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In Honor & Remembrance of Memorial Day

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My previous post was written on Friday morning. Today, I'm posting a revision in hopes people will understand how passionate I am about keeping the purpose of Memorial Day a day of remembrance. Several months ago, I planned a trip to TN to pay tribute to Civil War Soldiers for which Memorial Day was created. I kept my promise to honor the dead.

Dark clouds appeared over the city of Murfreesboro on the day I visited Stones River National Battlefield. I arrived tired and wet and the somber scene matched how I felt about death and war. I celebrate Memorial Day in remembrance of those that died and I keep the memory of those who served alive. But most of all, I think about the forgotten ones, the mothers, fathers, spouses, and children who never got to say goodbye.

 

 

Walking on the grounds and seeing all the tombstones epitomized the evils of war. To me, it doesn’t matter who was right and who was wrong, war is something that should never be in the first place. As I continued on my walks on sacred grounds where our soldiers battled and most had died, I thought about how lucky I am to have two legs to walk this path on earth. And just as I looked up, I saw a light. That's when I knew, for anyone who pays the ultimate price there really is a light at the end of the tunnel and knew in an instant, I had to turn back. 

Memorial Day is a federal holiday in the United States commemorating soldiers who died while serving in the United States Armed Forces. It was originally called Decoration Day with the tradition of placing flowers on the graves of soldiers. At some point in history after World War 1, it changed to honor the memory of all men and women in America who died in any war, not just the Civil War. I often wonder why do stores advertise Memorial Day Sales and shoppers’ thirst for bargains at this time? Also, why do people complain when it rains on their Parade or family picnic? Isn’t it a time to honor those who paid the ultimate price for the freedoms we enjoy?


Whenever I travel, I travel to learn, not shop - I am not a Tourist. I shop for memories sake and to stay informed. Rather than rush to stores to pick up bargains, I thirst for knowledge and that was one of the primary reasons I went to Tennessee earlier this month. I wanted to walk on the sacred grounds from those who lost their lives during the Civil War. 

 

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PATRICIA FEAGER, REALTOR®
DFW FINE PROPERTIES
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Comments(27)

Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

So many people are hurt by war, not just those that die in a war, their families suffer for eternity.

May 26, 2019 06:43 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Patricia,  Tomorrow will be a day that we should all take the time to say thanks.

 

May 26, 2019 07:04 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Patricia - I appreciate this post and your previous one as well.  Your words come from a place of truth and compassion.  That is true here again and in the posts I have read over the years of following you.  

May 26, 2019 08:21 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Patricia, you are one who "gets it." Memorial Day is first and foremost a time for solemn reflection and gratitude. I re-posted my favorite poem this morning as I do most years. I suspect it will mean as much to you as it does to me. 

May 26, 2019 08:53 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Patricia,
Great post. Thank you for sharing your experience. One of my bucket list items is to visit historic battlefields and cemeteries. For a very similar reason. My son is a marine vet who worked at the Riverside National Cemetery and now works at the Veterans Hospital in Loma Linda CA. This is near and dear to my heart

May 26, 2019 01:01 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia I have not walked the old battle fields in TN, but I have in VA, and GA, and they always have a haunting impact on me.

May 26, 2019 02:59 PM
John Pusa
Glendale, CA

Great post Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP Happy Memorial Day to you as well!

May 26, 2019 05:50 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh, I loved the first post and I REALLY love this one, Patricia! 

Like you, I love history - gathering every little tidbit of knowledge of an area is exciting to me...far more exciting than shopping, for sure!

May 28, 2019 09:30 PM
Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Hi Patricia, it is a somber occasion to visit any battlefield but especially so one of our Civil War battlefields.  The casaulties were so monstrous as the technology of killing advanced far beyond the established tactics for warfare at the time.

I do agree that war is a terrible thing and should be used as an absolute last resort.  There are some things worth fighting and dying for and the Union was on the right side of the fighting because it became a war to end human slavery in our nation and was followed up by immediate changes to our Constitution to legally end slavery, bestow citizenship rights upon blacks, and the right to vote.  

Many Civil War veterans who fought in the West maintained they saw no tougher and more deadly fighting than what they experienced at Stone's River, and that is saying a lot with the terrible casualties at Shiloh and Chickamauga!

 

Jun 08, 2019 07:08 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Bruce Walter - Your comments mean a lot to me. I am in awe by your knowledge of US History. Also, your remarks are always meaningful and they provide me with additional opportunities to learn more. 

I was so moved by my visit to Stone's River Civil War Battlefield. The casualties were immense and vicariously their pain was felt deeply. As sad as it was human slavery had to end legally but even sadder that we still face these issues today.  And here we are again, the very freedoms for which our soldiers fought hang in the balance of stupid powers and differences. As I wandered among the tombstones inside the battlefield, I was drawn in by all that tragedy and continuous drama.  Will it ever really end? The experience still puts the hairs on the back of my neck straight up. Until we discover commonsense solutions to our nation's problems I'm not sure if anything will change here or in other countries.  

