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Every Day is Memorial Day For The Veterans Who Tend To Our Fallen

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker Realty NRDS # 146013739

A Mother's Perspective...

Riverside National Cemetery

A Little Background...

Combat Ready Oct 14 2000. USS Cole Ready.My children were born during peacetime and I never thought either of my sons would say "I want to join the military". But one did!  My son Ryan, spent a year out of high school studying every aspect of our military services, speaking to all recruiters, and decided he wanted to be a Marine. Ryan's goal was to be part of the Marine Security Forces which he achieved. 

A Peacetime Military Threat

 

After all of his training, he went overseas to protect the Monai Compound in the Middle East.  At the time, Bahrain was considered the third highest worldwide threat to our troops... While Ryan was in Bahrain, the USS Cole was bombed on October 12, 2000, and he volunteered to guard it. 

He was on duty and was turned down. Marines in his unit were pulled from Bahrain because it was the closest point to the terrorist attack. 

 

Notice the date on the picture. It was taken 2 days after the Cole was bombed. At the time I did not know that his unit was on high alert and was combat ready.  They were the closest troops to where the Cole was bombed. They could throw a stone and hit Iran, Iraq or Syria.

A Piece of Your Heart

When your children go overseas to protect the interests of our nation, a piece of your heart goes with them. Every night and every morning you pray for their safe return. As a mother, you are helpless to protect them. You put their safety in your country's hands. There is nothing more satisfying then seeing them come home. 

A Special Thank you For Gold Star Moms and Families

We can never know the uncommon and exceptional pain that Gold Star families go through every day, but we can be there to support them in every way possible. I pray for them ...that their pain will lessen over time. 

Riverside National Cemetery

Every Day Is Memorial Day For The Caretakers of the Fallen

After being discharged, Ryan's Journey took him to Riverside National Cemetery where he found rewarding employment. Part of his duties included burial detail and support for the families of the Fallen. During those holidays, including Veterans Day, Independence Day and of course Memorial Day, it was all hands on deck. 

What's It Like To Be A Caretaker?

 

A former Caretaker stated this when asked what it was like to work at Riverside National Cemetery:

"This is a place where you can go to work and know that you made a difference for someone. Where the employees have the honor and privilege to lay Heroes to rest and provide their families with heartfelt service".

It Is Up To Us...

I would hope there is no dispute that those who join our military forces and deploy to defend the Constitution and the homeland leave a piece of their heart either on the battlefield or back at home when they return. Some don't survive, but some survive to find themselves in a unique place, some may call it purgatory or limbo, maybe a loss of innocence, and only those who have been there can understand that place. It is our responsibility to help any way we can. Learn more about military suicide here

My son continues to work in the service of our country and for the Department of Veteran Affairs. Two months ago he transferred to the Veteran Hospital in Loma Linda California. I am very proud of the service he has given to our country and I pray for him every day. 

Aerial Video of Riverside National Cemetery

FPV UAV video by pilot David Slack, Corona CA 2012.  

 

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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Thank you for your comment Richie Alan Naggar.

May 29, 2019 08:23 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Brian England - This is who you are. 

May 29, 2019 08:24 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Thank you, Sheila Anderson. We will be seeing him soon for a very special birthday celebration. 

May 29, 2019 08:26 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Carol Williams, I remember growing up in the Vietnam era and seeing the pain on the faces of those who came back. The horrible way that some treated these soldiers was so disheartening, to put it mildly.  I am so glad that most people feel like you about our military. Thank you. 

May 29, 2019 08:30 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Thank you so much Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP - I am taking our Sedona family out to see him for a very special birthday and will relay these thoughts. 

May 29, 2019 08:32 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Myrl Jeffcoat, Thank you so much for sharing your story. I also wish you and your son blessings and am thankful for his service. It reminds me also, how closely we are all connected. Look how close Randy and Ryan were to each other halfway around the world. 

My son has had a very good experience so far with the VA. But we know that this is not the case for a large percentage of our Heroes who have served. I am in full support taking better care of our veterans. We need to realize that military personnel retire with scars that are not able to be seen on the outside as well. My hope is that the disinfectant of sunshine continues to beam directly on those who can make a difference. 

