Mom....Thank you the Lifetime of Memories

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams 414-525-0563 57026-90 Broker

    Today, the very first day of October....my Mom would have been 96...the anniversaries are hard....Holidays are not ever the same.....and we miss her every day.  David lost his Mom when he was 15 so we always said that My Mother was as much his as mine since he knew her as an adult and had her for more years ....and shared a home with her during the last six months of her life.  He was more of a son to her than her own who lived on the other side of the country....making sure that the fresh corn on the cob she loved all summer was part of her lunch...the Candy raisins and Violet lozenges ehe enjoyed...and a nightly game of "Tick" were all part of their relationship.Mom & Dini

     My mother did have a "flair for the dramatic".....and even chose that the day she left us which was on Thanksgiving, four years ago next month.  The word "celebrate" rings very hollow on that day...it was it our house for years as were almost all holidays...except Christmas eve...we try keeping the good memories in our hearts and live the kind of lives that would still make her proud of us.

       The first night of her six month stay with us....she slept in what had been Dini's room....we forgot to explain that he had to give it up or share it before we went to bed that evening.  In the middle of the night we heard...

"Get Down ! Get Off" coming from the room down the hall....and had to explain as best we could to Dini that sharing was a good thing...best done at the foot of the bed....and for the next six months he became her "nurse"....and if there was a drink of water to get....a pill ....any need at all that we did not hear first...he came into our room and Meowed loudly to let us know that Mom needed some attention....when things were taken care of to his "satisfaction" and hers...he resumed his "post" at the bottom of the bed.

      I had the Health Care Power of Attorney for both my parents and when the time came....we opted to have home hospice care.   The nurse came, they delivered a hospital bed....and Dini seemed to know that things were not quite as anyone wished they would be.  He never went back in the room they had shared....he sat outside and stood guard...never leaving his new post for the thankfully four short  days she was in hospice.

         They had a daytime ritual...as you see in the picture above...sitting in the living room reading, visiting, playing....and after Mom was gone...every day for what seemed like forever Dini would go back to that spot...seemingly waiting for her return.  Tears would fall then like they areMom & Dad now...remembering that relationship...and the many memories she has left us for a lifetime.

        My Dad left us over a decade before her and we like to think that after the 56 years that they were married...they are once again enjoying the relationship they had for over half a century....and are with us in spirit every day.   

      If you are lucky enough to still have a parent...appreciate it...enjoy it and let them know you love them...you don't know when the next time you tell them will be the last time....make every meeting, phone call....text or email...special...Parents are the most special people, treasure the time you are given with them.

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Sally K. & David L. Hanson, ABR, CDPE, CSS, e-Pro,ILHM, REDS


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Gabe Sanders
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Good morning Sally and David.  Thanks for sharing your story.   Makes me think about my mom's anniversary which is in a few days.

Oct 01, 2017 06:12 AM #1
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Brian England
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Aww, I am sure your Mom was such a wonderful woman and there will always be a lifetime of memories!

Oct 01, 2017 06:51 AM #2
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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Aw, thanks for sharing your heartfelt story with us. Our parents live with us - and I am so lucky to still have both of them. We will also choose to have home hospice when the time comes. 

Oct 01, 2017 06:58 AM #3
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Sheila Anderson
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Good morning Sally. I was touched by this and moved to tears. I too lost my Mom on Thanksgiving which used to be my favorite holiday and is very difficult since. I lost my Mom younger and always regret the time lost and the things left unsaid.

Oct 01, 2017 07:33 AM #4
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Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
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Oh, what a lovely and touching post...I am in tears....especially the Dini part too!   Precious and I am going to reach out to my parents right now!

Oct 01, 2017 07:45 AM #5
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,
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As I look back at the times I had with both my parents; I only see the smiles and laughter. Thank you for sharing Sally K. & David L. Hanson 

Oct 01, 2017 08:50 AM #6
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Grant Schneider
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Sally and David - such wonderful memories and Thanksgiving means giving thanks.  My dad left us just before Thanksgiving.  I know how you feel.

Oct 01, 2017 10:51 AM #7
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Sally and David both my parents and my wife's parents are no longer with us.  They are missed and the memories are treasured.

Oct 01, 2017 07:45 PM #8
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James Dray
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Good morning Sally K. & David L. Hanson .

I lost my dad in 1977, my mother went to be with him five years later.  I miss both of them to this day.   Love them while you have them, cherish each moment

Oct 02, 2017 03:00 AM #9
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Joan Cox
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Sally, it is difficult on those special days, and miss our parents!   Both of my parents died 30+ years, too long ago!  

Oct 02, 2017 05:11 AM #10
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Roy Kelley
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Thanks for sharing some of your memories of your parents. 

Oct 02, 2017 06:30 AM #11
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I feel your loss too Sally. Those who still have their parents may not realize how lucky they are...

Oct 02, 2017 07:38 AM #12
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Sally and David- I absolutely love your post and the memories of your mom and Dini that you shared with us. Tell Dini that Aunt Kathy is exceptionally proud of her. 

Oct 03, 2017 05:57 PM #13
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