I was on line the other day watching Rick Warren speaking and he shared a thought that resonated in me.  He asked those in attendance how do you spell love? Is this a trick question? Conventional wisdom and every academia would simply state that's simple L-O-V-E. But Rick spelled it differently he spelled it T-I-M-E. We tend to spend the least amount of time with those we deeply love? Why is that?

I was asked the other day why do you go up to see your brother in law so often. Isn't it a two hour ride each way doesn't it get old? I guess if I simply looked at from a certain mindset I could use my time doing other so called more "important " things. But I decided to incorporate a saying I try and use everyday of my life in many different situations. That saying is "If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. I suppose that 4 hours with a family of 5 crammed in an FJ Cruiser to some is "purgatory but for me two hours coming home is simply the most important time I have with my daughters and wife and I would do it daily without question.

Last Sunday, as we drove home my oldest began to talk to me about "boy's and issues she's dealing with. (This is rare and not a topic we engage in often, it's typically how was your day? "good", how was school? "good") Real in depth stuff. It was late and we were driving along the California coast staring at the moonlight reflecting off the sea and the distant oil rigs off shore. At home there is always a distraction, someone at the door, the phone ringing, television blaring, MySpace, etc.... in the car it is one on one no distractions and I learn in those two hours precious insight into my daughters world. I'm able to share stories uninterrupted of issues I faced and lessons I learned when I was her age. I give her a guy's/dad perspective. I shared the qualities of what attracted me to my wife of 15 years and other topics along the way and how a purpose driven life is so important. I would spend 10 hours each way if given the choice to capture those moments with my daughter. I'm able to help guide my daughter as my Father guides me. They are the most important times I spend with them driving home.

I have missed many opportunities to reach my daughters in the past. Find your way of sharing your Love with your family it is priceless. So if your spelling of love is not T-I-M-E maybe you need a spell check.

May the source be with you.

What do you do with your time here?

For those of you who do not know who Rick Warren is?

Rick Warren is the Pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest California. He is also the author of "A Purpose Driven Life.

The thoughts, views, opinions, are strictly my own a do not reflect those of the entities I represent as an independent Agent.

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