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Why Mothers Make Excellent Real Estate Agents

I'm a day late with this post but yesterday was a busy day. We had brunch with my Mom and Dad to celebrate Mother's Day. I am so very blessed to have a wonderful, loving and caring Mother and for that I am very thankful.

Real Estate Mom But, this post is not just about mothering it is about the Realtor® Mother. Not only am I a working Mother, I am a single, working Mother so my responsibilites and duties are many and varied. It is like walking on a tightwire, balance is all important.

I believe being a Mother is excellent preparation for becoming a real estate agent. Not that I think you must be a mother to be a good agent but think about the similiarities that Mothers and a good agent share:

Dependability - From the day we give birth to a child, we understand that child depends on us totally to take care of its needs.

Isn't it the same with our clients? They depend on us to help them buy or sell one of the most valuable and expensive purchases of their life.

Trust - Children have complete trust in their Mothers though they may not know what trust is or understand it. There is no fear that Mother might drop them or forget about them.

So it should be with our clients though building that trust will be more difficult. But to have a successful client/agent relationship, trust is essential.

Communication - Communicating with a child is one of a Mother's most important responsibilites. It is a way of bonding, teaching and preparing that child for life.

Think about it, communicating with clients is one of the most important responsibilities we have to our client. Clear, precise, honest and regular communication with clients is vital.

To all you Mother/Agents, a belated Happy Mother's Day and I believe your Mothering skills help you assist your clients in a special way. You have lots of practice in nuturing and multi -tasking and isn't that a big part of your job as an agent?

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Posted by Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist on 05/12/2008 08:42 AM

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63 Comments on Why Mothers Make Excellent Real Estate Agents

MAY

2008

Cynthia. I agree 100%.

Someone once asked me what I did to make me such a good real estate agent. Yeah, it was a compliment. I get compliments.

I told them. "I raised 5 children".

That'll do it.

Cynthia, You forgot PATIENT! That most men are not, me being one that isn't. Thank you for the post.

Don R.

So very true. It is amazing how similar the two jobs are. Great post.

Cynthia, This post brought me a smile, the jobs are VERY similar. It's difficult to raise a baby OR a business :) Happy belated mother's day to you!

Where does the time go? Didn't we just celebrate your Mom's B-Day? What, no roses this time? Lovely piece and very true but in all fairness I'll wait for the "brother" companion blog...

Why Dads Make Excellent Real Estate Agents

Great analogy and I agree! Even though it may be harder for us because of all we do...it is what makes us so good!

Cynthia, Being a good parent is being responsible for another's well being. As an agent, our reponsibilities to clients are handled with great importance. We care about their well being. Your analogy is a right on. So glad you waited til after a wonderful Mother's Day to post!

Hi Cynthia, I agree and I bet multi-tasking and making quick level-headed decisions are your forte'. Happy Mothers Day.

CT,

As always, great post. You have an awesome blog.

Jim

Cynthia, I agree! I was just going to add the ability to multi-task when I saw that Craig beat me to it! Happy belated Mother's Day.

Cynthia,

Of all of the presidential candidates, Hillary's been the most vocal about the state of the real estate business and our colleagues, has been extremely supportive of new legislation such as HR-3915, the Mortgage Reform and Anti-Predatory Lending Act, is supporting new legislation protecting new homebuyers and borrowers, and is supporting legislation to help distressed homeowners nationwide, and many other issues regarding housing.

Now...doesn't that tell you that a woman's place is in the home? :-)

Hi Cynthia, very nice analogies, the FSBO people could learn some valuable lessons from reading this. ;-)

Cynthia, that is exacatly why I will send you my referrals to you in your area.

Cynthia...excellant analogies! I think Andrew could write a great one on men!

I have 2 children and totally agree.

This is great... and so true. The skills used in raising children can so easily translate to caring for clients.

Hello Lenn,
Wow, you agree 100%....I'm honored. We, Mothers have to stick together. Thank you.

Don R.
You are correct, I should have included "patience", that is something a Mother and agent must have. Thanks.

Hi Don D.
It really is, isn't it? Thanks for coming by and commenting.

Cynthia,

I know that this is a day late but HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to you!!

Cynthia:

You know what dependability, trust, and communication will get you in the real estate profession?

Referrals!!! Lots of referrals from your buyers, sellers, neighbors, friends, family, and other professionals!

And this kind of post will get you lots and lots of referrals in The Rain... and that spells RAIN-FERRALS!! :0)

Cynthia- You have put this very nicely....mothers do have certain skills that help us every day with running a home, and it is the same skills that can help with our Real Estate transactions ......