May 29, 2019 08:43 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Thank you so much for those words, Diana Dahlberg. It is such a warm feeling to know how much people like care. 

May 29, 2019 08:46 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

HI Doug Dawes - I will do that. I am seeing him in very soon.

May 29, 2019 08:47 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

 I was so moved...

I was moved by your story. As a Vietnam War Widow, knowing what my spouse went through, especially before he passed away, I would kneel down every night and pray my son (10 years old at the time) would not sign up for the military.  He didn't but now I know there were a zillion other mothers apprehensive about whether or not their sons and daughters would join. I no longer feel guilty. However, I'm glad your son and Sheri Sperry - MCNE® son made both of you proud for serving. I realize now, it was selfish on my part.

I remember the Persian Gulf crisis vividly and the bombing of the USS Cole. But I have vague memories of actual news coverage that broke out on National T.V. Just snippets. Myrl, for your son to be willing to serve for 20 years in the Navy is to be commended.

Sheri, for your son to fulfill his goal about continuing to serve after being honorably discharged as a Caretaker at the Riverside National Cemetery is very angelic. He has to have a self-servant heart. In my personal opinion, both of your sons are heroes. 

 

I'm with you Myrl it has been my constant prayer that our government "would be eager to care for our veterans." And if they can't, wouldn't it be nice if private citizens who are richer than oil & gas would create an organization, specifically for returning Vets who need physical and mental health to help them cope and heal rather than become a part of some PAC for politician's agendas designed 

May 29, 2019 08:54 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Sheri, what a moving post, a tear came while reading.  Cannot imagine having my child going overseas.   Great post.

May 29, 2019 07:09 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Love, love, love your story, Sherri! I am from a family of servicemen as well - brother, father, uncles, cousins and now nephews. They have all lost comrades in the line of serving our country and are all so very solemn on Memorial Day.

It is a day to show thanks to those who served and gave everything and to offer support and empathy to those who, thankfully, served & survived.  Many of them suffer survivor's guilt and it so breaks my heart. Our vets need far better care than they are currently offered - especially where mental health is concerned. 

May 29, 2019 08:42 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Forgot to mention, Rick did an amazing job on the video - they could use that video professionally, Sherri.

May 29, 2019 08:43 PM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

WONDERFUL post. I'm sorry we missed it while on vacation. This is so powerful, Sheri.  I appreciate your son's service. We lost our nephew in Afghanistan. We thought about him all day on Memorial Day - I know his mom thinks of him every minute of everyday. It is the ultimate sacrifice and it certainly is amazing how strong families can be...

May 30, 2019 02:14 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Sheri:

Thank you for this heartfelt and touching post. That is a particularly meaningful title and something many no doubt think about daily!

Jeff

May 30, 2019 05:33 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI, MRP -  It think that a mother instinctively protects their children from being in harm's way and that is nothing to feel guilty about. I am glad you no longer feel that way. 

May 31, 2019 06:42 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Joan Cox - The toughest part is there is nothing you can do to protect them. You have to let go. At least families have skype and facetime that were not available when my son was away. 

May 31, 2019 06:45 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Debe Maxwell, CRS - You said it all, there is nothing to add but the acknowledgment that our service men and women do need more and better care upon return home. Years ago PTSD was not acknowledged and swept under the rug. At least in today's world, it is out in the open which gives me hope that care will improve. BTW, my son sent us that video. He saw it first hand. It is the video that got my husband interested in UAVs. David Slack is the pilot using FPV (First Person View). This was way out there in 2012. 

May 31, 2019 07:20 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your nephew in Afghanistan. This is exactly what Memorial Day is all about. It is up to us to support those Gold Star families and others who have lost those close to them to war. 

May 31, 2019 07:42 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Thank you, Jeff Dowler, CRS.  It hit me hard when I realized my son was helping bury fellow brothers and sisters who have come back home to be laid to rest. 

May 31, 2019 07:47 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Sheri, for sharing this special post.

Have a great Friday and an outstanding weekend.

May 31, 2019 08:09 AM