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If I Knew Then...

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Compass BS0663728

The Mistake:

I made the mistake of entering into a partnership without properly vetting my new business partner.

I had somebody working with me for many years. He had proven himself to me. He seemed honest and hard working. And in order to continue our relationship, he insisted that I make him an equity partner in the business. I was hesitant because I always thought we had a successful relationship together without it, but he had some big ideas about making further investments in our platform, especially our technology platform, which he said we would use to start recruiting a lot of agents. So I reluctantly agreed, and we did our own due diligence of each other.

Although I asked him a lot of questions, I made the mistake of not digging into the details and understanding what was going to come along with his decision to expand our platform. He made certain representations without giving me the full story, and when I would ask him about the success he had with generating new business through developing an online platform, through these platforms, there were no concrete answers.

There was never a discussion about the fact that he had been doing it with Google AdWords, or that he'd been driving it with Pinterest, for example. It was always much more opaque, very situational, like, "I've put together a great platform. I've got great SEO. I've got something people want and they find it."

So I bought into it, and the next thing you know I've got an equity partner and all of his expenses. And that's where the problem started because he didn't disclose all of his expenses to me at the outset. I laid all my cards out and he didn't. So by not asking him to define his plans and assuming I could trust him, I lost.

I approached him and told him the relationship wasn't equitable. He said OK but too bad. He wasn't interested in working things out. So I had to make the decision to leave. It took almost two years to unwind that business, and then I had to build everything all over again.

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Comments (35)

Bruce Kunz
C21 Solid Gold Realty, Brick, NJ, 732-920-2100 - Howell, NJ
REALTOR®, Brick & Howell NJ Homes for Sale

Sorry for your business failure Ross Milroy, but it's good to know you've gotten back up to success again.

Thank you for sharing so we can be a bit more careful should the "opportunity" arise.
Bruce 

Aug 06, 2017 08:03 PM
Stavrula "Sam" Crafa, RNC,GRI, CDPE, PSA
Future Home Realty - Seminole, FL
Providing the integrity and service you deserve.

Wow. So sorry you had to go through that. Most of us have probably gone down the road of saying..If only I had done this or if only I had done that. Learn from it and move on. That's really all you can do. 

Aug 06, 2017 08:47 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Ugh, I'm sorry you had to go through this. You're right, fully vetting a business partner and his/her claims, is critical to the success of a new venture.

Aug 07, 2017 03:31 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Hard lesson, but something you learned and won't repeat quickly again, glad you moved on and overcame it.

Aug 07, 2017 07:44 AM
Donald Sanders
Sanders Real Estate Group Powered By Holleran Real Estate & Consulting - Raleigh, NC

Thanks for sharing! Hindsight is always 20/20.  It's a learning lesson, that you will grow from.  If you ever consider another partnership, you'll know what to look for the next time around.  I wish you well in all of your future endeavors.

Aug 07, 2017 07:48 AM
Scott Thompson
Columbia Mortgage Plus - Blue Springs, MO
Commerical Finance - Blue Springs, MO

Lord have mercy.  My 'If I Knew Then' file is so through-the-roof it is breathtaking.

If there is any truth to the statement - Your Mistakes Make You Smarter - I should be an 11 headed Einstein by now.

Make it a Great Day.

Aug 07, 2017 08:25 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

A very hard and expensive lesson learned! By sharing it you just may spare someone else the same heartbreak!

 

Aug 07, 2017 10:42 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Ross Milroy, in business and in life, we come across many obstacles but the hardest one for me is when I'm betrayed by someone whom I put my trust in. Thank you for sharing your experience. 

Aug 07, 2017 11:32 AM
Ben DeHaven
Haven Realty & Investments - Lakeland, FL
Proudly serving Winter Haven & Lakeland, Florida

Finding a good business partner is tough for sure. 

 

Aug 07, 2017 12:01 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Do you really ever know someone?  That is really a bit cynical I suppose!  Lesson learned and the long term benefits will be there.  Good luck!

Aug 07, 2017 12:12 PM
Ross Milroy

Hi Gary, as you point out it is precisely thinking long term that pushed me to walk away. I would never feel good with an unscrupulous and dishonest partner only looking to squeeze every dollar out of the relationship. 

Aug 08, 2017 01:26 PM
Laura Filip
Laura Filip Broker , Opening doors for All Seasons of Life - Whitesboro, TX
What can we do for you today?

Great post thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Was thinking about a partnership and for some reason my gut said no wait on it. Waiting on it was the right thing to do the person was not what they said they were and as time passed it became clear their financial items were way out of wack I mean way out of wack. So on thier own they went so good luck with it sweet heart. Sure glad you played your cards the way you did, my check book is heavier because of it. Saw the signs but really did not want to believe it. Yikes but skin your knees get up and walk away a smarter person. 

Aug 07, 2017 06:34 PM
Ross Milroy

Hi Laura -  I certainly endured some lost business for a couple of years. However, I know that in the long run my decision will cost me a lot less financially and emotionally. 

Aug 08, 2017 01:20 PM
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
The most important home I sell is YOURS!

The only ship that doesn't sail is a partnership

Aug 07, 2017 07:28 PM
John Mosier
Realty ONE Group Mountain Desert - Prescott, AZ
Prescott's Patriot Agent 928 533-8142

A few years ago I was selling business management software. I had a technical/trainer guy working for me. I depended on him enough that I was working toward allowing him to work for equity in the business I owned. That idea fell apart when he wanted to control a big project. He wanted me to take a huge writedown. I had invested ALL the capital and he wanted to tell me how to run this project. He thought it was "his" project. I said no and he left.

I am so glad we had this conflict before letting him have any equity.

Aug 07, 2017 07:52 PM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Ross,

Call it tuition & build a better business than the one you had. There are many new mistakes coming your way, but I am sure, you will not make this one again.

Aug 07, 2017 08:26 PM
Raul Rodriguez
Covenant Partners Realty - San Antonio, TX
Looking out for the client's interest and not my p

Too bad...a response like that from a supposed trusted partner would have kept me from turning the other cheek. But, you got back on your feet and you are better for it than most. 

Aug 08, 2017 05:24 AM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Ross Milroy 
Welcome to the 'Rain!!
Glad you are here - lots of encouragement available.
BEST OF ALL - you are now fully in charge of YOUR OWN life!
All the best - Lynn

Aug 08, 2017 07:08 AM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Thanks for sharing your personal story of not properly vetting a partner.

We can all learn from your experience. It is a great heads up.

Glad you are moving on to higher ground.

Aug 08, 2017 07:32 AM
John Mosier
Realty ONE Group Mountain Desert - Prescott, AZ
Prescott's Patriot Agent 928 533-8142

Ross Milroy -- I have had this lesson brought home to me on several occasions. I lost a big business 30 years ago because I hired the wrong Controller and Sales Manager. I did not hold them accountable day-by-day and they were not trustworthy.

Aug 08, 2017 05:26 PM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Yikes!  That's like a marriage!  you feel cheated, right?  You have the right attitude though learning from the excperience.

Aug 08, 2017 07:07 PM
Travis "the SOLD man" Parker; Broker/Owner
Travis Realty - Enterprise, AL
email: Travis@theSOLDman.me / cell: 334-494-7846

Been there,. done that, and didn't even getta t-shirt that said "SUCKER" on it! Legal advice from SEVERAL Attorneys - stay away from Partnerships! 

Sep 17, 2017 05:50 PM