I am glad you had a nice Mothers Day.....I wish you all the best for sure :)

Cynthia - You are so right, motherhood prepares us for so many roles and of course we learned the art of communicating in many ways.

Motherhood takes a lot of skill - great blog and a great tribute to moms.

Hello Carole,
Yes, caring for a child and a business requires lots of skills, time and patience. Thank you. I hope you had a great Mother's Day too.

Andrew,
That was 6 short months ago and you know, I should have provided roses! roses

I'll leave the "brother companion" post to you, I know nothing at all about the male gender!

Cynthia, I too, am a single Realtor mom and I loved your post! You couldn't be more right about the comparisons. A thought that came to me is that we also learn to manage people through managing our children. Patience and foresight is required in both and mothering has cultivated my patience to a never thought of scale.

Belated Happy Mother's Day to you, too!

Cynthia, you may be late on your post but I am late wishing you a Happy Mothers Day to one of my favorites on Active Rain. I like all your points on Mothers bringing their gifts over to being a Realtor like dependability. Keep up your great work!

MAY

2008

Cynthia.... you make some excellent points. And I hope enjoyed your mothers day... and enjoyed it with your son and mother. In regards to the single part, I could help you there. ;o) hey, I couldn't resist. In any case, nice job on this one.

jeff belonger

Good Tuesday Everyone,
I have a very full day so no time to respond to everyone right now, I'll try to respond to all of you tonight. I appreciate all the wonderful comments.

Thanks for your understanding and patience.

Many mothers have a great knack for being great real estate agents. I also believe it is in them innately. Very special.

Cynthia--Don't forget as a mom we are able to balance many activities at one time too...Hope you had a wonderful day!

Hello Naoma,
You know whata they say "if you want something done, give the job to someone is busy"....well that certainly applies to we, Moms, doesn't it? :0)

Margaret,
That's it in a nutshell...you said it very well. Thank you.

Hi Craig,
To be sure multi-tasking is, who has a choice in the matter? Thanks.

Thanks Jim,
You always say the nicest things, I really appreciate your visit and comments.

Holly,
Yes, Mom's have the market cornered on multi-tasking for sure. Thank for stopping by.

Hi Dave,
Your tongue is firmly planted in your cheek! :0) Thanks for visiting and commenting.

Marti,
Those FSBO must learn the hard way, I fear. Thanks for your comments.

Hi Susan,
You're a great friend and you know I will take really good care of anyone you send my way. Thanks!

Hello Joan,
Thanks. Once I started thinking about the similarities, it was amazing to me.

Michelle H.
Straight from a Mother's mouth, now that is a testimony! Thank you.

Jesse,
The good difference between clients and children is we don't have to feed and clothe the clients! LOL.

Michelle B.
I appreciate the Mother's Day wish and late is not a problem, thank you.

Jan,
Oh Goody and guess what? I got a "Rain-ferral" yesterday. You are just too cleaver and creative......coining that word.

Hello Kathy,
I knew all the training I was getting from my little one would pay off one day! Thanks.

Jennifer,
We most certainly do learn to communicate in many ways........kids understand much just by the look on our face. :0)

Hi Joan,
We go in clueless and emerge experts in many, various fields. Amazing isn't it?

Hello Lesley,
It's true, our level of patience is carried to new heights out of necessity otherwise, we'd lose our minds! Thank you.

Hello Gary,
Thank you for the Mother's Day wish, you are a dear! Do you think clients will be offended that I compared them to children?

Jeff,
Yes, we had a marvelous Mother's Day celebration. Couldn't resist, huh?

Utah Dave,
You might be right but somehow I think much of it is skills learned for survival! Thanks.

Teri,
Yes, muli-tasking is something Mothers learn early on and it sure help to have that ability in this business. Thank you.

MAY

2008

Hey what about us fathers? We're pretty good too:)

Hi Neal,
What about them? What do they do, huh? LOL

Looking at the flipside... when working with homebuyers- it's definitely the moms who take the most active role in the purchase

Cynthia: From one single parent to another, what you say is very true. My son is all grown up now but there's no doubt that my experience as a mother has certainly prepared me for many other things I do in life including being a Realtor.

Hi Cynthia, a single mom huh? I don't think I knew that. I think motherhood prepares us to be READY for the world. I like how you described it helping us to be good Realtors. Great job!!!

Cynthia - Single mom, wow. Raising childen is difficult enough with two parents (especially when one is a dad - jk) and I raise my hat to you as a single Mom knowing that you've carried so much of the responsibility on your own. Your kids know.

Your experinces will better prepare you for anything you choose to take on.

MAY

2008

Hello Chuck,
Yes, women are the decision makers when it come to buying a house, I've observed that too. Perhaps the woman does wear the pants. :0)

Hello Donna,
I think being a Mother is great training for many things and teaches us lots of things. Thanks for your comments.

