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Motivational Monday...Your Self Worth

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Motivational Monday...Your Self Worth

 

This week, my niece and I were talking about her oldest son who has just just a thoughtentered Middle School.  If memory serves, this can be a tough time for most kids. 

You’re no longer a big fish in a small puddle but rather a minnow in a large lake. There are new kids to get to know and older ones whose sole purpose (it seems) is to do what they can to make you want to shrink away. 

I’m exaggerating but for anyone who has low self-esteem, this can not just be a difficult period but one that could impact how they fare in life down the road. 

 

Self-worth, self-esteem, confidence...these are all traits that if you are a parent could be one of the best gifts you could give to them.

Some tips, and not just for your children but to help you if your self-esteem could use a boost…

~Find a sport, hobby, craft, skill that your child (0r you) enjoy and focus on it!  Celebrate your achievements. 

 

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~Let the first words out of your mouth be Go for it if your child wants to try something (as long as it isn’t dangerous or illegal)

~Don’t use comparisons. We’re all good at different things. If it’s your child or yourself stop right now comparing them or yourself to how someone else does.  

~Focus on the positive. Quit dragging yourself down with what you can’t do, or what you did wrong. Look at what steps you can take the next time. What would you do differently?

Most of us go through periods where our self-esteem takes a hit.  If your or your child’s self-worth could use a boost, try these tips! 

Hey...We’re all worth it!

 

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Comments(40)

Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Kathy,  I guess I was lucky with my parents having a restaurant next to the school and so many kids knew me from there that I had a lot of self confidence all the time.

 

Sep 16, 2019 11:31 AM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Hah! Middle school is hard to attend and even harder to teach!

But EVERYTHING is about our relationship with OURSELVES.

That's why I have always advocated charm/personal development classes for ALL! And start 'em younger than pre-pubescence.

We develop character before 8 years old!

Sep 16, 2019 02:05 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy Streib,

It has been a long time since I had kids in middle school but we just put our grandson into Montessori pre-school and we are concentrating on getting along with others and sharing. 

Sep 16, 2019 04:28 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Barbara Todaro What saved me in high school was being in the drill team. I had a built in support group. 

Wayne Martin it's so important to be supportive, especially of our young ones. 

Sheila Anderson my personal opinion is that self esteem goes a long way in warding off being swayed by other at school. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:10 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Sham Reddy CRS and thank you!!!

Michael Jacobs we see the after-effects of those with low self-esteem, don't we. 

Nina Hollander my mother was similar. If I got an A- she wondered why I didn't get an A. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:15 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Thank you so much Norma J. Elkins it's so important to give this gift to your children. 

Donald Urschalitz good for you!!! And good for your daughter. It's so important to give them that support. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:17 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Thank you Scott Godzyk I know that you are very supportive of your daughter and her athletic teams. 

Kat Palmiotti we have to give these to our children so they can face the pressures out there. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:22 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR your posts are always so supportive of all of your children and grandchildren. No wonder they go on to do so well. 

Oh Carol Williams if only all of us and all parents past and present could understand how important it is to give our children the confidence to go out and face the world. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:26 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD our good friend's daughter found her confidence in twirling and going to competitions around the country and later as a member of Auburn's flag team. And, btw, she's only 4'9" tall. 

Dan Hopper I agree. We are all so important in many different ways. We can help our children find their worth. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:30 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Sharon Lee I am so sorry.  I could do no wrong in my dad's eyes but my mother was more critical. 

Brian England he is my niece's youngest son and he did break that board!

Ron and Alexandra Seigel it is a critical period. With a healthy dose of self worth, it can help young ones from falling into the wrong crowd. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:38 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Ricki Eichler McCallum too often children or even adults lack encouragement from others to try something. It's so important. 

George Souto middle school is tough because they're not little kids anymore but not quite old enough to drive or do a lot of other things. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:41 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Grant Schneider most parents look back and see where they may have gone wrong but you're right...there's no real and practical handbook for this. You do your best and actually, that's all anyone can ask for. 

That was very lucky Will Hamm !!!!

Sep 16, 2019 05:45 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Candice A. Donofrio I'm laughing because my Girl Scout troop had some kind of class like that, and I think I went to some kind of charm class. I read somewhere that they're trying to offer these for adults!!!   Middle school must be hard to teach because that's when they look at you with a look that says "you are so dumb.'

 

Sep 16, 2019 05:52 PM
Candice A. Donofrio

I conducted personal development workshops for many years, ages 'kids' through 'corporate' through 3 different modeling/charm schools. (I can behave if I choose!)
We learned everything from how to get in and out of a vehicle gracefully to how to ascend/descend stairs, proper etiquette in all situations and how to order the right wine and use the right utensils at a dinner party. And many other things! Social graces are sorely lacking in our world.

Sep 16, 2019 06:15 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® it's so important to get them started on this aspect of life...sharing and getting along. 

Sep 16, 2019 05:53 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Morning Kathy.

Not being confident is something I've never really experienced.  Sometimes I'm over confident. 

Sep 17, 2019 01:01 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Kathy Streib, middle school is a tough period for many children. It is so important for us to lead them through..never..ever..ever compare yourself with others whether be in the middle school or later on in life.

Sep 17, 2019 06:38 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I just wish I had the confidence and self esteem I had when was five. It would have been President Paul Henderson Kathy Streib 

Sep 17, 2019 10:17 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

My son and his family moved this year. Jack and Thomas just started school in a new town. I was so concerned for them...so worried they wouldn't like it or have a problem fitting in. Happy to report they did very well and seem to really like the school. YEAHHHH!

Sep 20, 2019 05:53 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Interesting with all the emphasis on self-esteem for the last 30 plus years, many who are now adults have a negative image of self worth.  Much can be explained by the negative conditioning received as toddlers - don't touch, etc. Then these young children turn into can't adults.

Oct 15, 2019 07:36 AM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Good teaching points to bolster self esteem in youngsters.  Thanks, Kathy!

Oct 15, 2019 01:56 PM