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Coming Up With a Clear Vision for Your Future

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Real Estate Agent with Long and Foster Real Estate VA License # 0225089470

Coming Up With a Clear Vision for Your Future

Recently I took up mentoring new agents in our formal mentor program at Long & Foster's Gainesville office.  My decision to leave mentoring was based on a lack of time and dwindling patience.  Having a mother with Alzheimer's can do that when you are also juggling running your own real estate business.  Having a bad outcome with a mentee can make you not want to return.  

After mentoring one mentee, Edith, for two years, she refused to honor the compensation part of the program, which would have been paying me a referral fee on the transaction.  In retrospect, I should have seen that nastiness coming with Edith.  She was a mess of negative energy from the start and seemed averse to doing anything to make her real estate career take off.  I suppose Edith thought the universe owed her a living.  Not happening.  You have to work your tail off in this business to get anywhere.

Yesterday, I met with a brand spanking new agent to our Long & Foster Gainesville office, named Danielle.  Danielle is bright, energetic and easy to be around.  We chatted about what she expected out of her real estate career and how she wanted to move it forward.  Ultimately, we were trying to determine if we were a match for each other.

Danielle's challenge is going to be her full-time job.  It won't leave a whole lot of time for her to do real estate, but we talked about strategy to get it done. Anything can be done if you are motivated enough.  Well, it was easy to tell Danielle was motivated to make real estate work.  She told me she put a copy of her letter of resignation from her full-time job on her vision board.  This girl is the total opposite of Edith.

It's a pleasure to be stepping back into the mentor program and find myself inspired by the mentees I'm taking under my wing.  They are teaching me new ways of thinking and inspiring me to achieve even more in this business.  They add as much to my life as they are gaining from my working knowledge of this industry. 

Comments(35)

Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Congratulations on the feature Chris Ann Cleland . First i have to ask if there was a contract with the lady who did not pay you and why the broker did not enforce it? I have mentored lots of agents, not all are open to accepting the advice and most soon exit real estate as fast as they joined the field. 

Mar 07, 2018 06:36 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Scott Godzyk --There was, but it had ambiguous language.  Our company stood up for me and paid me when Edith refused.  It didn't come out of Edith's GCI, but some profit center money.

Mar 07, 2018 03:10 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I love that, her letter of resingation from her full time job on her vision board. I think you got a good one. It is hard to mentor people who don't understand the business and think everything should be handed to them.

Mar 07, 2018 06:49 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Nick & Trudy Vandekar, 610-203-4543 --I thought that letter being on her vision board was telling too.  

Mar 07, 2018 03:11 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Chris Ann. Too bad for Edith, sounds like she is her own worse enemy. Good luck with Danielle.

Mar 07, 2018 06:52 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Sheila Anderson --Yes, Edith was, and I'm sure she continues to be, her own worst enemy.

Mar 07, 2018 03:12 PM
Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson
Century 21 Doug Anderson - Lancaster, CA
Glad to be of Service 661-714-1643

Danielle sounds like a very willing an able mentee that I'm sure will enrich both your careers and lives. I wish, even though I got a few years under my belt, that I could find a mentor for myself because there is always something to learn.

Mar 07, 2018 07:11 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Eva B. Liland with Century 21 Doug Anderson --It's never too late to be mentored.  I have sure you could find a good one.  And you have a leg up in that you know who to believe after a few years in the business.

Mar 07, 2018 03:13 PM
JL Boney, III
Coldwell Banker - Columbia, SC
Columbia, SC Real Estate

Seeing the excitement of the right new agent has always seemed to remind me of what I like about this business. Of course, the agent that didn't honor an agreement reminds me of some of the things I don't like.

Mar 07, 2018 07:27 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

JL Boney, III --The excitement of the new agents in contagious.

Mar 07, 2018 03:13 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I am sorry to hear you had to deal with Edith, but happy you are feeling enthused about your new mentee! Best wishes with Danielle!

Mar 07, 2018 07:56 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Thanks Kat Palmiotti .

Mar 07, 2018 03:13 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Chris Ann,
Danielle is wise to have you guide her.  Being efficient and effective is going to be critical.  It is very rewarding to help the newbies.

Mar 07, 2018 08:25 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Carol Williams --It is rewarding to give a helping hand to new agents.

Mar 07, 2018 03:14 PM
Curtis Van Carter
Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group - Yountville, CA
Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire

Chris Ann

Another remarkable side to who you are. Giving back is another way to pay it forward. When I think about all you do, it makes me take pause and reconsider what I am doing for my soul. thanks for the inspiration and cheers cvc

Mar 07, 2018 08:29 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Curtis Van Carter --Giving back is always good for the soul, no matter how you do it.

Mar 07, 2018 03:24 PM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Isn't it amazing, Chris Ann Cleland ... you can almost tangibly FEEL the negativity spewing from some people??  In our business, that's the "kiss of death", I think.  Best of luck to your new agent, Danielle ... hoping her hard work and positive attitude are well-rewarded ...

Gene

Mar 07, 2018 08:39 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi --Negativity is definitely not how you make it in this industry.