Teri,
I don't think I've mentioned very many times here that I am divorced but that is the case so I get double duty.

Hi Lynn,
Thanks for stopping by and commenting and you are so right our experiences prepare us for whatever life sends our way. :0)

Cynthia, I would add serveral more: Patience, Multi-tasking, Conflict resolution:)

Cynthia~ first of all, Happy belated Mother's Day. Having once been a single mother myself, I echo your thoughts completely. There are times when I look back and am amazed at what I've accomplished, but I think as Mom's we really are extraordinarily trained for this career.

Hi Cynthia, That was a great post and your comparisons were very well culled from all the possible similarities between a mother's duties and that of good agents. I think that unlined word is the key. While those essentials duties are true of all mothers, they don't seem to always be the defining characteristics of the agents. Good agents, most certainly yes.

I am always a little amazed that all agents are not good. Though they may not be great, they should at least be good agents just to maintain employed by the brokerage. That is not the case and it occurs to me that neither seem to care that much either. I am working with one that does not share those characteristics currently and it is amazing to me how a buyer or a seller would select a person like this to look after their most trusted asset. I would love to be able to see into these people's minds and understand what it was that triggered their hot button enough to select the agent. If I then could rely on that ability to see into people minds, I swear I could own the market place. Since I don't , you can gather that I haven't discovered it as yet, :-)

Cynthia, I could not agree more. I did not realize you were a single working REALTOR. You have some HUGE responsiblities but somehow I know that you are a wonderful Mother and wonderful REALTOR. I have enjoyed the feedom that real estate gave me to work around my children's activities. I have now worked out of a home office for 26 years and my oldest daughter is 26.

Cynthia - what an excellent post...we should all be "moms" to our clients.

MAY

2008

Cynthia , I know you had a cape! Great post and I hope your Mothers Day was fabulous just as are!

Diane,
Amazing how many readers did not read my last paragraph, I did mention "multi_tasking" but "patience" how could I forget that? LOL!

Hi Lisa,
Thanks and a belated Mother's Day right back at you. I think we do what we have to do and look back later and marvel at how we accomplished the things we did. We have inner strength that we pull out when we need it.

Hi William,
I regret to say we have some of those in our area too. I was taught and practice "if you are going to do something, do it well". Thanks for your input.

Hello Marchel,
Working as a Realtor does give me the flexibility I need as a single parent to take care of my child and business. I, too, work out of my home office and for the most post...it's a good setup. Thank you.

Good post! I find women are excellent at their careers because they know how to juggle, multi-task and management precious time!

I totally and completely believe that being a mother helped prepare me for the role of being a Realtor. There are so many shared skillsets...as you have so eloquently written. Happy Belated Mothers Day to you, my friend!

MAY

2008

Hello Linda,
We do "Mother" our clients, don't we? Maybe that's why we're so good at what we do. :0)

Hi Sonja,
My cape gets lots of use, doesn't your? I don't know how I'd manage without it. LOL!

Christina,
True, true being a Mother definietly teaches us to manage our time well.

Hello Elizabeth,
A belated Happy Mother's Day to you too! You are honing your skills these day with your girls. Take care.

MAY

2008

Hi Cynthia, Good post, great thoughts! Well I guess there is no point in soliciting just a modest amount of recognition, for extremely tiny amounts of similar qualities and traits, for an almost nonexistent small percentage of fathers that quality? I'm begging here...

Richard,
I'll give it some thought but truly I'm not feeling the inspiration. LOL.

This is such a great post because it is so true!

MAY

2008

Hello Jim,
Glad you agree. The same skills do apply. Thanks.

JUL

2008

It has been awhile since you have received any comments. Way to Go Girl, Life is a challenge in itself, being self employed and raising a family is quiet a challenge. Congratulations for being able to do both. Happy Belated Mother's Day

Hi Jim,
I love it when members dig up one of my old posts. Yes, life is a challenge but lots of fun.

I agree with your perspective. Our profession is sometimes equated with that of used car salesmen and personal injury lawyers so a mother is a major step in the right direction. I see myself more as a Financial Asset and Emotion Advisor.

Hang in there...

Paul Henderson

JUL

2008

Hello Paul,
Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I like your vision of agents.

Cynthia ... I missed this earlier. I'm glad someone circulated it again. Great words of wisdom ... as always.

This was a great post! Keep 'em coming.

JAN

2010

As a mom of 4 I will tell you that while being a realtor is sometimes harder with them all, I am a better agent and better person than I would be if I were not a mom, and....having each of them in some strange ways has ADVANCED my career...funny not what the general public thinks kids do for your career at all.

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