mojo ya' got brewing here :)

05/12/2008 03:03 PM by Andrew J. Lenza (ABR*GRI*MBA) Monmouth County NJ Real Estate Broker (Andrew J. Lenza Realty)


There was a ridiculous ska band that had a great song about this topic ten years ago...can't remember their name.

When a mom gets weeds from her kid, they ARE a bouquet of flowers.

That's grace.

05/12/2008 05:22 PM by Hemet Home Loan Guy, Joey Aszterbaum (Patrion Mortgage)


I agree, I think those "flowers" that my 4 year old daughter picked in the neighbors vacant lot mean a lot more to my wife than anything that could ever be bought in a store.

05/13/2008 12:17 AM by Todd Clark (Realtor), GRI (Washington Co, Beaverton, Oregon) (Kastings & Associates, Oregon)


PAUL - This was awesome!  It's amazing how this story made me nostalgic for an experience that I never had on my own.  You brought this story to life as if it were a movie.  Great piece of writing, my friend.  I'm sure that this made your mom very proud, and also made her long for the special bouquets that her boy brought home each day.

05/14/2008 09:31 PM by Adam Waldman - Long Island REALTOR® (RE/MAX Best)


This is so sweet.  It is any wonder why mothers and their sons have such a special bond? 

05/16/2008 02:43 AM by Kathy W. Clifton ~ Spouses Selling Houses (Jesse Clifton Real Estate)


Love your stories/blogs or posts.. Regardless of what you call them they are always inspiring.

05/16/2008 08:57 AM by Crossville Real Estate Blog Christina Williams (FIRST REALTY Company Crossville)


William: Thank you, my friend.  This little offering is the very least I can do to thank her for everything my mom has done and continues to do for me.  A substantial debt I owe.

Jesse:  I think I did pry a tear out of her eye.  Isn't that what these holidays are for?  Aside from selling cards that is.

Paddy:  Thank you for saying so.  You could make the case that I am imply too cheap to go store-bought, so I appreciate you choosing to look at it as a thoughtful gesture ;)

Lenza:  Projectiles in a big way, my man.  The old olives lying on the ground in their saggy skin (think late Marlon Brando) were great for leaving stains, but the unripened greenies on the tree were the weapons of choice for leaving welts.  Eyegear?  Come on, Jersey.

Amanda:  She's not done raising me yet!  There's still plenty of kid in this man.  At the risk of sounding all Golden Girls theme songish, thank you for being such a good friend.

Melody:  A wise person never wages war with an olive.  I think Confuscious said that.  In our case, it was simply a Man versus Man scenario.  I avoid the whole Man versus Nature affair when possible.  Nature is a brutal foe that is  not persuaded by trickery and guile.  From the fiercest tempest to the mildest olive, Mother Nature doesn't play.  She does provide good fingernail coverings in a can, however.

Katerina:  Thank you for reading this and your thoughtful words.

Elaine:  I'm pleased to report that we had a very nice Mother's Day.  As far as I could tell, both my mom and Jack & Wyatt's mom enjoyed a nice, if not entirely relaxing, brunch.  I hope your kids took good care of mom too.

 

05/16/2008 10:01 AM by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives)


Jason:  Thanks, buddy.  I did get by to read your tributes to your wife and mom, as well.  Very nicely done on each.  Look forward to catching up with you soon.

Tom:  Thank you.  My wife did have a nice day, I believe. 

Susan:  She may be proud of this side of my personality, and takes no responsibility for the others!

Jeremy:  Now that's a long way to go for a wildflower, but I am a caring son ...

Inna:  I hope your little one plucked you the scraggliest, most imperfect and thoroughly beautiful bouquet!

Lenza:  The irony at play here is that my mother actually has a restraining order against my blog.  It is not allowed to come within 100 feet of a mother reference.  Not sure what the judge will make of it in this case considering the implicit consent of her comment.  Better print this up before she deletes.

Joey:  Truth.

Todd:  That's great that your daughter did that.  Contrary to popular opinion, there's nothing wrong with "these kids today."

Sandra:  Of course, I did.  It's mom.

Adam:  Thank you, my good man.  We sons and daughters have a debt of gratitude that cannot possibly be repaid in one lifetime alone.  The little things, though, lets them know that we wish we could.

Kathy:  Many thanks. 

Christina:  Not exactly sure what to call these either, but I just go with "posts" generally.  Regardless, thank you for the encouragement.  Glad if the silly things I type can affect someone in any way, shape or form.

 

05/16/2008 10:16 AM by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives)


thanks, nothing is better to a mom than a bouquet from a young child or grandchild if picked just for them even if they weeds.  Maybe that is even better.....

05/16/2008 12:50 PM by Carol Judd , Vernal Utah Real Estate (Century 21 Dart Realty)


Just learning this Active Rain website so I didn't get to see this earlier but that really was a great piece about Mother's.  I look forward to reading more.  Have a great weekend.

05/16/2008 01:23 PM by Eric Murrietta


Carol:  Oh I don't know ... she's always had her eyes on a Benz ;)

Eric:  Welcome to Active Rain.  Thanks for reading, and I look forward to seeing you around here.

 

05/16/2008 09:45 PM by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives)


Paul, you have a way of delivering your words with power. I like it. You are able to communicate as close as can be done, the actual feeling. You are blessed with the ability to embelish your rememberances and take us there. Thank you for your writings. I feel as strongly about my mom and my past. Thank you for presenting the words. Later in the rain~Deb

05/17/2008 08:51 PM by Deb at Brooks Prime Properties


Paul, What a beautiful post. Your mother must be an amazing woman to have raised such a thoughtful son! I could picture that lot and "flowers" in my mind. Beautiful.

05/19/2008 12:55 PM by Huntsville, Alabama Real Estate Agent Elizabeth Ramsey Cooper-Golden (Remax Huntsville/Madison)


Sweet tribute to your Mom.  didn't we all pick Dandelions for bouquets?  As did my boys.  Ah, those were the days.

05/31/2008 08:52 PM by Carol Lee Realtor ® Agoura, Oak Park, Westlake CA Homes (Coldwell Banker Residential)


Paul, what a sweet tribute to your Mom. I have a son and I know how much it means to me when he does something special. Your wife is doubly blessed!

06/03/2008 05:19 AM by Linda Scanlan ~Selling All of North Texas (Hall Team Homes)


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