Jun 09, 2019 02:23 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debe Maxwell, CRS - Unless it's a necessity, I'm not interested in shopping, especially when I'm traveling. I don't have money to flaunt; I spend wisely. The most valuable thing I acquire on my travels are gifts of learning. And I also enjoy meeting the people I meet who are kind and take the time to talk about things of interest to me and I soak up that type of information like a sponge. I find when you respect other people and they share the gift of knowledge it means more than trinkets and trash. I love to travel. Perhaps I was born with gypsy blood.  

Jun 09, 2019 02:32 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

George Souto - Oh my, there's a lot of history in VA and GA too! You described the battlefields perfectly - haunting. These were real human beings. It is hard to fathom so many men dying at the same time and I can't even imagine what life was like at home, waiting for a husband, brother, or son to come home. Lives really, truly were "Gone Like the Wind!" How the survivors got through it all and rebuilt their lives is unimaginable. How many scars, diseases, lost limbs, homelessness, etc. Those were wicked times in our history's past. 

Jun 09, 2019 02:39 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

John Pusa - Thank you for being a great member of ActiveRain. You are a regular VIP and don't ever forget it. 

Jun 09, 2019 02:41 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - Congratulations on your FEATURE during the Memorial Day weekend. I can't even imagine what your heart felt like when your son was away at war. What he does now is also a sacrifice and a tough job. It touches my heart that he will never turn his back on his people with whom he truly has brotherly love. 

Jun 09, 2019 02:44 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Lottie Kendall - The poem you shared is a keeper and a timeless treasure. From the time I was little, my father drove my family to cemeteries to honor the dead, especially those that served and fought in wars. We never partied on Memorial Day weekend. That experience is seared into my brain and inside my heart. Unless one learns respect when they are young, and the definition of courage, I don't know if it can be taught later on in life. 

Jun 09, 2019 02:49 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Michael Jacobs - Thank you. I consider you to be an honorable man. I'm glad our paths crossed, if only by virtual life experiences, such as ActiveRain. When I write I'm all alone, vulnerable and it really means a lot to me when others, like yourself, read what I write and not just comment to promote themselves. Sometimes comments can cause me pain and sorrow for even writing in the first place. I am blessed by readers like you. 

Jun 09, 2019 02:56 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Brian England - To quote Martin Luther King, Jr., "The hottest place in Hell is reserved for those who remain neutral in times of great moral conflict." Brian, I could never imagine you hurting anyone. I believe you live a life with a clear conscious. 

Jun 09, 2019 03:00 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Oh, faye schubert, you are absolutely correct! "History is to remember the price for freedom and learn from it." I get so irritated when people get sucked up into the lives and drama of celebrities and famous people, such as athletes who make millions of dollars and then you see them on T.V., poking fun of people they shouldn't. It's not even comedy - it's purely disrespectful and rude. Their mouths are as big as the holes in war veteran socks. And their wallets or bank accounts are larger than anything a widow gets when their loved one does not come home from war. Many celebrities with sharp tongues are an arrogant lot who feel the need to have a stage presence that is so phoney it stinks. I pray Millennials and the younger generations wise up and lead a better life and stop idolizing the wrong people. May future children learn to read US history as it was written and learn from the mistakes without wiping out the pages of our history.  

Jun 09, 2019 03:14 AM
Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Hi Patricia, I was equally moved when I visited the Stone's River Battlefield along with Gettysburg, Shiloh and Chickamauga. 

Evil will continute to exist and it wells up from a heart filled with hatred and lust for power and conquest.  Unfortunately most do not change as it has to be a spriritual awakening to end such hatred.  Until Christ returns good has to stand up to evil,  and unfortunately it will mean more loss of life to stop the evildoers.  

Jun 09, 2019 07:20 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Bruce Walter - I'm going to put Shiloh and Chickamauga on my bucket list for more pondering. Thank you.  

If bad world leaders and evil people don't change their moral and destructive ways peace will never exist. Never sounds like damnation...

Peace is such a simple word. As Winston Churchill once coined, "All great things are simple, and many can be expressed in a single word: freedom, justice, honor, duty, mercy, hope." Liberty and belief in God is a compelling reason why positive change needs to occur. Isn't that the message our Founding Father's provided us with when they wrote the Declaration of Independence? As long as evil continues to fester like uncontrollable wildfires, all actions will have detrimental consequences. My most impressionable years in life occurred between 1960 - 1971. Turning back the hands of time is not an option! I pray for peace, understanding, and a plan that will make America greater than ever before. 

Thank you for the enlightenment this morning. It is good for my soul.

Jun 09, 2019 07:56 AM