Are You So Focused On The Process, You’re Forgetting The Goal?

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Are You So Focused On The Process, You’re Forgetting The Goal?

Last week Larry spent several hard days working on the top to our convertible. He could have taken it to someone who does this all of the problem solvingtime but like many men I know, he’d rather have a root canal than trust his car to a dealership or mechanic.

Besides, he enjoys the problem-solving process.

This one involved hoses, removing the back seat, and hanging over and in the trunk.

All this while we had 90% humidity and temperatures that made it feel close to 100 degrees.


He came to a point when he couldn’t figure out how to replace the hoses as he had found them. He researched the problem on the internet and called the manufacturer of the hoses.


Finally, on Saturday he decided to take a break to give his back some rest and watch college football.


And that night, having backed away from the problem, in the middle of the night he had an epiphany.

The next day...BAM...he was done. (well almost, he still had to get the car put back together)


He’d been so focused on trying to put the hoses back in the original place, he’d forgotten that there were other ways to get them where they needed to go.


Sometimes we have to step back and readjust our focus.


We get so focused on the procedures of how we’re doing something that we lose sight of the goal.


Where do we ultimately want to be?


If you come across a roadblock to where you’re going, remember...there’s always another way there.


larry and rick



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Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


When we focus on our goals we move forward with a purpose . . . . and as a result our process will e on purpose.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Oct 12, 2017 06:33 PM #30
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


Congratulations on receiving a feature for your post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Oct 12, 2017 06:35 PM #31
Dana Basiliere
Rossi & Riina Real Estate - Williston, VT
Making deals "Happen"

That is a disease many of us men have. If we can do it ourselves it is hard to let go of the control of the project. I am finally at the stage where I will let a tradesman or tradeswoman do the job. (sometimes) 

Oct 12, 2017 06:46 PM #32
Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

Hi Kathy -- stepping back often provides just the right answer....perspective takes on many different meanings.  

Oct 12, 2017 08:26 PM #33
Corey Martin
Martin Presence Group - Ruston, LA
Real Estate and Management Solutions

I completely agree! If you are having trouble finding a solution to a problem, just take a step back. Sometimes that is all that is needed to gain the perspective to find the solution. Thanks for sharing. 

Oct 12, 2017 08:53 PM #34
Jeff Dowler
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude - Carlsbad

Hi Kathy

Glad to hear Larry got it done. I have no patience for that sort of thing myself!

This is a great analogy - sometimes we, or others, can get so focused on the process, or the details, that we forget about the end goal. Happens in real estate transactions all the time when people get bogged down on small amounts of money for repairs or other issues that derail them from the ultimate goal.


Oct 12, 2017 09:20 PM #35
Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, 914-419-0270, - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

Great picture!

Yes, sometimes you have to step away from the problem and take a fresh look. There's almost always another way to tackle something.

Oct 13, 2017 04:01 AM #36
Amanda S. Davidson
Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group - Alexandria, VA
Your Alexandria Virginia Real Estate Agent

Kathy, sometimes it's best to take a step back and see if the answer comes naturally. I'm glad it did for Larry! Love your photo, looks like you have great fun in your convertible together. 

Oct 13, 2017 04:59 AM #37
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Kathy Streib, sometimes, taking a step back from the current task in hand provides us with a solution which we couldn't see. This is a great message in business and personal lives. 

Oct 13, 2017 05:31 AM #38
faye schubert
Keller Williams Tri-Lakes Realty and Lake of the Ozarks - Branson, MO
technology and marketing specialist

I never could comprehend when I woke up I knew how to correct a problem or to go down a different path to accomplish my goal. I read the brain processes all your information the first half of your sleep and then sorts it out. Waking up in the middle of the night with the solution, or while taking a morning shower, the epiphany comes!

Oct 13, 2017 05:36 AM #39
Shirley Coomer
Keller Williams Realty Sonoran Living - Phoenix, AZ
Realtor, Keller Williams Realty, Phoenix Az

Great reminder.  This is also why we need to lead a balanced life, not working 7 days a week.  We need downtime for our body and mind to rejuvenate!

Oct 13, 2017 06:39 AM #40
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

The journey itself is always the reward if we learn (and appreciate) to let it do so

Oct 13, 2017 07:13 AM #41
Kathy Booth, Setting the Stage
Setting the Stage - Newmarket, ON
Home Staging and ReDesign Professional

I could't agree more.  Sometimes we have a "brain fog" and need to step back.  Its amazing how the answer appears afterwards leaving you wondering why you didn't think of that in the first place.  

Oct 13, 2017 10:24 AM #42
Mike Cooper
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Winchester, VA Real Estate Sales Pro

Kathy, those moments away often a project are great for epiphanies. I do that with electrical work, home projects and auto repairs. It's amzaing how clear those aha moments can be. 

Oct 13, 2017 01:04 PM #43
Michelle Carr-Crowe-Top 1% Diamond Certified Real Estate Team Sells Cupertino San Jose Homes-Just Call 408-252-8900
Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! - San Jose, CA
Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years

I agree. Sometimes we need to rest and do something else to allow our subconscious mind to solve the problem.

Oct 13, 2017 08:29 PM #44
John Wiley
Jones & Co. Realty - Cape Coral, FL
Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Kathy, I love this illustration from personal life.

I know for a fact that when I get hot, sweaty and tired my brain just seems to freeze up. I can not find a solution to what I am working on.

Stepping back, cool off and rest will often give me the solution.

Thanks for sharing.

Oct 14, 2017 06:30 AM #45
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

I do experienced that every now and then and do seem to come up with the answer after walking away for a bit Kathy Streib 

Oct 14, 2017 06:43 AM #46
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

So true!  A great story that could apply to almost anything, but a very good real estate comparison.  I've done that before when searching for clients.  Think ON the issue instead of in it and you might come up with different results.    Great post!

Oct 15, 2017 02:01 PM #47
Elva Branson-Lee
Solid Source Realty GA - Atlanta, GA
CDPE - Atlanta Real Estate & Short Sale Agent

Epiphanies happen, but never, it seems, while you're struggling in the midst of the problem. Close up shots are always a bit distorted. Sometimes I have to take a similar step back from my business or my classes, just to regain perspective. And sometimes the epiphany is that I need to take a new approach altogether.

Oct 15, 2017 03:59 PM #48
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
your real estate writer

Kathy - something similar happened here a couple of days ago. We had a planned power outage, so my husband went out to start the generator - and it wouldn't start. The more he fiddled with it the more frustrated he got, and he finally gave up.

But then he couldn't sleep. At 2 a.m. an idea came to him and he went out and changed a fuse. Then it worked.

Take a deep breath, step back, and give your mind time to solve the problem.

Oct 16, 2017 03:17 PM #49
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