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A Self Absorbed Self Reflection On Selfies

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Home Stager with Sharon Tara Transformations

As a professional Home Stager I tend to be a bit obsessed with image and perception.

 I admit to being overly sensitive when it comes to appearance, on many levels, including my own self image. In my profession, that's not a bad thing. In real life it's not always a good thing. 

I've made great progress as far as accepting myself for who I am. I am no longer the insecure, self conscious young girl I used to be. Key word being "young". LOL 

With age comes great confidence!

 

With today's selfie-centered culture we are bombarded with social media selfies on a daily basis. 

 

Personally,  I'm not comfortable taking them and certainly haven't mastered the art of capturing the most flattering selfie, but I do post them on facebook now and then. 

I prefer shooting a creative selfie.

For example:

shadows cast on an interesting background...on the ground, on rocks, in the water, or

me partially hidden in a shadow, or

me surrounded by family, or

shooting my reflection in a mirror or any other reflective surface.

 

 

Here is a selfie I took on our boat, last summer. It's my reflection in the sliding door.

It was a cool morning and the water was calm. It was such a beautiful day.

My husband was at work and couldn't be with me.

I sent the pic to him with a "wish you were here " message. 

 

 

" Make peace with the mirror and watch your reflection change. "

 Unknown

 

" There are two ways of spreading light:

to be the candle

or the mirror that reflects it. "

Edith Wharton

 

" If you're still looking for that one person who can change your life,

Take a look in the mirror. "

Roman Price

 

Written for:  2017 ActiveRain Photography Contest

                       Real Life: Best Selfie 

Comments(30)

Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Brian England  They like to play with the filters in Snapchat. Even Henry who is only 1 1/2 loves that.

Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate  Thank you for that! I always have.... I was very insecure growing up. I'm not sure why. I've come a long way though, and that's a good thing!

Dave Halpern  Glad you like it. Thank you!

Oct 26, 2017 09:16 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Sharon,

What an introspective post on selfies.  I enjoyed seeing the examples, and thank you for the nice quotes.  I am not a mirror person, after I put myself together in the morning, I don't look back until at night when I was my face...A

Oct 26, 2017 10:06 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Sharon this is the best story on selfies I've ever read! And love your creative selfies - what a great idea. Love the quotes too!

Oct 26, 2017 10:24 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Selfies are a bane of our society. Lol. IF I took a selfie, it would be  using your very clever methods. Love the reflection in the sliding glass door - very cute. Bet your husband loved it. I actually like that you're a bit hesitate about your image - too many people seem to have an inflated sense of image and try to be in all photos. A hesitating beauty is a special commodity. D 

Oct 26, 2017 11:18 AM
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Sharon - That's a very nice selfie. I have those issues too, much more deservedly than you : )

Thanks for another contest entry!

Oct 26, 2017 03:13 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Ron and Alexandra Seigel  I'm glad you liked it, thank you!

Anna Banana Kruchten,CRS,CRB,GRI  I'm glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for such high praise!

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD  They can be so annoying...some people just can't post enough of themselves. Inflated sense of image is a great way to put it! Thank you for the kind words....much appreciated!

 

Oct 26, 2017 03:16 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Dick Greenberg  My issues run deep my friend. LOL

Thank you!

 

Oct 26, 2017 03:19 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Hi Sharon-Well you know from my profile pic what my thoughts are on selfies and being self conscious. You my friend are a beautiful talented woman but I have discovered that even people mostly women regardless of how beautiful they are there is something about themselves they are self conscious about regarding their appearance. Now I liked both of the comments from the 2 ladies that I met a few ago Gayle and Debb.

Oct 26, 2017 04:06 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Sharon- I think the selfie you took to send to Rick is so cute!!!My selfies would be better if I had longer arms!   

Oct 26, 2017 05:36 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Sharon Lee  Yes, I would say your profile pic says it all. LOL

Thank you for the kind words. I have much more confidence than I used to have. Constant work in progress!

Kathy Streib  You don't need long arms to shoot selfies my way. LOL

Oct 27, 2017 05:25 AM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Seeing I coach 15 girls 13-18 i see selfies left and right, up and down and actualy ban phones from the dugout at softball Sharon Tara.  

Oct 27, 2017 06:02 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Scott Godzyk  LOL....you poor thing. Teenage girls would be the selfie ninjas.

Oct 27, 2017 06:36 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good afternoon Sharon - I am sure you have also got one of this special selfie iPhone holders.

Oct 27, 2017 10:17 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

I am definitely a selfie outcast.  Not into them.  If you see one of me, it is a rare occurence, or I'm with someone who selfies themselves silly.

Oct 27, 2017 03:15 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Grant Schneider  No and I don't even have an iPhone. LOL

Chris Ann Cleland  Oh getting sucked into a selfie is the worst....you have no control over the sharing of the pic. 

Oct 29, 2017 07:50 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Love your photos! Although I take many shadows and/or silhouettes, I didn't think to use it for my selfie.

Thanks, Sharon!

Oct 30, 2017 08:15 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Patricia Feager  I prefer to lurk in the shadows when possible. LOL

Oct 31, 2017 12:40 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

There are two ways of spreading light:

to be the candle

or the mirror that reflects it. "

 

what a lovely quote from Edith Wharton - a nice thought as we spend time with our families over the holiday weekend. 

Nov 25, 2017 05:20 AM
Gordon Crawford
Gordon Crawford Home Selling Team - Morristown, NJ
Your Morris County Specialist!

As always great insights Sharon!  Wonderful pictures!

Nov 25, 2017 05:26 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Lise Howe I'm glad you liked it. I hope you had a very nice Thanksgiving!

Gordon Crawford  thank you! 

Nov 26, 2017 06:33 PM