Mar 07, 2018 03:25 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Chris Ann Cleland I am stuck on ... refused to honor the agreement!  I certainly hope the brokerage did the right thing and paid you the referral fee.  Your mentees are fortunate to have you.

Mar 07, 2018 09:09 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Kathleen Daniels --The brokerage paid me when she refused, thank goodness.  The worst part with Edith was that she lied about what I had done for her.  She made it sound like I just showed up and demanded to be paid, having never helped her.  I'll have to call you one of these days and tell you that whole sordid mess.  There is SO much more to it.

Mar 07, 2018 03:27 PM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

I'm impressed that you are willing to give it another try and all signs point to you having a totally different experience this time around and a positive outcome.

Mar 07, 2018 09:37 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Jill Sackler --They can't all be founts of negativity.

Mar 07, 2018 03:27 PM
Francine Viola
Coldwell Banker Evergreen Olympic Realty, Olympia WA - Olympia, WA
REALTOR®, In Tune with your Real Estate Needs

I was flattered when my broker asked me to be a mentor to new agents, but this last new agent was so negative, I have made the decision that someone else can take on this responsibility.  It certainly wasn't worth it, and it was a very lopsided relationship.

Mar 07, 2018 09:41 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Francine Viola --It happens.  Take a break and see if you can be more selective in who you spend your time with.

Mar 07, 2018 03:28 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Chris Ann I would hope the brokerage would have a mentoring compensation agreement in writing and that the broker would honor it. I had a mentor years ago and I couldn't imagine not honoring our agreement.  It sure sounds like Danielle is full of promise and I hope you enjoy the process with her. I have mentored many agents - some 'get it' others just don't want to do what is necessary. Next...

Mar 07, 2018 10:03 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS, Broker --The money did come from the brokerage when Edith flat out refused to pay out.  Her office broker ended up covering half of my fee, and so did mine.  I was pissed that my broker had to pay half.  Our side did nothing wrong.  But my broker told me it was money well spent.  I doubt that Edith's broker felt that way.

Mar 07, 2018 03:29 PM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

To take on a person to mentor is not to be taken lightly. It is a commitment of energy and time.

Therefore, it is really important to have a good feel of the other persons commitment, goals and drive.

Best wishes

Mar 07, 2018 10:41 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

John Wiley --I think I'll be full with the roster of two that I have now.  I don't think I deal with much more at this moment.

Mar 07, 2018 03:30 PM
Margaret Goss
@Properties - Winnetka, IL
Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate

It's wonderful to see that it's not a one-way street this time. It sounds like you are getting positive feedback and energy from Danielle.

Mar 07, 2018 10:49 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Margaret Goss --It feels way more positive this time around.

Mar 07, 2018 03:30 PM
Alesha A. Wilson, M.Ed.
Buy and Sell Oklahoma LLC - Oklahoma City, OK
Buy and Sell Real Estate with Confidence

My broker was my mentor and although I didn't enjoy the idea of riding along side her with "training wheels" - I was indeed the student and had a lot to learn.  I hope to give back by mentoring in the future.
Love your inspiring post Chris Ann Cleland.   Congratulations on the feature!

Mar 07, 2018 03:16 PM
Chris Ann Cleland

Alesha A. Wilson, M.Ed., MRP --We mentors are as involved, or not, on the appointment side as the mentees desire.  It is tough to have someone there beside you at an appointment.  

Mar 07, 2018 03:31 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

It's my favorite part of the job being a broker.  I had a great mentor and I love that I've been giving that back for years.

Mar 07, 2018 07:01 PM
Chris Ann Cleland

Tammy Lankford, --It does feel good to give back.

Mar 08, 2018 01:28 PM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Chris Ann Cleland, there are many out there like Edith, what a shame. Danielle is lucky to have you as her mentor, good for her to put her resignation letter on her vision board. It will happen soon.

Mar 08, 2018 04:45 AM
Chris Ann Cleland

Beth Atalay --That resignation letter on the vision board move was a bold one.  Not sure I would have thought of that.

Mar 08, 2018 01:29 PM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Well baby-G . . . you know me with regard to manifestation.

If you can hold an intention with inverted senses (which means not just see but also feel, taste, smell and hear it in your center!) you already own it and it is on the way. 

If you can't/don't . . . don't be surprised if the results you get are a little wackydoodle! 

Mar 08, 2018 01:45 PM
Candice A. Donofrio

I gotta tell ya . . . I'm not entirely comfortable with the resignation letter thing . . . 2 reasons. 1. We can't control the 'how'  . . . and even though I'm sure divine timing would prevail, the 'going away' rather than 'going toward' feels itchy to me. 2. I'd rather see something super positive like a picture of the first big huge commission check that sets her long enough to make her transition with certainty. That sure worked for Jim Carrey!

Mar 08, 2018 01:53 PM
Chris Ann Cleland

Candice A. Donofrio --I will let Danielle know that her resignation is on the way.   She'll be happy to hear that.

Mar 08, 2018 01:50 PM
Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Mentoring is how you establish your legacy.  That's more than money and other worldly possessions that money cannnot buy

Mar 09, 2018 03:58 AM