Have you ever been tormented by your pet peeves? I don't have too many and am very tolerant of many even with my chosen pet peeves. I'm naturally one of those "get along" types. But looking at myself I figured out why I still have my pet peeves. It is not really about my opinions, but it is because I care so very much about the people in my life. They may disagree with my thoughts but I have my reasons. I see these often in family, those I consider close friends, and clients. I say why I think these areas are problems.
Smoking - I have known smokers all my life and respect their right to smoke. The ones I care about most it is all about "HEALTH." I don't want them to die before their time. It may be selfish, but I want them around in my life. I won't let them smoke in my vehicle because I know it offends other nonsmokers. I sure wish they could slowly stop. I know nicotine is a powerful drug. I'll just keep supporting them trying to get them to stop.
Unclean language - So many take this one for granted. I think it is nothing more than something picked up from childhood, where now it is almost laughed at with pride that it can't be stopped. We are infiltrated with it on the cable networks and the movies. Everyone thinks it is funny and normal. I contend it is not. It first off reflects badly on one's language skills and secondly is offensive to many people. It sets a bad example for children and the worst is it is a sign of a heart that is not at peace. I cannot turn this one around in people, they just have to figure out to stop one day doing this. You must be a genuine self with all people and not talk one way at bars and another way at respectful, dignified dinners. A clean mouth reflects a clean, inner spirit that is at peace with oneself and the most happy. I am always FOR the side of a MOST HAPPY "HEART."
Tardiness - probably the pet peeve that I handle the best. I have friends and colleagues that are consistently late to EVERYTHING. It's almost in fashion to do so. This is a "HABIT" that wreaks of disrespect. I had a sales manager one time encourage me to be ten minutes "early" to every appointment just out of sheer respect. I have never forgotten that. The ones with the smiles on their faces coming to an appointment are the ones that are late. Everyone else is grimacing!
I'll still keep loving my friends each day as they are. Some days I think they were sent to me to be a thorn in my side or a pain in my @ss. See, now you've got me going : )
I'm far from any saint out there, but I think if we examine how each day of our lives we can improve, we actually might be getting better each day of our lives. When we were a child we acted like a child. But when we grew up, despite whatever our parents did to influence us, we have to become whom we were truly meant to be. I hope for all of us that means excellence in health, heart, and habit.